Holidays

holley79 wrote: Ok here we with Thanksgiving and Christmas fast approaching.

How do most of you spend the holidays? Do you have to travel?

DH has a lot of family in the area plus my parents. DH has a dad that raised him, his biodad and his mom. No one can get along. EVERY year we spend our time on the road.

Well my due date is Jan 4th. I'm going to be HUGE come Christmas. Both DH's dad's live about an hour from us, in the opposite direction of the hospital.

Last ???? Is it wrong of me to want to spend Christmas at my home inside of driving to BFE? My parents are the only ones so far that have said they were going to have Christmas here if I didn't feel like leaving the house.

aspenblue1 replied: I would tell them you need to stay home close to the hospital. I wouldn't want to do all that traveling that close to my due date.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I think it's perfectly okay to demand you stay home for Christmas. I would be worried to drive out of town too being so close to your due date.

We don't have family in town, so my FIL is actually the only one coming here for Turkey Day...and then we're going out to California for Hannukah after Christmas on the 28th (through New Years)...so Christmas will be just the three of us here at our house. We like it small and cozy! Our families don't mind! If they did, I would say, well then come here because it gets so dang expensive for us flying to their house!

Boys r us replied: We have a hectic holiday schedule and it starts this coming weekend!

We were supposed to go to NYC for Thanksgiving and take the kids to the Macy's day parade and iceskating and stuff...but the girl who was going to come to babysit for us while we went out with some friends we have who live there, she couldn't come. The only reason we were really going was b/c our friends are moving here in January and it was really the time that we were going to be able to all go visit together and the thought of Thanksgiving dinner at Carmine's Italian makes my mouth water..but it's a no go now!

Sorry about my tangent! Anyhow..this weekend, our friends from NYC are coming in and all of our other friends(about 30 of us), we're all getting together to have our traditional "friends" thanksgiving on Sunday.

Then the next weekend, Turkey again at my parents house b/c she likes to make a turkey dinner for our immed. family b/c on thanksgiving, we're at Rick's parents and then my mom's parents..man..hectic!!!!

Then xmas..I don't even feel like thinking about yet! It's even worse than thanksgiving!

but luckily, all of our holiday celebrating is within 10 minutes.

mckayleesmom replied: My mom is suppose to come for Thanksgiving....we are going to Florida to the IL's for Xmas and next year we will reverse it probably.

ions_momma replied: We travel down to my home town for a while and then down to DH's home town which is an hour away from my hometown. We usually stay down there for about a week around Christmas and New Years and just travel back and forth between the two towns visiting family and friends.


I think you should just tell them that you need to be home and close to your hospital for Christmas. If your due date is on the 4th of January, that baby could come anytime around then and you need to be close. They should all understand.

coasterqueen replied: We always do Thanksgiving at my parents house w/all my dad's family, just down the road. It's been at other family homes in the past, but usually at my mom's. Dh's dad decided to do Thanksgiving this year, but not going, sticking to my original routine.

Thanksgiving night we go to Dh's cousins and spend all Thanksgiving weekend making candy. Those Italians LOVE to cook so we make candy and eat, eat, eat. Oh my diet will be blown out the window. Oh well, it's always good food and good fun. Kylie will hopefully get to make candy this year.

Christmas Eve is always with Dh's family. Christmas Day is at my grandma's and since she's very ill and more than likely not going to make it longer we definitely will go there. Christmas evening is w/my parents and then Dh's cousins.

We then do Christmas with my dad's family another weekend. But my aunt Nita is the one who always held this event and since she killed herself earlier this year not sure how the holidays will be. oh, I think I was trying to block this out of my mind. Thanksgiving is going to be hard

5littleladies replied: I get sick of trying to decide which family we are going to spend Thanksgiving with and since last years' "have-both-sides-over-to-our-house" idea didn't work out so well, we are skipping both families and heading over to Sara and Scott's house for Thanksgiving dinner. Yay! I'm excited to have a stress free holiday for once!

For Christmas we switch back and forth on Christmas Eve and Christmas day. This year we will spend Christmas Eve with Jason's family, then we will get up bright and early on Christmas morning to open gifts at home with the kids and then we will head over to my parents house for more gift opening and Christmas dinner. It has the potential to be exhausting but so far has worked out fine.

Alice replied: Why not put out the word that, from this point onward, you'll be doing Christmas at YOUR house. As of Jan 4 (or thereabouts) you'll have a child to consider. In my humble opinion, kids deserve to spend Christmas morning at home with all their toys-- how mean to have to get all this great stuff, then leave it all behind.

So the new tradition starts now. Everyone is invited, but Christmas morning is at your home.

Each year my mom does a huge Christmas Eve (w/ my bro and sisters and all our kids, it's 38 immediate family). Then everyone is home for Christmas day... we all have our inlaws (and mom goes to whomever she wants). The inlaws get all the other holidays--Thanksgiving, Father's Day, Easter....

Jamison'smama replied: My family is 13 hours away so Thanksgiving is always here with friends. For Christmas we ALWAYS travel the 13 hours (usually I fly and DH drives) to Oklahoma with presents in tow to spend the holiday with the people we love. We can't just insist everyone come here because we all have children to surprise on Christmas morning so we take all the gifts and have one big Santa fest on Christmas morning.

Last Christmas was the ONLY exception thus far as I was due on January 3rd so everyone came here, I rented a cabin near here and we had a good old fashioned day! I think being that pregnant, there has to be some consessions but really, I wouldn't stress too much about it. If you are more comfortable staying at home, by all means do it!!! I think everyone should understand.

3xsthefun replied: Well I have alot of family. We usually go to one of my grandparents house for Thanksgiving. Last year we went to his sister house though. I'm hoping just to have something at our house this year.

Now, Christmas time is a different story. We go to one of my grandparents house for Christmas eve and then the others on Christmas day. We usually go to my parents house on Christmas eve and then hubby's parents house on Christmas. We are out and about alot on those 2 days.

kimberley replied: make them all come to your house for christmas. i am due dec 21 and have a tendency to go late so everyone knows they will not see me at their door come christmas. it is ridiculous imo to expect a very pg person to travel all over "visiting". my ILs and my dads gf are planning to even bring christmas dinner cooked at their house and brought here. so i just have to set the table