Friday Gripe
holley79 wrote: Well I have been looking forward to being able to go play Bingo tonight. I am so tired and just wanted a couple of "me" hours tonight. WELL I guess I can't go play tonight because DH needs some "down time" tonight. He wants to be able to come home and relax.  Whatever. I give up. 
Anyone else have a gripe for the day?
CantWait replied: No gripes here yet, but then again I haven't spoken to dh in a couple days, so we'll see when he comes home tonight.
Sorry Holley, you deserve some "me" time as well. 
C&K*s Mommie replied: No gripes here either, but I am sorry also that your DH will not give you the break that you need.
J-rod replied: id love to have some down time and relax....hasnt happened in months.
getting ready for a party on saturday so major house cleaning tonight.
stella6979 replied:
I'm sorry, but if you need some alone time, then you should get that alone time regardless of what DH says. Just leave, he'll have no choice but to do his Fatherly duties. 
A&A'smommy replied: I hope you have a nice night anyway!!
Ellie replied: Not a gripe but I am sad because my favorite coworker got a new job. Today is her last day. Now I'll have to eat lunch alone. 
luvbug00 replied: I hope your DH realizes that you need a break!
Kim is driving me bonkers. that is my gripe.
holley79 replied: Thanks ladies. I think DH and I are going to have a huge ONE on ONE tonight. 
J-rod replied:
why you giving him such a hard time? does he always do this? does he never help or give you time away?
gr33n3y3z replied:
Good for you Holley
I know our hubbys work hard as well as we do but WE need our time also AWAY from the house while he enjoys being in the house. So it shouldnt be any big deal for him to watch the little one.
gr33n3y3z replied: The only gripe I have is
I was killing a fly last night and now my sciatic nerve is killing me over a stinking fly of all the things 
boyohboyohboy replied: ggod for you holley, i know every now and then i have to remind dh, that mommy is a 24hr service, that needs to regroup or else.....
usually its heard after a few nags, and then its ok....
i think they forget who gets up at night, all night, each night...while they are asleep.
holley79 replied:
Because DH is always in New Orleans for his Reserve training. He gets a hotel room to hisself, gets to go out with the guys, goes out to dinner, etc. He has also been to Tampa, Mobile and Atlanta for concerts. He doesn't get up with Annika at night because I am still nursing. I don't EVER ask him for any ME time. Annika is almost 10 months old and I have been away from home 3 times with out Annika. He doesn't offer to take her for me I always have ask and that is to go to the bathroom or take a shower.
I don't think it's asking much for the partner in the relationship to step in and help.
J-rod replied:
ITA with you. with knowing that kick his butt....... i belive in equal parenting.
holley79 replied:
Thought about it then I would have some "Me" time in the county jail.
J-rod replied:
its quiet....and you get fed a decent meal nowadays.
kimberley replied: my gripe of the day...
Kaleigh was up at 3am, finally got to sleep to wake up to a painful leg cramp at 4:30am and the alarm went off at 7am  
dragged myself up and to work where the temperature was about 15 degrees celsius in the office so had to run to old navy and buy a sweater 
told them i had to leave at 1:30pm today cuz dh had to go to the bank and didn't get out of there til after 2pm.
*sigh* tgif!
jacobsmama replied: I'm sorry holley that he is being that way you totally deserve to go out and have some mommy time alone! I hope that you change your mind and go anyway because we mommies deserve it too!  Good luck!
Calimama replied: My tooth hurts and I cant figure out how to work our heater. I never thought I'd need a heater in CA in October.
C&K*s Mommie replied: Holley- I say to h*ll with him. Reading what you wrote above, I say go, even if it is on Sunday or Sat night somewhere to do something-- with or without his pre-approval.
Lemme know and we can head out together, but you may need some time alone.
holley79 replied:
Thanks Nicole. Let's just say, "When mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy" is going to apply to my household tonight.
I got three emails from him. One saying, I know you want to go play Bingo but let's save the money and we will go to lunch tomorrow.
The next saying, When I get home I'll clean out your truck, we can go get lunch tomorrow and go out to the yard sale on Post and take Annika to the museum.
The third was, What would you like for me to make for you for dinner.
Yea well guess what, I'm going to Wal Mart and I am going to take my sweet little time comign home from work.
mom2my2cuties replied: It sounds like he is trying to say - Instead of spending the money playing Bingo - lets do something as a family that we will all enjoy.
holley79 replied:
I don't have a problem with doing things as a family. I look at it this way, a bottle of rum and his 12 pack for the weekend will cost around 20 or more dollars. My bingo night would only cost 20.00. His emails are trying to "smooth" things over with me because he knows I am made as ****.
mom2my2cuties replied: oh don't get me wrong - I wasn't in ANY way trying to say he wasn't wrong - just offereing a suggestion  I think parenting is a 50-50 thing. I am lucky, my husband boots me out of the house at least once a week for sanity reasons and I get time away from the baby whenever I want it. And when she wakes up at night - I am not the one who gets up with her.
Anyway - I think you should go have a good a time if that is what you need. I can understand why he wants to relax, but deary, you need some time too - you work full time and are mommy full time. Me personally, I would say, listen, I have something to do tonight I will be home at XYZ time. Have a GREAT visit with your daughter - who it sounds like he hasn't spent much time with anyway.
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