Guess what I get to do?

Danalana wrote: There is a baby shower for a girl at church on Sunday..guess who has been asked to write down the gifts and the people who gave them? If you guessed ME, you would be correct. *sigh*

MoonMama replied:

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm sorry, hun.

If I were you I'd have to back out. Surely there is a young girl who could fill your shoes?

amymom replied:
I totally agree. I can / could not do it.

A&A'smommy replied:

redplaydoh replied: I wouldn't do it either. I'm sure they would understand...

lovemy2 replied: For your own sake - I would skip it....

Calimama replied: I agree with everyone else, skip it.

Danalana replied: I've been thinking about backing out...but I said I would do it. Maybe I'll try to back out.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: Do they not know about your recent loss ?

I'm sure they would COMPLETELY understand if you told them you are not up to doing it. How could they not ?

Go with your heart.

Danalana replied: I guess the person who asked didn't know....to tell you the truth, I don't even wanna go to the shower at all.

Mommy2BAK replied: Dana, I would definately back out if I were you... UNLESS... you think there is a chance you could go and have a good time amoungst friends.

Danalana replied: I don't. everything baby makes me bitter right now. I walked by the baby clothes tonight at work--usually i linger and look at lots of things. I couldn't even look.

Sam & Abby's Mom replied: Dana -- then dont go. Call now and tell them you're not feeling up to it. They HAVE TO understand. ((((((((hang in there))))))))))

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
I would explain and tell them you just can't do it. I wouldn't want to go either. They'll understand!

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
I don't think you should go at all. I know the girl would understand and probably Thank you for your honesty. I have been in the same place you are in. Not trying to be rude here but you don't want to hurt her feelings either and sometimes the pain of what we are going through is all we see. Small comments or sighs can make the new mom to be sad and trust me a M/C is not the best topic of conversation for a baby shower...(I went to one after my last M/C before Tay and I still feel like I ruined that party ) Everyone wants to comfort you and once again not being rude towards you but it should be her day full of happy baby thoughts and plans. She should not feel guilty for her baby and I have learned that sometimes that is how some of my friends(mostly the ones who were not married and got pregnant by 'accident') actually felt. When you are in the place you are in some of the hurt and anger can't help but show itself Maybe send a card or wait until this raw grief passes and do so when you can do it without the pain of this moment attached

indywndy_04 replied: I agree - Don't go. They will find someone else to write down the list, I know you would like to be supportive to your friend but you need to worry about YOU right now!

Danalana replied: Oh gosh...I wouldn't dream of talking about it at a baby shower...heck, i haven't talked about it at all. And actually, I could probably fake it, but I don't feel like it. I called the girl who asked me and left a message for her to call me. I'll just tell her I can't.

indywndy_04 replied:
Good call! You need time to heal.

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
I didn't mean you would sit there and talk about it...I didn't want to discuss it either but people who knew asked how I was feeling-I had to explain and boom there you go it becomes a sympathy shower Besides I know EXACTLY how it feels to think the next pair of booties you see is honestly going to break your heart A baby shower is not the best place for you to be right now

Danalana replied: Yeah, I understand. People at work have asked how i am, and I just say "good". LOL, I could have my entrails exposed and say I was "good"

sparkys2boys replied:

HuskerMom replied: I agree with everyone else. Surely they can find someone else to do it for you. I am sure they would understand.

MyBabeMaddie replied: I agree, you'll just be torturing yourself if you go. If you don't want to tell your friend why you don't want to go can't you tell her you're sick or something?

Danalana replied: Baby showers have been difficult for me for some time, even before all this happened. After a while, it's just hard...it's not that I'm not happy for the girl, cause I am. And I'm definitely excited about a life coming into the world. Boy, when I put it like that, it doesn't sound so hard. But yeah, Im not going. I bought a gift and I will leave it before I leave church.