How do I get outta this?

alice&arik wrote: I have decided to break up with my BF for several different reasons and I am not going to list them all because it would be too long. Anyway since I have told him how I feel he has been begging me to stay here. I have told him over and over it isn't gonna work and I am tired of giving him chances. He keeps asking me to give him another chance and he will change and he will do this and this. But it is just hard enough to find my own place and everything, then with him on my back all the time makes it worse. I just don't feel anything for him anymore, I told him we could be friends still and he said if I can't love him then he doesn't want to be my friend. He is such a jerk. He always starts crying and sobbing and making this big scene, but I can't help but feel that it is all a show, like he is faking it. We have only been together for maybe 6 months. I know it will be hard on Arik because he calls him Daddy, but Arik can't hold our relationship together. And I told my BF that. But he doesn't listen to anything I say, he still tries to hug me and kiss me and all that, and it is like..uh get away.

Anyone have any ideas? I just thought maybe some suggestions on how to deal with this or tips? TIA!!

momof2girls replied: Tell him to get out, change the lock, toss his stuff out...
If you dont love him, no reason to waste your time.
Im real nice huh??

alice&arik replied:
That is what I would do if it were my place, but the lease is in his name and it is way too expensive for me. Yeah I would say you are pretty nice.

momof2girls replied: oops I guess I read that too fast.
Well then you leave and just tell him no its over.... is there someone you can stay with until you get your own place?

alice&arik replied:
No not really. I havn't found a job yet, I had like 3 interviews this week and no luck, so I am still looking. So if I stayed with someone it would be like 3 or 4 weeks and that is too much to ask of anyone.

momof2girls replied: Well hon maybe your stuck there for a lil while then. Im sorry that really is no fun.
I hope you get a job soon and then you can say See ya!

MommyToAshley replied: Just leave. As soon as you find a place, leave and don't tell him where you live. You have been honest with him about how you feel and he is not respecting how you feel.

Good Luck, I hope you find a job and a place to live real soon!

amynicole21 replied: Wow - that's a tough one. Once you find a job and apartment it will be so much easier, but for now I'm not sure what to tell you I'm sorry... wish I could be more help.

Are you sure you want to stay in the town you live in now? Could you move back to where the rest of your family lives?

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I agree that although it may be hard until you get a job, you might just want to stay until you do find a job and an apartment. I'm sorry you have to go through this, it's not easy.

coasterqueen replied: I agree with Amy, are you sure you want to stay in that town? I would stay there until you get a job and just leave. I wouldn't be so honest with him on those plans, though.

Boys r us replied: If you don't want to be with him then, I suggest you help him get his things out..or get your things out..whichever and dont' talk to him, don't answer his calls..nothing! Just be done!

A&A'smommy replied: (((HUGS)))) That would be hard! As far as advice I wouldn't know what to do, I guess you just have to keep looking for a job (very seriously) and maybe find a subsidized apartment. Sometimes you can find an apartment like that and get PAID to live there they pay everything and then you can find a job and start paying your own bills and stuff. I actually knew of someone that did that in the townhouses that I live in they eventually got married and moved though. She had 8 kids and wanted more!

KatieLeigh79 replied: I'm not sure where you reside atm state wise but if your in or near MI and need a place to stay we can help you out (I know it sounds strange, but I have helped out a lot of women in my area with children leaving relationships) or if not let me know if there is anything else I can help you with!

Kaitlin'smom replied: GET OUT.....find someone to help you even if it means getting out of that town. The longer you stay and put it off the worst it will be.

alice&arik replied: Thanks for the advice guys! I am in Missouri right now and all my family lives in Minnesota, I just moved down here a few months ago. That was a big mistake. I like this area, and I have one sister that isn't too far away in Arkansas. I guess I will just keep looking for a job, I just wish someone would call me back on those interviews. and an apartment won't be too hard to find when I do get a job. I just hope it is really soon!!