Fears

mommy~to~a~bunch wrote: OMG, Hannah & Kayla are driving me crazy with their fears! They will not go to the bathroom alone, get dressed alone, go into the kitchen alone, or be in any room alone. And I'm getting fed up with it . They both complain of hearing noises that scare them, and I tell them that there is nothing to be afraid of here, but they don't get it.

It doesn't help that their favorite show is Ghost Hunters . Hannah thinks she's going to marry Steve LOL. Kayla loves Jason & Grant.

I'm at a loss at what to do. I hope it's something that they out grow.

mckayleesmom replied: I think that tv show pretty much explains their fears.....I have watched it and gotten creeped out...

boyohboyohboy replied: I dont know if this helps since jake is only 2 and much younger then your girls, but lately jake keeps telling me that there are monsters, and he jumps up and down and gets so dramatic..well i ask him where are the monsters and he now points to his head, because i told him that monsters are only in your head!!!

mommy~to~a~bunch replied: Well, this was going on before they were watching that. We've been in this house 2 1/2 years, and I can't understand why they are so afraid of it. It's new, has an open floor plan, so there's no dark scary places anywhere.

tammyhopkins replied: Josh has been doing that for awhile now and he says that machines are in his room dumping dirt on his head. Yes Bob the Builder cannot be watched in our house because he will wake up in the night and say SCOOP is after him.

I hear you how frustrating it is getting

mckayleesmom replied:
Hmm...maybe its just the new house. When Mckaylee was a baby and we moved for the first time...She refused to go anywhere near our bathroom and would freak out when it came time to give her a bath....She grew out of it though...Hopefully they will too.

luvmykids replied: I think it's fairly common....it seems like out of nowhere one of my kids will come up with a new fear, and then a week or a month later that one is gone and it's a new one

Calimama replied: I wouldn't let them watch that show for one. It may not be the CAUSE of their fears but it might be a contributing factor KWIM?

My3LilMonkeys replied: Well, kids are more susceptible to see/feel ghosts than adults - maybe there really is something there and no one else can see or hear it?

sparkys2boys replied:
My thoughts too!!

amynicole21 replied:
Sophia was BORN into this house and is still too afraid to be in any room alone. This is why I've been sleeping on a mattress in her room for nearly a year and a half

Jackie012007 replied:
no, I'M going to marry Steve!!! He is SUCH a cutie

yeah I love that show but it creeps me out as well!!

kimberley replied: u sure it's not just for some extra attention? jade has been doing this for a while now and it's selective. her room is the scariest place in the world when i ask her to get to bed but it's just fine when her and lil sis are running around in there 20 min earlier

ghostbust their scary spots. put dish soap water in a spray bottle and spray the monsters away.

MomToJade&Jordan replied: Jade still does this to me about dark rooms. She won't go in one and I have to go turn the light on before she will. She used to sleep in the dark, but now has to have a small light on. As creepy as this sounds she told me in the old house (the one we lived in Maryland before the divorce) there would be a man in her room when it was dark.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Good idea!!! Wil is sorta getting this way. He watches A LOT of Scooby Doo though, so he imagines there are ghosts and monsters lurking around corners, ready to grab him. He isn't necessarily scared though, just playing in a sense.

I agree, maybe wean them off watching that show. But I also think it's just a part of growing up. I am STILL afraid of the dark and I had a nightlight on in my room for years when I was a kid. I like Kimberly's idea, maybe this will make the girls feel better.

mommy~to~a~bunch replied:
That's a great idea! I have an extra spray bottle here.

I hate being alone in a room at night by myself. I don't tell anyone that though.

MommyToAshley replied: Ashley is really sensitive and affected by what she hears and sees. She gets scard of Ursela in The Little Mermaid and will have nightmares if we don't skip that part. We watched Peter Pan and she had nightmares that crocodiles were trying to eat her. So, we do monitor and limit what she can watch.

She's affected in good ways as well. I will hear her laugh in her sleep remembering the days events. The first time we went to a real movie theater and had popcorn there, she dreamt she was swimming in a pile of popcorn. LOL.

Maybe you could skip it for a month or so and see if that helps.

Brias3 replied: I'd say skip the show for awhile too and see if that has any effect.

My younger two are the same way about going into rooms by themselves, especially a dark room. In fact, I remember all three of mine having this fear. Mason's particularly fearful- he'll even ask me to walk up to his room with him in the middle of the day if I tell him to grab shoes or what not, which is particularly annoying but I know it's probably just the age/phase I do know that if they see something on TV or in a movie that freaks them out, it just heightens the fear for a few days. (Heck, even I am like that sometimes! I watched The Amityville Horror the other night on TV by myself and freaked myself out )

:.Mrs_Mommy.: replied: My son is the one who is scared of everything at night. He doesn't watch much tv or anything but when the lights go out he gets a bit freaked out. I leave a light on in the kitchen and he has Beary, William, and Kiss to sleep with and if he has those he seems to do pretty good because Kiss (stuffed dog) is good at scaring away the monsters, Beary(white bear) is good for hiding behind, and William (big pillow bear)is huge so he looks scary to them. I explained to him a cpl years ago that if he ever has a nightmare they cant hurt and although they are scary all he has to do when he wakes up is flip his pillow over, it's like changing the station on the tv. It really helps him alot.

Last night his Transformers poster was freaking him out because they "look to real" but DH and I explained that those were all the good guys so there is nothing to be scared of.

coasterqueen replied: I thought it was just a normal stage of childhood. Both my girls are like that. It's like they get scared, but in the same turn they like things that are scary to them. If that makes any sense. I just deal with it the best I can. Sometimes they take it a bit too far and I tell them if they are going to react the way they are then they can't watch scary things or play scary stuff, kwim?