Have you ever bought something even - though Dh didn't really want you to?

coasterqueen wrote: Have you ever bought something that you know your DH didn't really want or want you to get? Or maybe do something in general your DH/SO didn't want you to do?

I have been wanting to do some things to our yard for some time now but I have a L A Z Y husband when it comes to landscaping our acreage. I can't get him to get rid of the weeds in the grass and make it nice, etc, etc. He always says it takes too much money, we have too much land, etc. Which is fine, he's right but I want to do things small, here and there when we have a little money. I went on a whining fit a few weeks ago that I want our land to look more 'lived in' instead of looking just like a bunch of acreage as it does now. I told him how important it was to me for this to happen, even if it takes years to be done. Well he's 'entertained' my whining and planning/ideas of what I want to do, but hasn't really gone any farther than that. We went shopping yesterday and looked at some trees, plants, but he acted like we needed a truck to buy the stuff (wouldn't fit in the van) so we didn't.

WELL today I went out at lunch, he went with me but wasn't happy about it, and bought two fairly small trees (on sale). One of the trees he wanted me to get because it's for Megan's 1st birthday (I know several weeks late ) to plant as her birthday tree. The other one, he doesn't want me to get because it's part of my "plan" to beautify this one area of the acreage in back. BUT I DID IT ANYWAYS. He was grumpy and didn't say much, but he did load it in my van. Course he kept saying it wasn't going to fit and my reply was "I'LL MAKE IT FIT!" Which I did, but I had to take it home at lunch because it really didn't fit well.

So this was, I guess, the first time I bought something DH really didn't want me to do. Course there will be more because the one area I'm sprucing up will need some smaller plants. I just have to wait til I save up more money.

On the way home from dropping the trees off I felt a little guilty. I know he'll get over it because it's not like it was the end of the world and the two trees WERE cheap. Course now I have to figure a way to butter him up so he'll dig the holes and plant them. Otherwise, it'll be me doing it.

Kittilicious replied: I buy rose bushes every year and try to plant them... each year they die. Hubby gets crabby every year when I buy more but I just keep saying "one of these years I'll get it right!"

amynicole21 replied: I'd say just about EVERYTHING I buy is against DH's wishes Mr. El Cheapo is hard to please

MamaJAM replied: I have never bought anything that DH didn't want me to.

luvbug00 replied: EVERY DAY!! but he can bite me. I work hard for my money and if I feel it's benifital to the family i'll get it.

C&K*s Mommie replied: I am sure I have. Actually I am postive.

I want to buy some a large tree for the front yard to block the morning sun, even though Chris does not want any trees at all in our yard. I am going to do it soon, it will be one of the several ways we can help reduce the cooling costs during the summer.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I really can't remember if I have or not.

He's not too keen on me spending money at all so probably just about everything I buy he is against in one way or another.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: OMG! DH and I had just about the same thing going on at our house this weekend! I'm sorry for what you went through, but hey, you both make the money...you don't always have to agree on where it's spent IMO. Don't feel guilty. It's not like you hired a landscaper to do a $5,000 job or anything. But I know what you're going through.

Anyhow, my DH has been talking about getting a flatscreen TV for our bedroom. He handles our finances, so although I don't think the TV is necessary at all, I said fine, if he thinks we have the money, then go for it. So over the weekend, I was out shopping and saw two great framed prints that would be perfect for our living room (which has been bare for two years) and I mentioned maybe buying them. He started complaining that we didn't have the money right now and that the prints weren't important to him . ...So I said "so HOW are you planning to pay for a new TV if we don't have money right now?" He totally got caught!! It makes me angry that when it's something HE wants, we have the $, but when it's something important to me, we don't. Sorry, I don't mean to talk about myself only...But we ended up compromising and put some money towards some new trees for the front yard. Again, DH didn't want to buy the trees because he thinks we'll move soon , but on the other hand, it totally ups the value of your home...so he liked that! He's still whining a bit about it...but OH WELL!

gr33n3y3z replied: yes lol
but he doesnt say anything bc I could do the same to him

coasterqueen replied: Glad to see I'm not alone. The one thing about my purchase is that it was my spending money I used to buy them, so for DH it wasn't a money issue what-so-ever. It was more because he doesn't want ANY trees on our property because it means he'll have to deal with them someday if they fall, etc. Also he hates to mow around trees, but he can't use that one as an argument because 9 times out of 10 I do the mowing. The only thing he can be grumpy about is having to dig the hole and plant it for me.

jcc64 replied: Please, if I waited for dh's blessing before buying anything- we'd be sitting on bean bag chairs at our cinderblock/plywood dining table, eating stuff that's been in the freezer for 4 yrs, wearing clothing we bought in the parking lots of Grateful Dead concerts 20 yrs ago.

coasterqueen replied:
Girl! You have me rolling today!

ilovemybaby replied: No. But he is the only one with money so he has to give me the money if I want something. Whereas he would buy something without a second thought even if I said I didn't want him to buy it. For example... his car stereo packed up and he bought one of the most expensive ones on the market to replace it. He could have got one for $199. But it's his money so...

amymom replied: No But he does all the time! It really irks me. But lately (like the last three mos.) he has been good. But I think he is planning dirt bikes for the kids and we so do NOT have the money. All these toys he spends $$ on sit in the garage and then he sells them hardly even used and we lose tons of $$ on the deal.

gr33n3y3z replied:
dirt bikes sound like alot of fun

amymom replied:

Yes, and he really wants the kids to have them. He raced motocross from the time he was 12 until 20. He was an international champion. However, the canoe, the 4 wheeler, the toys of all shapes and sizes sit in the garage until they aren't worth much.

And these toys all need maintenance and hubby has no mechanical ability. Sad to say, he was a good racer TG his brothers were his mechanics, otherwise he would have had nothing to race.

Well, maybe this summer the dirtbikes will get bought we shall see

luvmykids replied: He doesn't usually have an opinion or really even notice unless it's a big ticket item, like TV or car. I think the last time we really had an issue was about 6 years ago when I bought a convertible mustang against his wishes. But I figured since we weren't married yet, it wasn't really his decision to make!

As for doing things he doesn't like, happens all the time. Was at it's all time worst last summer when Mr. Rodeo had to sit and watch his wife barrel race.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: OMG yes. The biggest one was when I went and made the appointment to have my breast reduction without telling him I was doing it. We were living together at the time, not married and the money was from an account that my grandparents set up for me for college, it was left over from school. It was totally my money to do as I pleased, but he still throws that one in my face occasionally.