Heeeellllp! - PT regression

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: Okay, Wil has been in underwear now for maybe a week and a half. Huge progress. He was doing so good, but now refuses to go potty. He will use the potty, but usually has a mini-accident in his underwear first. Luckily he does get the poop in the potty. I'm trying not to "push", but I REFUSE to go back to pullups. He wears a pullup for bedtime, since he isn't night trained yet, so this morning I asked him to please take it off and get on his underwear and he said "no, I want to wear diaper". Oh GOD you guys!! What do I do now????????? HELP



He's watching cartoons right now and it's been like an hour since he's gone. I don't want to ask him to go, because he fights me. But I don't know what to do at this point............

lisar replied: Oh I know how you feel. Raygen has been in big girl pants since jan 1st and she is doing good but at first she was like that. I think give it some time he will get alot better at it.

lovemy2 replied: I used to put a "big girl potty" out in front of the TV at first - just for her to sit on and get used to....maybe try bringing the potty to him....

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Oh that's so funny you typed this, because I actually JUST did this!!! We have the little potty in our room, upstairs, so I grabbed it and put it right by the tv downstairs. I told him "Wil, I'm putting the little potty right here if you want to use it" and he said "okay", no argument.

See Wil has never been afraid of using the big potty though, so I don't think that's it. But I wonder if maybe since he is having accidents, he is feeling ashamed that he isn't making it into the bathroom on time. Oh I wish I knew how their little minds worked! Maybe having the little potty closer will help. I will let you know! Thanks

luvmykids replied: Lots of kids, especially his age, don't want to stop whatever fun they're having to go potty. The fact that he said he "wants" a diaper makes me think that might be the case, at least partly.

I know it sounds mean, but considering that he does know how to go potty, etc, you could try not changing him right after an accident. He won't like that feeling for very long

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
I think this is exactly what's happening. Wil LOVES tv, and playing his games, so he has a hard time transitioning to something else. And I'm doing what you are suggesting and just letting him go to the potty when HE wants too. The reminding him every 30 minutes has lost it's effect. Timer doesn't work anymore either.

As far as letting him sit in his accident, he takes off his wet underwear himself though and then asks me for a new pair. I try not to make a big deal about it, but then I'm wondering if he thinks mom will just change him like I would a diaper! Ugh. This is so hard.

bawoodsmall replied: How old is Will? I forget 3?

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
He is 3.5, four end of August. He knows how to go potty and we have come very far in the past two weeks, but for some reason he is fighting it big time today. He just had two major accidents in his pants. So right now he is naked. I'm hoping he won't like the feeling and decide to use the pot instead.

luvmykids replied: Hang in there, Rae . Someday it does get better

bawoodsmall replied: I agree it will get better. Can you tell him that if he chooses not to go potty he cant watch his favorite show or something. I have a tendency to be a little more strict than most though so if this is not an option then just wait it out. I do understand the war of the wills and I have not potty trained aiden so I will be going crazy when that happens too.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Tanner didn't get fun stuff when he would do that. It wasn't a "do you need to go?", it was "you need to go try now". Asking them gives them the option to say no. Just keep doing what you're doing. After all this, I wouldn't go back to pull ups. That would just tell him he has won control over the situation. Kids are naturally lazy, of course they don't want to go to the potty...why bother when you can just do it in your pants and have someone clean you up?

Calimama replied:
I agree. Maybe knowing he'd get to watch his shows AFTER he goes would motivate him to want to go? Good luck!

My2Beauties replied:
ITA!

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: I am also pretty strict on that. Matt finally got to the point where he was crying asking for a diaper. he was fully capable of using the toilet and I had no intention of letting him be back in diapers. after he finally got it through his head that he would have to play by my rules (be PT'd) he was. it just took him realizing that I was not going to back down.