Grrrrrr DH Vent - so mad!

victoire2002 wrote: Okay, just need to get it off my chest. I am soooo mad at at not so DH.
We got a call from the veteran's association and they wanted us to place goods on our porch for the Vet Association for pickup today. Well, I have been compiling some things to do this. Meanwhile, we look like white trash central here because DH leaves EVERYTHING on our back porch--- rugs, tables, tools, bottles for recycling, you name it!

Well, when I asked him if he wanted to get rid of a certain table that has been on our back porch for 6 MONTHS, he got PO'd and told me that I have plenty of time to take care of that. He pointed to the tool box and told me to get to work and dismantle it because he didn't want to get rid of it.... he wants me to take it apart and put it in the attic! He says that HE wants me to do this, because I am the one who wants it moved!! What a JERK! He told me that because I am at home all day that I should take care of things like that, and that he doesn't UNDERSTAND why more doesn't get done around the house. (duh, JERK, what about all the meals, groceries, cleaning, clean house, and not to mention child care?)

Ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I am sooooooooooooooo mad!!! I am going to take the phone off the hook today so he cannot reach us during the day. I don't want to talk to him at ALL. Sorry for the negative post, but I am FUMING.

Thanks for reading/listening!!

MommyToAshley replied: On Saturday, why not take the day off, go shopping and treat yourself and leave DH with the housework, Aidan, and let him fend for himself for meals. OH, and I wouldn't do any laundry or grocery shopping before hand. DH just might get a better appreciation for what you do!

Kaitlin'smom replied: sometimes they just make us so mad.....here is a hug for you . If he wants to know why more things are not done around the house let him see for himself, leave him alone for the hours he is at work and give him a list fo things you usually do and things that should get done and lets see how much he gets done!

amynicole21 replied: OOOOHhhhh, he would sooo be in trouble if it were my DH. I agree with M2A, leave him to do some work this weekend, AND take care of Aidan. They just had a show like this on Oprah a week or so ago. They sent the Mommies to the spa for the weekend and made the Dad's (who were complaining about their wives not doing enough) take care of EVERYTHING. They all had a different tune when the weekend was over.

ediep replied: OOOHHHH!!! I would be pissed too!!!!

Men do not understand!!!


(Sorry, TLC dad and jamie...or course not you)

amynicole21 replied: In fact, I would probably say something like, "ok honey I'll get to work on that RIGHT AWAY... now where is that chainsaw, oh and I'll need the sledge hammer while you are at it!!"

By the way, I had to come back and add this because I was FUMING about it after I shut the computer down when I posted before

3xsthefun replied: My husband gets like that everyonce in awhile. Usually I just ignore him. If he can't understand I take of our little girl all day. Then "OH,Well!" Usually the next day he always says he's sorry.

Heather replied: OH YEH, he needs to get a taste of what exactly it is that YOU DO do all day!! I hate when men say "What did you do today?". My hubby sometimes pulls this crap and I put him in his place. I work on top of taking care of Alison all day. I put up a good fight. Leave him with the baby on a day he has off and leave him to the chores let him see how hard you work as well. BIG HUGS for you!! Vent away!!

Schnoogly replied: Wow I am so lucky, don't hate me My DH knows EXACTLY what I do all day, as he takes Iain almost all weekend and knows how hard it is to even get a load of laundry done. He never complains about the house, me, or anything. If anything, he think that HE doesn't do enough and often apologizes for it!

And no, I'm not sharing!!!

Steph

mckayleesmom replied: ya my husband doesn't usually pull that crap. And I will admit that I am lazy and don't keep up with the cleaning even thought Mckaylee is a good baby. So Sunday is usually clean up day. I clean the kitchen and dh cleans the living room.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: My DH is the same way! We had friends over on Saturday and he had just finished doing some yard work that afternoon! WELL he left 10 bags of garbage, all these broken toys and tree branches right beside the gate in the back yard! I was so embarrased! WACK HIM WITH THE FRYING PAN!

Mommieto2Girls replied: Well , I know just how you feel, my DH will pull the same crap, uuugggg it just kills me. I never let in though. I always tell him if he wanted a wife that would yes sir him then he married the wrong person. He usually shuts up after a while, then does the typical suck up thing they all do. But that works for me.

MomofTay&Sam replied: I would have been livid if I found a list like that. My DH does not kiss my butt but he would never get away with talking to me that way. I am home for his child and he better be a nice boy! LOL We are both very strong willed and stubborn. I am a clean freak so I just do it if it needs to be done, but when I ask for help he knows I am serious and 90% of the time does it. He takes Sammy when he is home and I always get a break. But never would I take orders from him. !

Shooter replied: You left me out, ediep....
Ok, I know I'm not the most regular of posters.

Anyhoo, my wife and I work separate shifts so each of us has junior and the house to work with on equal amounts of time too. I take care of the baby, do laundry, pick up and clean house. I'm the one who does 90% of the cooking, whether it be a work day or not, and I'm the one home in the afternoon for when my 12 y/o DSS (who has ADHD and a few other "issues" to deal with as well) gets home from school. Along with this, I also take care of my "manly" duties of cleaning and maintenance on our 2 cars, the exterior of the house, lawn and landscaping. He shouldn't order you like he did, but the business of not doing laundry or cooking or cleaning or whatever wouldn't work on me. I'd just do it myself...I do most of it already anyway.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I am glad my DH does not try and pull stuff like that with me! He has become more helpfull around the house since Kaitlin was born. ( I think he would rather clean the kitchen then change poopy dipers! fine by me on that it takes less time to change the diper than clean the kitchen ) The only things he is not great on is laundy (he did try but her turned my peach and white bath mats grey and white) no problem I dont mind doing laundy. We are both not great on cleaning bathrooms, it gets done but we dont really like doing it. We dont tell each other what to do we ask, if you have time could you...and if it does not get done we try and get it later.