Have you ever been invited

youngmomofone wrote: to a small bbq but was asked to bring your own soda, water, beer, etc and food to grill? In my family the host provides everything, so it's weird to be told to bring our own stuff. Beer I get, but water and meat is a little weird.

Nina J replied: Not for a small bbq. For a large bbq, we are often asked to bring a salad and some meat to grill.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Most of the BBQ's we go to are bring your own meat and a dish to pass, drinks are sometimes provided. Meat is expensive, so everyone bringing their own just makes sense for our group of friends... so it seems normal to me! The only exception is if it's a birthday party for one of our kids. Like for Andrew's birthday we're going to grill burgers and hotdogs, and we'll take care of all the food because it's our kid's birthday.

CantWait replied: Yup I have! Just among friends, you know "hey bring some meat this weekend and we'll have a bbq".

Drink though (other than booze) that just seems odd to me.

PrairieMom replied: That sounds normal to me. i have been to quite a few BBQs like that. It just helps the hostess cut down on cost.

stella6979 replied: No matter who's hosting I always bring a side dish and if I plan to drink I'll bring my own but I've never been asked to bring my own meat. If we are the ones hosting the BBQ I personally wouldn't ask anyone to bring meat but I will have them bring their own alcohol if that's what they want to drink.

coasterqueen replied:
Same here.

We've hosted these types before for even small bbq's among friends. Before we had kids we'd invite our group of friends over telling them to bring their own meat and drinks if they didn't want whatever drink we provided. A lot of times we'd have a keg of beer but some of our friends (including my hubby) drinks hard liquor and they drink like fish so that stuff is expensive. Also in our group of friends not everyone likes the same kind of meat so they GLADLY will bring their own.

For birthday type parties we only ask family to bring a side dish, and whatever drink you want that we aren't already providing.

MommyToAshley replied: I've been to BBQ's where they have asked that we bring a side dish to share and bring your own drinks, but I don't think I have ever been asked to bring my own meat. I usually bring a side dish/drinks whether asked or not. I don't think I would mind brining my own meat, but I've just never been asked and I would feel weird asking guests to do so if I hosted.

kit_kats_mom replied: That's all we did this weekend. Everyone brings a side dish, munchie or dessert, we bring our own alcohol and some sort of meat. Then the hosts grill it all and it's a free for all. We usually bring a bag of chips, cookies and hot dogs or burgers. The only time the meat is not all shared, is when/if someone brings a steak, then it's theirs. Otherwise, the kids all eat the hot dogs and the adults eat the chicken/burgers/brats etc. We have BBQ's with the neighbors every weekend and swim. I'd think it was weird if we went over there empty handed and just ate their food & used their pool.

Calimama replied:
Ditto!

luvbug00 replied:

ditto. but even alcohal is there when i have gone but we always bring a sidedish

MoonMama replied:
Ditto

youngmomofone replied: Wow didnt realize it was so normal . Dh and I always provided everything, and all of my family and friends provide everything so I thought it was normal to do that instead. I have no problem bringing stuff, I was just surprised.