Endearments

holley79 wrote: I never gave this much thought till today when a deputy and I were talking. Everyone to me is "honey" or "sweetie" or something like that. When one of the deputies/ Dets/ LTs ask me something I always say, "Yes sweetie" "No Sweetie" or something along those lines. One of my hot Dets was at the printer and I said, "Hey sweetie can you please hand me that?" His response, "Yes dear. " Then it got me to thinking.

idk, is it wrong to use endearments with someone outside of your relationship? Is it a southern thing? My mom does the same thing and a lot of people I know do the same but we are all regionally from the same area.

TANNER'S MOM replied: I do this too. Everyone is hun or darlin. I don't care if it's man or woman. I learned this in working in trucking. Doesn't matter what they look like, you can always catch more flies with honey~

But I never call anyone Babe except DH

Calimama replied: I don't think it's wrong. IMO sweetie and dear are on a different level than like baby and stuff. DH calls me baby girl.. and if someone else called me that he'd knock them out but dear wouldn't bother him.

holley79 replied:
I never use babe either but with DH.

I don't think the truck driver/ crane operators would have understood my talking if I didn't use hun, sweetie or darlin.

Calimama replied:

A&A'smommy replied: I do the same thing, but its just to my friends!!

Crystalina replied: We just had an issue with this the other day when we went out to eat. I told dh that it drives me nuts but I don't think it so much drives me nuts really as maybe it is the amount of "hons" and "sweeties" that are used. Our waitress used it way too much. With the kids I don't mind but more then one "sweetie" towards me and I'm done.

holley79 replied:
You wouldn't survive in my household then. It is such a habit for me. Got me really good tips when I use to bartend though.

hoosier momma replied: I notice that I do it alot more if I don't know someone's name I am waiting on, but I try to keep it in check because it tends to annoy me if people repeatedly say it to me. I bartend part-time and last weekend I had some creep keep trying to call me Baby Girl. I think that is pushing it way too far. He was an A** though and I ended up throwing him out of my bar.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I would have to say probably more a southern thing. We dont say that much around here. I dont think I could ever call a co-worker hon or sweetie. Now I have been called sweetie by others and normally it does not bother me unless the person creeps me out. I have called some friends and family hon or sweetie but normally when I am joking around with them.

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied: I do it all the time too. It is usually dear or dearheart. Never babe, baby or honey. I grew up in Va Beach, but my dad's family is South Carolina. I am sitting hear trying to think if I have ever heard Casey use anything like that. I don't think so, but I could be wrong. It may be a southern thing.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I do it all the time, and I'm from Wisconsin.

Our Lil' Family replied: I use Babe a lot...even with DH but he and Thomas are the only ones I call Baby. There is a difference!!

BAC'sMom replied: I do it all the time, it's a Southern thing.

TANNER'S MOM replied: For me it's Darlin.. Darlin is the word that gets my attention..lol'
If a man opens a door for me, and maybe says Hello Darlin. Hey gets a big ole smile~

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
True....even I'm "babe" to Naomi.

I do use hun and sweetie a lot, but more towards kids or older adults and never to the opposite sex (unless it's my brothers).

stella6979 replied: I guess I'm the odd man out here. I use terms of endearment with my friends and family, but if a co-worker was to refer to me as "sweetie" or "hun" I would find it kind of condescending. I mean, I have a name, why not take some time to remember it and use it.

holley79 replied:
Now darlin does it for me also. When someone uses it toward me as you said, Mel, I get a glow to my cheeks.

gr33n3y3z replied: I use hun almost all the time or Dear to my Boss LOL that can go either way

MoonMama replied: I use Hun, honey, sweetie, or babe for everyone.

redplaydoh replied: We had this conversation at work several years ago before I was a mom. Most people didn't say anything to this one woman that called everyone "dear, hun, sweetie, etc.) but they ALL took offense to it and thought it was demeaning. I'm also a southern gal but after this conversation I made myself change that habit.

holley79 replied:
Regionally where were you working? I know when I'm out in CA I have to be careful because me being me and not using my brain over my mouth said "Bless you Sweetie" to someone who sneezed and they about ripped my head off.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I don't do it...rodeo cowboys may take it wrong and the truckers around here ain't darlin material But I hear it sometimes....

holley79 replied:
Yes sometimes the rodeo boys will take you for a buckle bunny.

My3LilMonkeys replied: I use hun or sweetie a lot with family and friends and sometimes at work. I work in a small office and most of us are pretty close so it's never been an issue - I'm not the only one that does it either.

Crystalina replied: I noticed alot of other people's comments and I just want to add that in the house (with dh and the kids) we use names like that. I mean, what household wouldn't. Ok, don't answer that. DH and I are very generic. When we first got married (15 yrs ago) he started calling me "Wife" and I called him "Husband" so now that is how we call each other. It's very generic but that's what we do and have always done. People think we are odd. It's kind of our version of "Mother" and "Father" like the people used to use in the old days. We are less formal when referring to our kids.

redchief replied:
She calls her boss dear. She calls me her little hottie that... oh, wait... This isn't P&I is it?

I don't use terms of endearment. That's more of a female thing than a male thing, at least in our neck of the woods.

lovemy2 replied: I use terms of endearment most everywhere EXCEPT work - maybe with the girls but never with the guys....and as for everyone else - Babe was always reserved for DH - now I am not sure the "terms" I use for him would be considered endearing

Crystalina replied:
Yep, you never know what female is going to try and slap you with a sexual harrasment suite.

Our Lil' Family replied:
A friend of mine's husband calls her Wife and I think it's cute!

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
I get "sweetie", but most of the time he refers to me as his "bride".

Crystalina replied:
If I call my husband sweety, sweetheart or honey he always follows that up with, "What do you want?"

holley79 replied:
Oh now that is so sweet.

holley79 replied:
If you called a gal sweetie and she took it the wrong way Lisa would have to open a can on her....

gr33n3y3z replied: