Frustrated!

kimberley wrote: i love nursing Jade but things are completely getting out of hand. she is and always has been a nibble nurser. (on for 5-10minutes, then off for 20min, then on again for 5min...etc). it has gotten to the point where i do not want to take her anywhere! today in church she wanted to nurse about 10min after we got there. so i do. she latched off after about 10min and was playing. fine. then 20 minutes after that she started yanking on my shirt. it was the middle of the eucharist, so i offered her her sippy of water and tried to move her hand away. she slapped my in the face about 4 times then screamed at the top of her lungs... it echoed through the entire church ! i just picked her up and took her to the basement and fed her there. shouldn't she be slowing down with the nursing by 18mos? what can i do about this awful new behavior of screaming and hitting? help!

gr33n3y3z replied: it sounds to me like a comfort thing
Maybe I'm wrong its been way to long ago for me to even say anything here lol
But to smack you omg I would have been fit to be tied and I would cut her off for life but thats me and I know you could never do that.

kimberley replied:
LOL that is exactly how i felt! i just wanted to quit nursing altogether if she was gonna keep that up . i told DH i am gonna go on a mommy strike soon and they can all like it or lump it

A&A'smommy replied: OMG little miss attitude... lol I can't amagine that ((((HUGS))) I wish I could help you but I didn't do well in that area.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I don't know what to suggest. Claudia was like this as well, but I was able to distract her with something else. When she got older around 20mths though it was like she was always on me, I finally just had to put her down on the floor and walk away. Now the hitting, I realize she is still pretty young, but you shouldn't give in and nurse her when she hits you. Is there anyway that Jamie can take her in Church? Maybe call your local Health Unit and speak to the Lactation Consultant for some other suggestions. The LC I saw, was so helpful. Good Luck!

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm sure everything will calm down with Jade I hope lol
maybe she just had a bad day

coasterqueen replied: Kimberley,

Some babes don't slow down even at that age. Kylie didn't most times, I know that for sure. I can say one thing, though. She needs to learn some nursing manners, immediately. There's nothing wrong with a toddler wanting to nurse but acting the way Jade did is not appropriate as you already know.

I don't know if you've seen this or if this will even help but it's worth a try. Nursing Manners If nothing here seems to help just keep doing what you are doing being persistent about it and letting her know that you are in control and understand her needs but that sometimes she has to wait. I know, hard to do with a toddler.

MommyToAshley replied: I don't know what to suggest, I just wanted to offer some hugs and support!!

I know there was someone else here that was dealing with the slapping, but I don't think it was nursing related. But, if something worked for them, it might work with Jade. I wish I could remember who it was, but I don't.

scalderisi replied: Hi! I had nursed my second child until he was almost 3yrs. And I know what you mean. Sometimes they do that when they are bored or see that you are participating in something else so they want t get your attention. I had to make it really clear that we would only nurse one time in each place that we went to. This helped avoid the repetitive on and off thing. It only took a few reminders of "we already nursed here, we only nurse one time here, remember?" And he would act like he understood and didn't ask again. Its hard when they are small but they know a lot more than we think they do. Good luck.

kimberley replied: thanks guys. i read the link and i have tried everything suggested there with no luck i don't know what is going on with my girl but for the past week she has been impossible! today she threw a fit when we were out to lunch because i wouldn't let her down to run around the restaurant with no shoes on (she demanded those off when we got there ). she was kicking and screaming at the top of her lungs. it was embarassing. i guess i won't be taking her anywhere for a while until i can figure out why my angel has become so naughty.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm certain she is just going thru a phase. I hope it gets better soon.

coasterqueen replied:
I'm sure it's a phase as well like Aimee said. Is there a possibility she's teething too? Where is she on teeth? Kylie got her two year molars VERY early and they were the worst for her and brought out the worst in her too .

kimberley replied: molars are a good possibility but i didn't think she would be getting those yet. she has been a little better today but i still don't want to test "going out" yet lol
thanks for the encouragement that there is an end somewhere lol