Ever just get tired of life?

MomToMany wrote: The drudgery, the day-to-day routines, the housework, the kids whining and arguing, the lack of support and intimacy from your spouse.....I could go on forever.

kit_kats_mom replied: Amen sister! When that happens, I try to toss the routine and just play with the kids. They never cease to make me smile.

Sunflower04 replied: I know what you mean! I feel like a freakin robot! I do the same routine everyday...

jdkjd replied: So there with you. I was fantisizing about running away to the Caribbean last night.

Alice replied: It's end-of-the-winter (I hope!!!!!!!!!!) blues.

You need a break.

Why not find something to throw yourself into, even if it's just St Patrick's Day next week. Bake some Irish Soda Bread, decorate your windows, invest in an Irish CD (Phil Coulter is good if you don't know any-- kind of mellow and not all the rat-a-tat-tat that you frequently hear this time of year. Or try the Chieftans, Paddy Noonan...) Bake green cupcakes and make corned beef and cabbage if you like it. (I personally don't) Rent The Quiet Man with John Wayne.

Or go online and plan this summer's vacation. Pick a budget and a destination, even if it's camping (again I'm not a fan, but it's really cheap if you go to a state park) and make plans. It's kinda like shopping, but more fun.

Is that any help at all??

ediep replied: uhhh, yes, just about everyday!!!!! sometimes I fantisize about going back to work....now, thats sad

Boys r us replied: The power to change it lies within you!!

Pack them all up and go somewhere...anywhere! To a toy store, to chuck e cheese.....anywhere!
and like Alice said, find somethign to throw yourself into!! Make Easter decorations with the kids..something!

Kaitlin'smom replied: yep, my biggest thing is those darn bills you pay them and the keep comming back

moped replied: I think you wrote that for me - UGH.........................YES I do.

coasterqueen replied: What Mollie? Were you reading my mind this morning?

Between being up ALL NIGHT long with Kylie, a DH who I could just smack for leaving the lid 1/2 off the amox bottle this morning so I got it all over me, and work.......I want to run away so far from EVERYTHING.

MomToMany replied: Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way!

Thanks for the ideas Alice! You are always good at thinking up things to do!

jcc64 replied: Yes, been feeling this way for weeks now, (and I think dh has as well) and I agree it might be at least partially related to the winter thing. Also agree that it's time to shake up the routine, whether you have the time/money/energy to do so. Break out!

mammag replied: I feel that way a lot. I wouldn't change the my dh or kids but there are dreams we have that we just having been applying ourselves to and because of that we are stuck in the day to day rut of life.

I watch a show called Starting Over and Rhonda (a life coach) said something the other day that made me think. She said something about how women sometimes just take what comes their way and let other people make decisions for them and then they wake up one day and they're thinking "are you kidding me? This is my life?" I feel like that like we are just letting life happen to us instead of going out there and making our life what we want it to be. I think that is what makes the day to day drudgery so overwhelming....because I know we could have a better life than this.

I don't want to have to babysit anymore and send dh off to work each day and pay those same darn bills again do the same loads over again and wash the same dishes.

mckayleesmom replied:
HUGE DITTO ON THAT ONE

My2Beauties replied: I'm sorry you feel this way! I think this post was meant for most of us this morning though! I think as humans period, not just women, we get into a set routine and we're afraid to take chances to and do something different. I have a leadership class every Wednesday night and the professor makes me think a lot. Do you realize how many actual opportunities we pass up on a daily basis because we're off doing our routine? Do you know that the things we do the most we think about the least and the things we do the least we think about the most? Nichole is right, only you can change that day to day routine and spice it up a bit! Don't need money just do something different!!! Sorry you feel this way hon, hopefully this weather will go away soon too and we will all feel better when it's warmer outside!

mammag replied:

I agree. Let's all look for an opportunity today to do something to change our lives for the better. Even if in just a small way.

I'm glad you posted this topic because it's got me thinking again about what I need to do better in my life to make my families lives better as well as mine.

Kaitlin'smom replied:
I am working on something and have a few leads on it and its very selfish, and I am only trying for me. I am not usually a selfish person but since this oppertunity may take place I have to try and go for it, I really want it to happen and if I can only do it for me then so-be-it.

sorry I can't tell you yet what I am working on (right now) but is nothing illagal so dont worry its something I really want to do, and almost have to do kinda thing.

and if it works out I will deffinalty be posting all about it

mammag replied:

Well I hope it does work out for you. For your own sake and I have to admit...for mine as well......you've got me intrigued on what it is!

Good Luck!!!!

Kaitlin'smom replied:
just to be fair it might be a couple of months before I know.

5littleladies replied: I think everyone said it all Mollie-It looks like most of use are feeling this way today. I know for me it is the end-of-winter blues. I woke up to 2 inches of snow today after it being 60 degrees on Sunday. How's that for a reality check?

coasterqueen replied:
OMG, it's snowing here too, but I'm sure it won't accumulate to anything. I totally agree some of mine is the winter blues. One day it's 70 and the next it's 25! I keep putting my winter coat away because I'm sick of wearing it and every other day I have to get it back out again.

It BETTER get nice soon! Because I'm not spending any second of my maternity leave in winter weather! Miss Megan and I might just have to take a trip to the Bahamas or something if that happens.

MomToMany replied: Wow, I guess this turned positive after all! Yes, ITA that we pass up oportunities because of our routine, and that we might be afraid of change.

And DI, I'm really curious about what you are working on! Ugh, I hate waiting, LOL!

I'm going to try something different for supper tonight as my little thing for the day. I'll think of something interesting to do, and have the kids help me .

gr33n3y3z replied: Nothing seems to gong right lately for me
But it will turn around soon just takes time.

Des replied: there are good days........and bad days.
it's the rushing around and the noise factor that gets to me the most.

DVFlyer replied: It's nice to know so many people here can share their thoughts about something like this. Yes, the day to day can sure drag you down. As many people have said (Boys r us and I seem to be on the same wavelength most of the time) you need to set time for yourself. Sure, we all know that our lives are mostly set. i.e. wake up, feed the kids, dress the kids, eat breakfast, go off to work, etc., but it's very important to have some "you" time.

I know most of the focus has been on doing something different WITH your kids, which is also important, but find some YOU time. Everyone will benefit from it.

I like the advice about going and doing something different. Set a goal to, let's say, find a lake to walk around, or find a park to play catch etc. It's important to mentally and physically (write it down) set the goal, though. Just saying, "hey, we should do "...." one day" will not work.

A personal example is that Chloe spends a lot of time in the house or around the house. I made it a point to take her "somewhere" every chance I got. This usually meant Mom would take a nap and Dad and Chloe would go to the park. Just something to get her away from the same old same old (since kids have the feeling too). Plus, mom spends all or most of the day with her, so I'm sure she appreciates the break.

Good luck to everyone in your searches to get over the day to day blues.

MomToMany replied: You always know the right things to say DVFlyer! I've got some free time now (for a few days anyway), so maybe I can actually do something I want to!

Thank you!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Yeah I think everyone feels like that once in a while. For me right now it's definitely end of winter blues and sick and tired of being sick and tired blues. I swear when spring finally comes I am going to camp outside on my front lawn - I am so sick of being in the house!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
This is what I've been doing! Then we are all happy!!

Sorry you are feeling down, Mollie! I'm feeling the same way lately. I seriously have stopped worrying about the house right now (and I"ve also been spending less time on the computer) READ: More time with the kids.

A&A'smommy replied: YES YES YES

HUn right now I feel the same way you COMPLETLY I have been in tears and snappy at alyssa and the dog and mean to my poor sick husband because I feel that way sometimes I wish I could just be alone for awile or escape my life for a little while.

(((((BIG HUGS)))))
mine isn't the end of the winter blues though we have had lots of warm weather I just have had a really hard week...

DansMom replied: I don't have anything to add, but I'm adding anyway I am definitely suffering from SAD right now. The continued cold weather and need to bundle up and hunker down has got me really cranky and depressed and bottled-up. We had one warm day last week, and my mood lifted that day. I need to hear water trickling down storm drains and dripping from eaves; I need to see wriggling earthworms on wet sidewalks and green shoots of daffodils and crocuses; I need to hear birds furiously chirping and the faroff rumbling of thunder.

chloe&tysmommy replied:
I'm with ya on that one!!!

I just can't wait for spring so we can go outside and be free...lol...it'll be nice to just be outside and watch the kids play (hopefully Ty will be walking by then). It really does get depressing sitting in the house all day doing the same old things I know how you feel Mollie!

DVFlyer replied: M2M,

Glad my input was appreciated.

texasp3 replied: Oh my goodness, yes! I definitely have days where I think... oh boy... breath in, breath out, one foot in front of the other, pay another bill, wash another dish, go to bed, get up ... do it all over again. Trudge trudge trudge.

BUT... as I told my older son one day, even a BAD day as a SAHM beats the snot out of the way I was living when I was selling my soul to corporate america. Granted, I got a pretty good price for it, as far as money goes... but the rest of the price was just TOO HIGH! At least for me.

Then one day, I got an email from my MIL.. it was the Torah lesson for the week and the bottom line message in it was "If you don't like your life, then take a good hard look at it and figure out what YOU did to get yourself where you are - take responsbility for the fact that it was your own decisions that brought you to this point... and then, decide what YOU are going to do to get your life to a point where you ARE happy with it." Well, gosh, that just hit me right between the eyes! I do so like blaming other people.

And I decided right then that I was going to start getting out of the rat race. That from then on, every decision I made was going to be about how to be happier with my life. Before I knew it, my company was offering a lucrative buy out, my husband was wanting a baby, we were closing on a house and suddenly I was a SAHM with a baby! No one at my company could believe it - I was a fast-tracker - and I announced that I was chucking it all to grow babies and tomatoes! LOL!!

My MIL flipped out - I think she thought I was selling out the sisterhood by tossing my professional life in favor of my sanity. How ironic that it was all started by an email that SHE sent to ME.

Btw... this is by no means meant as a bash on women who work outside the home. I have for MANY years, and will again for MANY more - I have and will gain great satisfaction from my professional work. It's more about my own personal experience with taking responsibility for being happy with my life - in the moment. Even on bad days, I much happier because I'm in control and responsible instead of being dragged along on some bad trip.

loveydad replied: No. I like being alive. It' beats being dead.

But yeah I get tired of things that are happening in my life. People who are not honest, children who are tiring, being frustrated with my life - yeah . Being sick all the time. I know what you mean.

mammag replied:

Wow!!! That makes you stop and think doesn't it?!?

That is soooo true!

MomToMany replied: Thank you everyone for all of your advice and replies! I think it helped a lot of people, not just me. I'm going to look long & hard at what I can do to make things better around here.

I think we all learned a lesson from this!