HI - my 4yr old

NWAwifeSAHM wrote: Hi ladies, I am new here. I am a SAHM of 2. Alex 10 and Emily 4. My husband is a pilot, so I am alone 1/2 of the time with the children. Alex is my 'difficult' child. He is really smart and can be sweet, but has ADHD and ODD, so he is a handful. Emily has been pretty much an angel up until recently- she has been trying me with her attitude/mouth. FUN! NOT!

I have been watching that new Nanny show and feeling pretty good about how I parent in general, then today I totally went off on Em after she was a complete brat at church (we went up to do some of my volunteer work). I really went out of my way to make sure she was entertained, took the DVD player, snack and drink. (I don't normally take her with me, I usually try to go in when she is in preschool. But this week she had to go along because this was the only day I could go it.) She was mouthy, defiant, and all around a snot! I was embarressed, frustrated and really angry. It is just like, every now and then, she gets this little attitude and acts so spoiled. Uggggg. I feel like I am doing really good with her, then she throws me one of these super defiant 'moods' and I feel so thrown off that I don't know how to handle it. YKWIM?

Anyway, glad to have found this board. Thanks for letting me vent.

Shaunna

akbutterfly83 replied: Welcome to the board...

I'm ivy, wife to Daniel, SAHM to Mason Ray(7 weeks old)....

this is a really great place... hope you like it......

moped replied: Hi there and welcome!!!!

Can you tell me what ODD is please??????????????

NWAwifeSAHM replied: ODD is opositional defiant disorder. It is a diagnosis that often goes along with ADD/ADHD. The child with this diagnosis is defiant to all forms of authority, loves to argue everything, doesn't feel that 'rules' apply to them. My son is mildly ODD, he isn't aggressive or viloent. He will just make a good lawyer someday!

It just makes being a parent even harder because these kiddos do not listen and think you are nuts for asking them to. Oh, and also don't think they are ever responsible for anything they do/say.

Shaunna

moped replied: Right - my neice has that and I wasn't sure what it was exactly - my sister told me ODD but I could never figure it out - you described my neice to a tee!!!!!!!

iluvmysweetiepies replied: Welcome! I'm Kellie. I have 5 girls: Ashlyn, Ariana, Sofie, Alexia, & Brooke. I'm sure you'll love it here!

mommy2owen replied: Welcome!

I'm Courtnie. Mommy to Alyssa and Owen

loveydad replied: HI ther'es not all moms there. NObody seems to really get that but since I'm in a bad mood I'll point it out.

I'm vig. I'm married to tav and we've got 10 little loveys running around.

mammag replied: My darling Kristen was that way and sometimes I would jump at her for it and feel bad. She hasn't suffered any long term damage and I really try to be patient but they can be trying. She also has so much attitude at times but it does get better in time.

Welcome to the board by the way!

Josie83 replied: Hi and welcome to the board. Sorry to hear about your problems with your daughter, I ahven't had an experience of this but you've had good advice so far so I'll just let you vent! My name's Josie, I'm 21 and married to Jason and we have an almost-three-year-old daughter called Cassie. Welcome to the boards! xx

mom21kid2dogs replied: Hi and welcome!
4 year old's sure know how to "pick the moment" don't they? My 4 yr old, Olivia, will do that occasionally, too! We generally don't have alot of behavior type issues with her so it always suprises me! She doesn't have ODD but she *might* end up being an attorney someday because she loves to talk!!

atlantamomof2 replied: Hi, and welcome to the boards! I also have a four year old daughter who seems to have horrible timing. She is very sweet and bright but can also be very ornery and rude (without necessarily knowing it). Like today we went to the library and we walked in and saw a friend of mine with her daughter who we haven't seen in a few months. So my daughter, Maggie, plays fine with her daughter but then when we were leaving she stomps her foot and says she doesn't want to leave and gives me a dirty look! I was like "WHAT?!?" and then the little girl comes up to her to say goodbye and Maggie walks right by her! I was so embarrased! Well, it turns out that she was distracted and didn't realize that she was coming over to say goodbye, but I was still mortified.

You know, kids, like adults have BAD DAYS. The difference is that we're constantly teaching our children what we expect and what's acceptable behavior and then they fall out of line at the WORST times. As long as the child is generally well-mannered and respectful, maybe we should cut them a little slack but reinnerate what is o.k. and what's not.

Sometimes I feel like doing what Maggie does, but I know I can't because I'm an adult! I'd love to give dirty looks to sales people who suck or to the mailman when he doesn't deliver the mail I'm waiting for, but somehow I don't think that would go over too well! LOL

Hope to get to know you better!

Happymomof2 replied: HI Shauna! I have a son who is almost 7 that has ADHD and sensory integration issues and behavior problems, everything but ODD! LOL My nephew has that though. So, I have a good idea how you feel!