Favorite child
Nina J wrote: A friend of mine was telling me which is her favorite child. I couldn't believe it, I was thinking "People actually have favorites?". Then it got me wondering how many people actually do have a favorite child. You don't have to say if you do or don't 
Personally, I don't.
C&K*s Mommie replied: I said no. But I will say this.. that my father always told me that I was "his favorite daughter"-- truth be told I am his only daughter!  
The girls are my favorite 'big baby girl' (Christian) and my favorite 'little baby girl' (Kellie) and they will always be.
amymom replied: I voted no. But I do call my dd my favorite little girl or favorite daughter, and my son is always my favorite son. Since there are only the two of them that works for us.
I do know that after my dd was born, it seemed at times that I favored her. My actions definetly looked that way. My son (who was six) noticed and I was fortunate enough to have my DH point it out to me. But her health demanded my attention ALL the time, she never slept and I was exhausted. He was a really good boy, well behaved, well mannered, self-entertained, that I really 'forgot' that he needed me too. It was a tough balancing act, but we made it through. I know Billy hasn't forgotten, but he does know that their lives will never be the same or equal, but that I am always fair. Also, he wants less of my time and is happy my attention is drawn elsewhere now that he is 16. (Although teens need their parents more than they will admit) I digress.....
I love both my kids, and for certain activities I guess one would get favored over the other. But still I voted no.
Kaitlin'smom replied: Well I had to say yes, but thats only cause I have one child so of course she is my favorite.
hopefulmomtobe replied: ewww - I am a bad parent because I think I do have a favorite, or it could be because he is the youngest...but my little blue eyed blonde haired Brody is sooo sweet, sweetest little boy in the world, 8 years old and sits on my lap and rubs my back...my other two are older and do their own thing really....they arent so lovey anymore but he still is.
Is that wrong? I love the other two as much, but Brody is just soo lovey to me and hangs out with me more then they do. He is a mama's boy and is just an easy kid where the other two are kind of "teenager pains in the butts" hee hee
Crystalina replied: I have a favorite boy and a favorite girl!
Yes though, I do have days when I can tolerate one better then the other. Maybe not so much days but moments. kwim?
Ok, perfect example! As I'm typing the last paragraph Evan comes out of the room crying (just woke up) saying, "I thought you told me that IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII can have the computer in the morning?!!" Mind you he just woke up and is still stumbling from sleep. Right now, Izabella is my favorite because she's at school. 
hopefulmomtobe replied:
 All of my kids are in school...so I guess I can say I love them all equally today! LOL!
boyohboyohboy replied: I do not have a favorite, but I do have a child that is easier and more fun to be around right now.....
but I do love them both equally.
lisar replied: I said no.. However I do have my good child and my bad child they seem to swap back and forth. But I love them equally and would never say I liked one more than the other. B/C I dont. I love them the same.
luvbug00 replied: I don't have more then mya yet but i think i will always have a special apprication for her because she is my firstborn and has been threw alot with me. i will love all my children the same i'm sure.
MyBrownEyedBoy replied: No, I've only got one child.
Cece00 replied: Nope. I have days where I feel like one of my kids, if they are acting particularily good, is more a favorite than one of the other kids who is misbehaving that day , but I dont overall have a favorite child or even a least favorite child. I love my children equally.
Since I have 3 boys, I cant say "You're my favorite son" but I make them feel special by telling them "You're my favorite Ross/Evan/Jack". I only have one daughter so I guess I could say "You're my favorite daughter" to her.
Even if I did have a favorite or a least favorite, I would never show it to my kids or say it. That could cause so much damage to your kids. My MIL plays favorites with her kids & even her grandkids and even though all of the gc's are too little to notice, my husband DOES notice (as he is obviously her least favorite) and it really screws with him, esp b/c she constantly screws him over. Very sad 
Mommy2BAK replied: I said yes, but thats because I only have one right now. But I really do believe that Blakely and I will always share a special bond that I could never really share with any one else. I suppose that its just because we've been through a lot from her tumor, to being a single parent. She is just amazing and more than I could have ever expected in a little child.
Oh and speaking of, she told me the other night "mama... you're my BEST friend!" 
BabyOwen427 replied: I said yes because Owen is my favorite child. 
mom21kid2dogs replied: I said yes but she has no competition! (She'd be awful hard to beat anyway, so it's just as well  )
inmom2two replied: I do, but it depends on the day
Calimama replied: Yes.. but I only have one. 
Boys r us replied: I don't have a favorite child as far as love goes..my god I love them all so much..soooo much. But I will be honest and say that Braedon and I have something special between us. He just gets to me on a different level than the other two, he's not my favorite, but we just have a different kind of bond. Could be b/c I had tanner when I was 20 and not old enough to truly enjoy and savor each and every second the way I have with Braedon. Tanner and I were inseperable and I love him to the ends of the earth and back..we did everything together and we went to the zoo and museums and wherever I went he did too..and that alone time with me is something that the other 2 kids will never have and he did, but I think for the most part I was just too young and dumb to relish in his mere existance the way I have with Braedon. And then there is Alliebelle, and I think our journey together is just beginning..so we haven't quite developed the bond that I have with the other 2 yet.
Man..I sound awful..but I swear Braedon is not my favorite! Each child brings something to the table unique in my relationship with them...Tanner is older now and doesn't want much to do with hanging out with his mom anymore, but we have that strong bond from all the years we did do everything together and Alliebelle is totally dependant on me right now and I'm so in love with her beautiful little diva self that I can't stand it...and her smile, my god, it melts my heart...and then there is Braedon who doesn't really need me, in a needy sense, he's just there hanging out with me and making me laugh. You know..now that I've said this all out load...I think what is going on here is that each of them have there moments or their time where I may be closer with this one or that one..but in all honesty, it's constantly rotating and shifting as I'm sure it always will as their lives and my own change with time!
Calimama replied:
Aww that made me tear up. That was gorgeous!!! 
TANNER'S MOM replied: My favorite is the one who actually does what I tell them..lol
No, I don't have a favorite. I love all my kids the same and equal. I do spend more time with Tanner and then Brittany. Because we have things in common. Tan doesn't drive, he still needs his Mama. The other kids don't have that.
Brittany and I are close but we have our moments. Justin is a daddy's boy and that makes me feel like an outsider..but lately we are gettng alot closer.
Tiffany and I are as close as any step parent can be. So, all in all I love them all and wouldn't trade them for good kids.. thats what I always tell them..lol
Insanemomof3 replied: I voted yes. Each of my kids is my favorite. If that makes any sense. I always tell them they are my favorites. But they know that I say it to each of them.
MomToJade&Jordan replied: I voted no because I don't. I can say that the relationship I have with the both of them is different. Jade has been in my life longer and she will always be my first. Jordan is the baby and needs me more then Jade does. I am the only parent she knows (well there's grandma too ) so she is a mamas girl.
MotherForever2043 replied: I voted No. I when my youngest, (Amber) was born, I thought that I couldn't love anyone else more than Esther(the oldest), since I had been through SO much with her. But that wasn't the case @ all. Amber went though several surgeries. But even if she haden't I would of still have loved her as much. I love them both with all my heart. Oh yeah, and Baby Jordan. Can't forget about him. 
amynicole21 replied: I didn't read all of the other responses, but I think there may be something hard-wired in our psyche to give more attention to the youngest child. They need the most looking after, especially the babies. Sophia just gives me more complex problems than Nora, and I know she should know better so it irks me Still, I don't really have a favorite I don't think. 
My3LilMonkeys replied: Favorite, no. However, we have noticed that everyone (DH, myself, grandparents, etc) seems to favor Brooke in the sense of always letting her choose and Madison gets the leftovers because Brooke is older....so we are working hard to correct that.
luvmykids replied: I don't have a favorite but I do have days when I enjoy one more than the other. Not just behavior but some days one just seems more "on" as far as being talkative, funny, etc.
Nina J replied:
I understand what you mean, you don't sound awful. The way my friend was saying it was awful, basically she loves one of her children more and that child will also get preferential treatment. She just came out and said it too. But what you're saying makes me want to do this face
Hillbilly Housewife replied: Well i'm going to be different and say that yes, I have a favorite child.
jk
Nah - in all seriousness, I don't prefer one child over the other, but depending on their moods and mine, I may prefer one's natural temperament and attitude at that particular moment.
for instance to just hang out, I prefer to spend time with my eldest, Zacharie, because he's so independant, and he's not so clingy with me, whereas the two girls, whom I love just as much as my son, are needier and clingier, hence more work for me.
to be all cute and girly, i prefer spending time with Emilie, because as much of a whirlwind as she is, she's my diva queen... loves the fair stuff and nail stuff and dresses and jewellery. Zach doesn't care for it much and Naomie would like to, but sje's too squirmy.
Naomie's my cuddler... she's attached to my hip, I swear. Her little devilish grin makes me melt, especially her mean face, which she does ALL THE TIME. Just so cute!
holley79 replied: Well I only have one child so I just answered no.
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
This is exactly what I was going to say, Amy.
I think both of my kids, if asked, would say that I love them the same. Ethan is clearly a momma's boy, though and Maddie is a daddy's girl. There's no denying it. They are two peas in a pod.
However, I can tell you that I am my mother's favorite child. And my father had a favorite son (out of 3 sons.) My mother also shows favoritism to one of my brothers over the others. This is not something I saw until I was much older, though and our personalities changed more.
Brias3 replied: It's not so much that I have a favorite, its just that Ryan and Mason are totally big on Dad and Aliyah's my little momma's girl. We totally just "get" each other and have clicked like that since she was born. Obviously, I have the same amount of LOVE for all my children, but I think as parents, Bruce and I each share a special connection with one or more of the kids individually. If that makes ANY sense!
punkeemunkee'smom replied:
 That made me laugh out loud!!!
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