How RUDE

Josie83 wrote: Gosh I can't believe I nearly forgot to put this up. Someone was so rude to me the other day. Do you know, I hate this sort of rudeness too. Okay so maybe Jason and I weren't very old when we had Cassie, but what difference should that make? The way I see it is she's doing okay. She's happy and everything. Okay so anyway, I was out with her and i bumped into this woman who used to know my mother, I haven't seen her since I was about thirteen. She made the usual smalltalk and then asked me if I was babysiting (meaning Cassie). I said not exactly and told her that Cassie was mine. When she found out that she was three she was going "aren't you a little bit young to have a child whose nearly three" and "you're only a child yourself" and then to top it off "did your mother not offer to bring her up for you?" I KID YOU NOT! I just said "no, there's no reaosn why I wouldn't bring her up myself" grabbed Cassie and grabbed her off. I mean seriously, I was fuming. How dare she say that?! I HATE it when people presume I am some sort of slut who got herself into trouble just because I don't look very old xx

akbutterfly83 replied: I'm sorry.... that lady was very rude.....

Don't pay any attention to her.... she don't know anything.... and aleast you didn't go off on her... I would have....

way to keep your kool and just walk away....

And you guys are doing a wonderful job bringing her up....

your not too young..... it's everyones own prefrence when to start a family... it's no ones place too tell you that your a bit young and that your mother should be raising her..... your mom already had her children, and raised them... if she wanted another to raise, then she would have had more....

But your doing great... a wonderful job... keep it up....

JessC replied: That lady was very rude and disrespectful. I can't believe she would say such a thing.
WELL its good that you don't talk with her much, she would probley say worse things. Just ignore her. Shes wrong, maybe she is even jealous a little, who knows.
Anyways its YOUR decision to have kids whenever you want! It sounds like your doing just fine anyways.

5littleladies replied: That was extremely rude. I started having my kids at age 19 (I was 18 when I got pregnant) and it was how we planned it. I got looks and comments-still do since I still look quite young. You just have to ignore it. You know that you are doing a good job and that is all that matters. I hate that people assume that just because a person is young that they are incapable of being a good parent-I know of some people who waited until later in life to have children and they are NOT good parents. It really depends on the person. Forget about what that lady said-She is just ignorant.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm sorry to hear that

ppl. used to think Hubby and I were brother and sister lol

Lollie replied: Im so sorry that cow was so rude to you!!

I get alot of that!If they dont say anything its the way they stare at me pushing Bri in her stroller and with my big belly.Who the hell are they anyway!!!

3forme replied: I am sorry...that WAS RUDE! I hate it when people act that way because someone is younger or younger looking. Like they didn't have sense enough because of their age. Does that make sense? ONLY YOU know what is best for you.

MomToMany replied: Wow, Josie, I can't believe she said that ! You would've seen smoke coming out of my ears! I had my first at 16, so I know all about those "looks". Luckily no one ever said anything to me.

texasp3 replied: Oooooooooooo... that would have tripped my trigger! Grrrr... I was 22 when Michael was born - hello? not THAT young... but I looked about 14... on a all-grown-up day. Man, I used to get all kinds of looks and all kinds of comments! There is just no stopping some people from being mean and rude, I guess.

Now I get the Most Bizarre looks ever when I'm walking around Walmart with my 15 year old and my 11 month old. Especially since Micheal takes such good care of Gabriel and is often carrying him and talking to him... we've had people think he's the Dad and I'm the grandmother. Oooooh - thanks A LOT! So, I had to put up with people thinking I was a child bride with the first, and them thinking I'm the grandmother with the second.

Who cares, eh?? We love our beautiful children and that's what matters!

By the way... biologically, your best childbearing years are between the ages of 18 and 23. HO HO! Didn't stop me from having one at 37!!

ferocity302 replied: I hear ya!

I was 23 when I had my son and people still looked at me like I was a teenager and glared at my ex husband like he was a baby snatcher or something.

My mom was only 16 when she had my brother. My parents will soon be married 40 years and all of us kids were very loved and grew up in a household that was extremely loving.

You go girl!

A&A'smommy replied: grrrrrr I was 17 when I had alyssa and I had only been 18 for a week when i had her I understand how INSULTING that is!!!

texasp3 replied: You know.. the more women who were/are young mom's respond to this... the more I find myself wondering how we got so hung up about this. Good grief... women used to have kids in their mid to late teens ALL THE TIME. In fact, the old biddies would have been shaking their heads and tsk-tsking if you HADN'T had a kid by 18! Lord knows, if you weren't at least MARRIED by then you were destined to be a spinster!

It's amazing how much has changed in a relatively short period of time.

3boys4me replied: That is just nuts!!! Where does she get off asking you those questions??? So rude!

loveydad replied: Oh my GOODNESS that is RUDE! My son gets crap from people all the time since he has two kids (oh are those your siblings?, No my kids, oh my gosh! You must have your parents raising them) uh no. As for just being a kid yourself? I don't think so. Henry's not a kid himself and he's 17. He ceased being so a LONG time ago.

Josie83 replied: Thanks everyone. I wa spretty annoyed but have a lot of things on my mind. One of my new year's resolutions is to bite my tongue more! I just couldn't be bothered wit her. Thanks for all the support. I know that what she was saying is basically boll*ks, but still rude. Goodness! xx