Grocery store question

A&A'smommy wrote: I was just wondering cause last time I went to the grocery store for major shopping I had to take Alyssa (Jeremiah was there too but he was on another isle) anyway this man I don't know and have never seen before kindly spoke to Alyssa so I just smiled and kept on walking, he said how pretty she was and I said thank you but I didn't stop to talk to him cause I don't know him and I kinda got a weird vibe off of him anyway he TOUCHED Her and I was like uh uh no if I don't know you you don't touch my kid, but when Alyssa was little people use to do that ALL the time and I absolutely HATED it. DO you ever have that happen to you and how do you usually handle that. I always keep walking and move the buggy AWAY from that person but last time I kinda freaked out and was like "DON"T TOUCH MY KID" as I walking away


anyway nina j post made me think of this

mckayleesmom replied: I don't mind if they talk...but its the ones that stare or try to touch that creep me out.



Remember my walmart creepy guy post??

A&A'smommy replied:
oo no I don't think I do...

ETA i don't mind if they talk either but it totally irritates me to NO end when they touch her!!!

ataylorm replied: I think most people are just trying to be friendly, especially older people. Our problem is convincing Andy that some people are strangers. She runs up to EVERYONE wanting to give them hugs and kisses and it clearly freaks a lot of people out, but at the same time, it touches a lot of people.

I imagine the guy was just trying to be friendly, but I can completely understand it being a bit creepy. Unless he was overly sexual about it, I wouldn't worry to much.

A&A'smommy replied:
he touched her leg

mom2my2cuties replied: I think touching an arm or the top of the head or back is ok - But when it comes to more than that, I really don't like it.

Like Andrew said - we can't get our girl to quit hugging strangers. So I'm really not much help.

CantWait replied: I can totally understand where you were leary. I don't like people touching my kids either, however I try and keep it in the back of my mind that they are just being friendly. I think though that anyone touching my kids leg would wierd me out a little more.

Maddy'sMommy replied: I don't mind people smiling and talking to my little girl but I don't like people I don't know... esspecially if they look freaky to me... to touch her either.

When Maddy was like 7 or 8 months old we would eat at this Chinese resturant. Well you know how many of them that work there do not speak English. Anyways the waitess would just walk over and pick up Maddy and hold her!!! This happened 2 times we eat there and finally we decided not to go there anymore. I just find that strange even tough she probably didn't mean anything, but still u never know who to watch out for.

holley79 replied: I would always make up the excuse that my daughter is very suseptible to sickness and I am trying to eliminate her from being sick by not having anyone touch her. Look don't touch policy. Sometimes with the little old ladies though you just couldn't help it. Anyone that totally weirds me out of gives me the willies I just give them the look and keep on going. If they proceed then I tell them they are not to touch my child in a very stern manner. I don't care if you are offended. I am the one to protect my child.

Boo&BugsMom replied: This kind of reminds me of a trip we took out to eat when Tanner was a little younger. Troy went to the restroom and came back to find our waiter in his seat talking to Tanner. He was like "is that his weekend daddy or what"? It was sort of weird.

I have gotten crazy vibes from some people in stores, at that point I just smile and keep walking. If I don't get a weird vibe then I may talk as long as nobody touches him.

mom2my2cuties replied:
I think I would have slapped that guy

Kaitlin'smom replied: Oh man I would freek if someone touched Kait that was not welcomed. Espically her leg, course if someome she did not know touched her like that she might just scream 'dont touch me'. I to agree you can look ONCE maybe talk but touch and I might get mean.

luvbug00 replied: never had it happen and would be uncomfortable if it did.

Crystalina replied: People are always touching Izabella. They go straight for the hair. I don't mind so much but then there are the men. Compliments are ok but there really is no need to touch her. kwim? I always take her by the arm and say thank you and keep going. I'm very leary of men. I've taken her a few places and she always seems to get the attention of some strange men. It makes my skin crawl. We went to a plane show the other day and there was one man there that would not take his eyes off of her. I was watching him watch her and I finally pointed it out to DH and we made her sit next to us and DH stood in front of her. Granted the man could not have done anything to her but just know what "may" have been going through his mind made me want to vomit. I also caught a man taking picures of her once.

A&A'smommy replied:
OMG... poor thing!!!! That would me off!!!

THE HAIR thing people are always TOUCHING alyssa's hair too I know its just cause its curly but COME ON

mom2my2cuties replied:
We have that issue with Andy too and those curls.

Crystalina replied:
It's always the curls. People act like they've never seen curls in real life.

The picture incident was by far the freakiest. She was looking at some goats at a flea market and I found the guy actually hiding behind a tarp snapping away. I also found that that is not against the law for anyone to do this.

MoonMama replied: Oh I think I'd freak big time!

A&A'smommy replied:
THAT is REALLY REALLY freaky, weird!!!

Crystalina replied:
I was very freaked out by that. I am not rude to anyone but I asked him WTH he thought he was doing and all he did was turn and walk away! Like I didn't just catch him. DH was busy jabbering to someone so didn't see it. The guy was gone. I joined a photography forum and brought this up to them and that is when I found out that there is nothing that can be done if someone takes random pictures of your child. It is his camera, we are out in public. The only thing he cannot do is profit from them. What if he is not caught though? Like I will ever know. I have taken candids of childeren but I also tell their parents either before or after (after if you don't want to ruin the moment and the candidness of the shot. ) But I show the parents and have even emailed the pics to them. They love it. I did have one woman who I approached and asked if I could take pics of her children and she politely told me no because they were not hers, she was babysitting. I can understand that totally. I only take the pics to practice and then edit and send it to them. That way if they like it they can save it and buy it through whoever. I just really couldn't believe that you can't stop someone from snapping away at your kids if you didn't want them to.

Brias3 replied: OMG how freaky! I didn't realize how blunt I could be to strangers until after I had kids. Since they were babies on, I've always been very straightforward and said politely with a smile, I'd prefer you don't touch him (her).

It seems weird to be "rude" but I think its rude for others to assume they can touch your kids! Heck, I even ask before I pet a stranger's dog!

Nina J replied: I don't like people touching Emily or Odessa. Some freaky looking woman who smelt like alcohol was talking to me, then all of a sudden she asked to hold Odessa..umm, no way!

I don't like people I don't know touching my kids.

Heather77 replied:

I agree..... although I HATE when any stranger touches my kids, I'm more okay with it, when they are elderly.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I despise it when strangers touch me, my stuff, or my kids. It makes me want to VOMIT. Did they wash their hands after handling toilet paper, if you know what I mean? Did they just pick their nose, their ear, or scratch their butt?



All I know is that while we were living in the old age home, one of the old farts DARED to kiss poor little Emilie...and you know how gross old people can be with their kissing on the MOUTH Well Emilie has cold sores now off and on. In otherwords, some idiot old woman gave my baby girl HERPES.

Sorry...off my soabox.

Although, I don't mind if they talk to them. Especially if we're in line at the store, they're cranky, and the lady or man behind is talking to them, distracting them while I pay...