Does anyone ever consider... - having more children?

Donna027 wrote: This is a topic that has been on my mind a lot recently and I was just wondering if anyone else has ever considered having more children.

Although finacally I can afford it but I think Im to old to raise another child. But if I were to adopted again it would be an older child, just as I did with Lucas. But even he can be a handfull at times and sometimes I think I can barely handle him. But it would be nice to have another child in the house. I was thinking of a girl this time - I just miss raising a girl. I know this doesnt make since but I have this strange fear that she might turn out to have the same problem as Patricia did. With the eating disorder I mean. I know its unlikely but Im still afraid of that

C&K*s Mommie replied: I had thought about it, and seriously tried to convince Chris of it- up until recently. But I have finally reconsidered, and realize that we are done with having our own natural children. If we were to have anymore I would want them to be clsoe in age as our two girls are now. Eventually we hope to adopt, but no time soon.

MyLuvBugs replied: I definately want 2 more....just NOT anytime soon. The next one had better wait at least 2 years to make an appearance.

As for your next daughter(or son) having the same issues with eating.....that's hard to tell. I doubt it.....but you never know. Eating disorders are so tricky and can strike anyone. But now you are the wiser mom....you know the warning signs and have BTDT so you know how to handle it if it would occur. KWIM?

Just try not to think and worry about it and force Patricia's old issues or your fears/worries onto the new child. Not that you would, I'm just saying from personal experience....My dad lost a couple kids at young ages (13 years & 6 months) and he was always too over protective of me thinking I was one of them. KWIM? It caused quite a few problems between us growing up.

Calimama replied: Yep. When is an issue though. I want to wait since I'm 19 and want to finish college first but my DH is 25 and wanting another one soon. So we'll see who wins.

coasterqueen replied: Yep, but for us the financial aspect of it far outweighs our want to have more children. We can barely afford the ones we have and unless someone else is going to pay for more we can't do it. It wouldn't be fair to our family as it is now.

Now, if we win the lottery, I (not DH) might change my mind.

msoulz replied: If I were a younger woman I sure would consider it. But at 40 I am so fortunate to have the two that I do so we'll be happy with that!

jem0622 replied: Yes, I do think about it. And if I lost a child, I most definitely would be thinking seriously about another. When I miscarried in my 2nd trimester, I wanted to be pregnant again ASAP. When my mother and father lost my sister to cancer, they had 3 other young children to raise...but they opted not to have anymore.

HUGS

lisar replied: Me and my DH have decided (and my doctor ) that I will not be having any more kids. Hysterectomy in Janurary comming. But we have discussed that if we do want more later on that we will try and adopt. My youngest is 18 months old right now she is more than a hand full.

quinnandjacob'smom replied: We are done having kids, but I still get baby fever every now and again. If I were to get pg again I would be happy, but we're definitely not going to be ttc ever again. I'm 35 and when I picture my life in 5 years I don't want to be lugging strollers, diaper bags, etc around still. Jacob will be 7 then and I'd like to think we'll just be enjoying doing fun things with both boys. Good luck with your decision

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Well... yes. But not right now.

Donna027 replied:
That still happens to me and Im over 50!

Kentuckychick replied: My mom watches my two godchildren (my best friends children) everyday and typically throughout the days I'm here I find myself saying "This is what makes me want to keep striving for this"... this is what makes me "want one right now"... they are wondeful kids honestly and the baby... GAWD... she's a baby and well, they give me the "fever" she's just to the point of goo's and ah's now and she's starting to really smile it makes my uterus skip. And the 2 year old just today imitated my mom and started saying that everything was "Outrageous!"
They make me believe that childern are beautiful creations

AND THEN...

Last summer I babysat three kids 5 days a week for 12 hour days. Now, on Mondays I watch the 10 month all day from 8 am. until his two siblings (6 & 9) get home from school, then I have all of them until about 8:00.

I've been with these children since the oldest was 2 but in the past year something has changed... their parents are both working now and they have truly developed bad attitudes! The 10 month old bites (not because he's teething... straight up biting out of anger and frustration), the other two fight constantly and by the time I leave after 12 hours, it never fails that I find myself saying...

"I AM NEVER HAVING CHILDREN!!!!"
It's children like those that make me think that really they are indeed the spawn of satan..

luvmykids replied: I get baby fever pretty bad but I had my tubes tied so thats about as far as it could go LOL. I do wish sometimes I'd kept my options open but realistically wouldn't have another anyway.

Nina J replied: I'm not sure if we'll want another baby after our 3rd is here, I think we probably will.

If you decide to adopt again, you'll be changing someones life. You're a great mother, I think if you adopt again that child will be very lucky to have you.

gr33n3y3z replied: I'm 43 and have no desire
4 is enough

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: i know I still have a baby so I'm not getting Baby fever. but I know 3 is my limit. I really like having 3 kids so close in age and know the 4th would send me to the looney bin

J-rod replied: we definately will have more....granted we are kinda yound. 25 yrs old... i told her 2 is a definate...we want 3-4... but i do worry about the financial aspect..... however i have been thinking lately that if we are ment to have more kids then God will make sure i can provide for them all.....so we may well end up with 4.