Going naked - PT this way

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: Anyone use the PT method of letting them run naked in the house? I'm thinking of trying this with Wil, but I'm afraid of what may happen to my home! He isn't getting it. And I know it sounds like I have zero patience, but I'm thinking I need to try something new. He is done with diapers, so that is good - BUT he has accidents in his underwear ALL the time. He just isn't understanding the sensation of when he needs to go, so he always tells me after the fact (after he wets his pants). Per your suggestions, I am waiting longer before asking him to go sit on the potty, but it is almost always too late. And he fights me every time (even with treats, prizes, stickers and all). Letting him go on his own time won't work. He just won't do it. I am constantly washing urine soaked underwear, training pants or my couch.

I just don't know what to do anymore, but we can't go back to diapers. I mentioned it to him and he said "no mommy, no more diapers". School is starting in a couple weeks and I'm scared to think of how many changes of clothes I need to send him off with.

Wil likes to be naked. So I'm wondering if this method may help Wil stop and actually think before he goes because he does grab his crotch and says "mommy, poo poo (which means pee)", but again it is always WHILE he is going in his pants.

SO long story short...I would love advice from those who tried the au natural approach and give me any pointers if you have them. TIA. I will keep you posted on how it goes.

grapfruit replied: Do you have a fenced in yard?? Maybe that will save your house...otherwise...I think Wal Mart and all that sells painters drop cloths!!!

Good luck!!! and lots of

PrairieMom replied: We did that, but mostly when we were playing out side. It was so much fun for Ben to pee on things. It did the trick tho.

moped replied: I have a question......if you let them run around and pee outside how do they learn to pee in a toilet???

PrairieMom replied:
he learned what happens when you get that "I need to go" sensation, so it helped him get things figured out initially. Then When he would need to go he would get so excited to pee on something that he would learn to control it. Then he just started going in the toilet like a big boy, and not in the yard like a dog. It worked pretty good, and he only pooped in our grass once. I hope the neighbors didn't see that one.

moped replied:
That sounds like it might be entertaining!!!!!

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mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Yeah, a big fenced in yard that we just spent way too much landscaping. Maybe Wil can help our trees to grow though! I may try that!

Tara, so did Ben finally ASK to go on the potty instead of the plants? Or did it take a lot of persuading to go inside? Did you give him a reward when he did? How was the transition from naked to underwear? Tell me more please....

I keep thinking that maybe he isn't ready. He got into his poopy diaper today at naptime. Back to that again! So he is obviously not liking the feeling of poop in the diaper. But right now, he is refusing to take off his wet diaper. He said no to the underwear. I'm thinking maybe I hold off a week and then start the process all over again. What do you guys think?

I'm ready for a cocktail.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Hey Marie, you have two boys....Fill me in on how you did it, please! I'm begging you...

boyohboyohboy replied: could it be that he just doesnt like the big potty? some kids get scared with the flushing thing...we started out in a small potty chair that he picked where we sat it, and then we moved to the big potty.
i didnt have any trouble training caleb, and once he started preschool, the other kids kinda finished the training up for us, he liked to copy them...
but i know that jake is going to be much harder...

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
No it's actually the opposite, he prefers the big potty. I tried the small potty at first and he wanted nothing to do with it. He actually gets a kick out of the whole process of getting on the big potty, flushing and all that...It's getting him to learn when to go, that's the problem. I've seriously tried every bribe in the book. And if I let him decide on his own, he doesn't. He just has accidents. So I gently try to remind him to go every 30-40 minutes and he fights me. Two seconds later, accident. We were doing great last week, but everyday he seems to slip backwards.

I'm really ready to throw in the towel and try again in a few weeks. He starts preschool on the 21st, so I'm hoping that seeing the others go potty will help (like you said).

Anthony275 replied: i know im not goood on advice, but when i was training, my mom would make me sit naked on one of those training toilets and watch tv. i trained right away so maybe this will help

PrairieMom replied: After a few weeks we started going in the toilet. I don't really persuade in my home. I kinda just tell them what to do. We were done pottying out side, we do it in the toilet now, he's a big boy.
I don't really remember how long the whole process took. He still had problems with Poo for a LONG time after that. I guess it was probably the entire summer? I think we started to early with Benjamin tho.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: It could be that he's just not ready.

I bet it will help when he goes to school and has other people training him, kwim?

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
I'm starting to believe this to be true, he isn't ready. But today was actually a better day...We went to Walmart real early, I put him in underwear with training pants on top, and he actually told me he needed to go while we were in the store! So I rushed him to the bathroom and he went. Yeah, he had a small accident in his underwear first, but he didn't go all the way. So maybe he IS getting it. And then when we got home, I was unloading groceries and I asked "Wil, how about you go to the potty". He usually ignores me, but sure enough, I hear the toilet lid open and I look, he is peeing all by himself! So maybe we are getting somewhere...I guess a fresh new day can truly make a difference. Sigh.

grapfruit replied: Yeah! Wil!! So are you still going to try him going naked in the yard?? Make sure you use lots of sunscreen though!!

jcc64 replied: Both my boys trained this way before the age of 2. They loved to pee off the deck. Keep in mind that we live in the country, with no neighbors in sight. They had no trouble transitioning to the big potty, though pooping happened a few months later.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Ok, he's old enough to know what's going on.

Take my advice or leave it... lol

He's a big boy now, he's got big boy toys, right? Peeing in his pants is a "baby" thing, not a big boy thing. If he acts like a "baby", take away a big boy toy. When he pees in the toilet, give him back a big boy toy. He needs to go in the toilet before going to school. Teachers won't go there. At least here, they don't. By 4, in kindergarden, they expect the child to be fully day trained with both pee and poo. If the kid's not trained, they can't go to school. The teacher's not going to have time to waste helping a kid go pee and wipe etc... they need to be able to do that on their own, and consistently.

Time to give him some tough love. Be strong.

lovemy2 replied:
I am thinking that giving it a rest for a bit might be a good idea - Olivia (girl I know) just did it in her own time and when she started preschool the other kids going potty etc. really helped move it to the next level and finish her training - but I honestly did very little other than gently guide her in the right direction. The first couple times we tried it didn't work so we gave it a break and then we tried again - it helped me keep my patience with her and not get frustrated......cause we all know how kids react when they know we are frustrated.....

Hang in there Mom - he will get it - but IMO I would give it a break for a bit - let him ask...I bet he will very quickly after starting preschool..............

Sam & Abby's Mom replied:
LOL !!!









Glad to read that today went well -- reall well, it seems !