He's lost it...

holley79 wrote: Last month Brandon's car broke down on his way to reserve training in Mobile. He had ran the car hot because he did not check the fluids. Instead of calling his dad or I he called Dh's Brother on the other side of Mobile. He was only about 15 miles out of Pensacola. Well my BIL towed Brandon's car for him to BIL's house. Three hours later Brandon calls us. (BIL had no clue he hadn't called us yet.) Well there wasn't much we could do. This was the day I spent majority at the ER. Well BIL told Brandon he was going to have to reimburse him for the car dolly and the gas to tow it. Sounds reasonable. Well Brandon totally blew him off and BIL called us. We thought all was taken care of. We were SO embarrassed. We went ahead and paid all the charges and got things taken care of for Brandon.

**Fast forward to today**

I got an email from Brandon on Myspace. He has the Military Ball for NJROTC coming up next Saturday. (This is the first we heard of this. Brandon has this issue of not telling us stuff till the last minute.) Well he emailed me to ask me to use my truck to take his date to the Military Ball. Well number one he hasn't been driving very long. Number two this is our only mode of transportation. Number three I am liable if he were (God forbid) wreck the truck, injury himself or anyone else. I emailed him back and explained to him that it was our only vehicle at the moment and we could not be without a vehicle just in case anything happened.

His response was: "Whatever"

I mean was I really that unreasonable in my reason not to allow him to use MY vehicle? He lives not but 5 miles from where the ball is. We live 25 miles. He lives with his mom who has a vehicle. Why can she not take him, pick up his date and take them drop them off at the ball. Or if that isn't suffice for him why not ask HER to borrow HER vehicle. Why do I have to be made the bad guy.

I'm sorry this got long. I just don't understand why at 18 he has to be the way he is. He wants to be treated as an adult but if he doesn't get his way then he acts like a child. UGGGG Ok thanks for letting me vent. Anyone want an 18 year old.

sparkys2boys replied: You would think that at 18 he would be more mature.. I agree with all that you said. You should not give him your vehicle. Is the only time that he talks to you is if he needs something? It's sad that at his age he is so much like a child. And NO.. I don't want an 18 yr old.. i'm threating insantity tonight with the boys here

moped replied: It just wasn't the response he wanted to hear.......he knows it was a silly question.

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh wow. Thats pretty sad that he treats you that way. I think your being resonable about not allowing him to take your vehicle.

holley79 replied:
Pretty much the only time we hear from him anymore is when he wants money. He knew his uncle would be calling us and really put us in the hot seat there. He doesn't call DH unless it's for something. I'm over it. I know kids are like this at times but I figured with him being in the reserves (Army) getting ready to be out of high school and full time military that he would have matured a little. The boy has been through boot camp for goodness sakes.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Sorry to hear that Holley, I hope the time in the military will change him and help him to mature some.

kimberley replied: *shudders* i fear the teen years.

i think you were perfectly reasonable with your explanation and his mother should give up her wheels. sorry he's being like that.

JadensMama05 replied: I remember when I was like that, not about cars tho.. And I was 15.. Sorry to hear he's being like that. Two of my best guy friends, the most immature people I ever knew, have been in the Guard for 4 years and are currently in Iraq. After Basic they didnt matter much, a lot of crazy stuff happened while they were training but after AIT, they seemed older... Now it's like talking to men, and they're both 22 so.. ya never know! Good luck with Brandon

Calimama replied:
Ditto!


I would have done the same thing hun!

CantWait replied: My question is: Why at 18 and in the military can he not take responsibility for himself??

holley79 replied:
This is what my SIL and I were talking about last night on my way home. I know he is still in High School and doing the weekend thing till he graduates but he's been through bootcamp, he's with older people when he's at his reserve training, yet he still acts like a 13 year old. We have come to the conclusion he is in for a VERY rude awakening when he goes active duty.

lisar replied:
I agree. It just wasnt the answer he wanted.

CantWait replied:
I agree

lesliesmom replied: It's not just your 18yo. I have a SD who's 18. Still in highschool (was supposed to graduate in 2006, didn't. Was supposed to graduate in March of this year now the online grade site is saying 2008). Only calls when she needs money. Lives with her BF (her stepdad kicked her out - mom never fought to keep her there). Won't work (doesn't want to do anything menial.. things she can get a kushy well paying office job with a diploma). BF has to work 2 jobs to support them. The reality checks just keep nailing her but she doesn't seem to get it. Hopefully it sinks in for Brandon before active duty. Good luck!