Forgot to mention that I have a stalker
Danalana wrote: I was by myself at work from 6-9 tonight. Well, as alone as I can be in the vision center at wal-mart. Anyway, I noticed a guy lurking around jewelry, and he seemed to be staring at me. I blew it off and figured it was just some freak thing--maybe he thought I looked like somebody or something. WELL, I got busy doing something. When I happened to look again in 10 minutes or so, he was still there. I was getting scared, and I tried to act like i didn't notice him. I swear, at times he was standing , propped up on the sunglasses display...just looking at me. He didn't try to be subtle or anything. I was terrified, I'm telling you. Unfortunately, it's wal-mart...how was I going to tell security that somebody was stalking me? So, 9 o'clock was creeping nearer...normally, i would be glad, but not tonight. I honestly thought I was going to find him waiting for me in the parking lot, which is why I texted Ally and told her. I figured if I didn't ever come back here, she would have a little insight. I didn't see him out there, but I thought every car that got behind me was him  being stalked scares me more than being attacked 
luvmykids replied: Ew, please be careful. Did you have someone walk you out to your car? I had a stalker when I was bartending, if you see the guy around don't hesitate to call the police, I know you may feel silly but it's not something to take lightly 
Danalana replied: I tried, but the only "security that was there was retaining a shoplifter for the police. Besides, she is a woman too, and doesn't have a gun. I figured I was just as safe by myself. I was playing out all these scenarios in my head...I was planning on poking the guy in the eyeballs or kicking him in the...pants. Or maybe fainting dead away. I guess any of that works. i actually wasn't scared in the parking lot. I'd rather him just make his move than for him to stake me out.
MoonMama replied: Be careful hun, and don't walk alone to your car! I mean it! I'm glad your ok though.
msoulz replied: You are not safer by yourself. Another woman is deterrent enough for some kooks. Find another employee to walk out with next time no matter who the person is.
Miranda1127 replied:
i agree. you are always safer with another person around. you should try a buddy walk. pair up w/ someone (park as close to them as possible) and walk to your cars together at night.
be careful
Danalana replied: hmmmm....i'll have to check. i don't know most other people in the store. maybe i can just see who's getting off and go with them?
momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied: That is scary. I don't know where you clock out, but could you hang out by the time clock and when someone else is leaving ask them to walk with you. Talk to management too. I know when I worked at Meijer (another supercenter) if you needed someone to walk you to your car they found someone even if it wasn't security. It never hurts to ask. I know the Walmart's around here have stockmen there all the time maybe one of them could walk with you. If you were honestly scared don't take it lightly or blow it off, your instints are usually right. Be safe and good luck.
Danalana replied: Well, because of past events, I see everything as a threat 
But I know what you're saying. Hopefully, he won't be there tomorrow.
gr33n3y3z replied:
well why take a chance I dont get it at all
Danalana replied: If he's there tomorrow, I will definitely get somebody to go with me.
I also won't be by myself...I'll be the first one going home in the vision center, so it will be daylight. PLUS, there will be other people there to notice.
HuskerMom replied: Glad you're ok. I would definetly walk out with someone else.
Mommyof3 replied: Be very careful!
My SIL's sister worked at their family's convienence store and they always worked in pairs. Well, her mother got really sick one night while working and her brother drove the mother home. They only live 2 miles from the store. A man came in and started robbing her while she was alone, and I know you live in Alabama so to give you a better idea, it was in Pelham right near the new WalMart. It's a nice part of town and you would never expect it to happen...anyway...he kept hitting her and hitting her and he took her in the freezer (it's part of a restaurant too) and was picking up things to hit her with and the entire time she was fighting him. Then she decided to play dead and he put her in a chest freezer and took the register and left.
The scary thing is they found out that he had been watching the store and even shopping there a lot. It's scary to think he was just waiting for the right moment to get someone alone.
Definitely let all of the WalMart security know what's going on, and be careful!
gr33n3y3z replied: ok you just make sure you never leave the store alone and make sure you park close to the doors I know businesses frown on that but the h*ll with them when it comes to this type of problem.
And make sure keys are always in hand 
Danalana replied: Yes. I'm always holding my keys in such a manner that makes eye gauging easy. I learned some stuff in a self-defense class. But for some reason, I'm not overly afraid of being attacked. I just don't like being watched 
gr33n3y3z replied:
I agree with you there I can handle myself just fine either way but being watched I hate bc it makes me want to go handle business LOL
So your one of those ones who can feel your being watched also?
I hate that but t keeps you on your toes at all times
~Roo'sMama~ replied: Oh how scary!!  I agree if you see him around don't leave by yourself. Do you have any pepper spray or anything? I bought some a long time ago when I had to walk to work by myself at night - I'd just walk the whole way there with the stuff in my hand. 
Calimama replied: Scary! Be careful!
Danalana replied: I haven't seen him today, but I've also been really busy. Hopefully, he won't show up 
Miranda1127 replied: i read sometimes (ok alot)  and i read recently a study on self defense. the study was done based on how rapist chose their victims
first of all KEYS- most attackers are male attacking females. men have a longer reach than most females leaving the key defense falling short. carry an umbrella, it can be used as a weapon and from the attackers point of view that women is no longer an easy target.
also ware difficult clothing. women who ware clothing that can be easily removed. an attacker has a short amount of time to get what he came for (kwim?) so the more difficult your clothing is the more likely an attacker will disregard you as a victim.
and the last one i can remember (if i find the article i'll pm you). accessories, and long hair. if you have long hair try not to go with a ponytail it allows the attacker to get a better grip (kwim?) and jewelry, earrings (stay w/ studs) necklaces (be sure to conceal) and so on.
hope this helps
Danalana replied: I spoke too soon. He showed up about an hour before i got off. i was freaking out on the inside, but i just did the best I could. I got a male manager to walk out with me. Still, I'm getting scared.
grapfruit replied:
Holy crap! That's freaking ME out!!! Is he there today???
HuskerMom replied: Isn't there someone there you can talk to about it? What did the manager say when you had him walk out with you? Is there anything he can do?
Danalana replied: The guy hasn't said anything to me, so I don't think there is a perceived threat. He just stands there, and it is a public place. I mean, if he were standing outside my house, I could probably have something done. Until he DOES something, I don't think there is anything I can do.
Danalana replied:
I haven't seen him today...than again, we have been swamped 
But it looks like he only comes in the evenings 
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