Hey Everyone! - Not an April Fool's Joke LOL
luvmykids wrote: It's been a long time, I pop in every once in awhile to check in to see what goes on that I don't read on facebook
I thought I'd better explain myself LOL...I am in fact single now. I have been putting off changing that but figured today would be a good day to do it because everyone would think it was a joke instead of this cheesy announcement 
Anyway, you old timers here know it's been a long time coming. We filed in September (well, he filed, on our anniversary  ) and it was final last month. We're still in the same house because he's supposed to be leaving for Houston to do some work for awhile and I think we've both had about enough of that.
The kids are ok, I don't think it will hit them until he is actually gone, they know about the divorce but since life at home hasn't really changed I don't think they've been able to fully understand.
It's been devastating, I'm heartbroken for what it means for the kids and letting go of something I really believed could work but over the last year too many things have happened to even think of trying to stay.
I hadn't said anything on facebook because of certain people there but now it's out in the open.
Anywhooo....hope everyone is well and I will stop in more often!
lovemy2 replied: 
Swood75 replied: Wow..I had no idea Monica..Sorry things didn't work out..When/if you are ever ready again,I am sure you will find the right guy for you! You are an awesome Mom and person!
coasterqueen replied: I am so sorry, Monica. I honestly and was HOPING you were joking due to April Fools. 
cameragirl21 replied: You are a strong woman, Monica. God bless.
luvmykids replied: Thanks. I hate it, hate saying I'm divorced and hate when people who didn't know find out and ask me about it...
He filed then changed his mind. I tried to give it one more chance but he just wasn't willing to make good on his promises.
msoulz replied:
CantWait replied:
This!
jcc64 replied: I'm so sorry, hon, but I think you already know in your heart that it's the right thing for all of you.
my2monkeyboys replied: I know the kids will be ok.... they have a GREAT mom to help them through!!!
moped replied: Sorry Mon....you know where to find me if you want an ear or a "shoulder"
luvmykids replied:
Very much so  There are some of the normal marriage issues, and some that go WAY beyond that. It's a very surreal time emotionally....sad, mad, relieved, hurt, excited, you name it.
But yes, it is for the best for everyone involved. I fought that for a long time, feeling like too many people cop out with that but in this case, it's true and for the most part I'm at peace with that.
~Roo'sMama~ replied: I'm so sorry Monica! I remembered that he had filed and then changed his mind, but I thought everything was ok now. I'm sorry!
Calimama replied: I'm so sorry. You are beautiful, smart, and offer SO much. You'll find someone who appreciates you and loves you for that.
3xsthefun replied: I'm so sorry Monica. I had no idea.
jcc64 replied:
Just remind yourself of this in weaker moments, Monica. You did give this marriage every possible chance, and sometimes, there is no other solution than to part ways and start over again. How you handle the aftermath with dh, how civil you can manage to keep it, the confidence in your decision that you project for your kids, your faith in your decision, all of this will determine how easy or hard it will be for the kids. The best gift you can give them is to find a way to keep it friendly with their dad. It's a Herculean task, I know, but you're not doing it for him, you're doing it for them. Best of luck, hon.
MommyToAshley replied:
You are beautiful, smart, strong and the best Mom I have ever "met"... I have no doubt that you and the kids will be fine.
luvbug00 replied: I know just how u feel.. I'm here if u need an ear..your gonna get threw this.
mckayleesmom replied: sorry you are going through this Monica. You are a great mom and that in itself will make everything alright for your kids. Tons of hugs to you.
youngmomofone replied: I'm so sorry to hear about the divorce.
paradisemommy replied: you know i'm always here for ya if ya need a shoulder (a cyber one  )
A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry girl!!
ediep replied: so sorry to hear this.
PrairieMom replied: I'm sorry.
Dennis and kids replied: This is surely a challenging time for all in your home. I remember when my wife was still alive, and also having to separate with 3 young kids in the house. She suddenly passed away, and left 3 young children. From that point, my life was dedicated to my children and becoming the best I could be at the same time.
Maybe take this as an opportunity to reassess life...we all know it's not easy. This is a great place to connect with others...
Sarah&Mackenzie replied: Sorry to hear this Monica
Maddie&EthansMom replied: I kind of knew deep down that it wasn't a joke. (mainly b/c I know you well enough to know you wouldn't joke about something like that.)
Monica, no one would doubt your faithfulness to Jeff throughout your marriage. You are an amazing woman, mom and friend. I'm so very happy to know you. I somehow feel this is a good step for you and the kids. I'm sure it's not easy, but you are strong and you will make it!!
Love you!!
moped replied:
Yes I agree 100%.....I just don't know how to express myself like Aimee 
luvmykids replied: Thank you Aimee, and everyone. I believe this is good to, and that someday (soon) it will FEEL that way too. I do already feel a small sense of relief and really think once I don't have to live with him I will feel even more that way. Right now it's a strange combination of knowing we are divorced but still living the same family life we always have. I know the hardest part for the kids will be that same time though...I dread it and can't wait at the same time.
As much as this part of the process sucks, I know what's ahead will be worth it.
~Roo'sMama~ replied:
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