Do your boys or girls - get injured a lot

mysweetpeasWil&Wes wrote: I feel like Wil is getting hurt ALL THE TIME! You should have seen his knees during our vacation. He kept falling on MIL's gravel driveway and skinned up his knees in four places. Then you all know about the dog bite, which has left a little scar below his eye...not his fault, but still an injury. And last night he was playfully spinning around in my room and fell head first into our dresser! He had a golf ball size bump on his head that has turned black and blue!

How long do they keep this up?? Is this just a toddler thing because they are still so uncoordinated? Or does it get worse as they get older? Wil isn't even three and he has been to the ER a couple times already...last night almost being his third time! I don't know if I can handle the worry and stress...These boys are going to throw me over the edge for sure. It's like they have NO FEAR! When does it sink into their little brains that "wait, I may get hurt doing this"?

I told you all about my friend's nephew who was recently killed in an accident. I don't think I mentioned that he was jumping off of a cliff into water...but that's what happened. Paralyzed his arms and legs and then he drowned. An accident, but he was was also taking a risk. I just can't imagine. That fear of my kids getting hurt really bad has really sunk in for me lately..... I know it's important to let them experiment and get hurt so that they learn from the experience, but how do you set boundaries so that THEY know what's okay and what's not okay to try???

Sorry I'm rambling a bit....but I'm scared.

gr33n3y3z replied: you have to let them be kids and we cant keep them in bubbles of protection either
Its hard trust me bc my kids are from 14 yrs to 22 yrs

boyohboyohboy replied: I remember thinking I was going to put caleb in a football helmet when he was younger because he was hurt every day it seemed. there is not one pic we had taken that he doesnt have a black eye or some mark on his face..
he still get hurts, his legs are always black and blue, and this weekend he just walked right into the doorway, and has a black eye and he is 5. so i dont know when it ends. we tried talking to him and asking him to be more careful and treat his body a little better, but it hasnt helped.
i dont have any advice, just wanted to say, its normal.
my youngest has not been as active as caleb and has only fallen down once and gotten hurt that left a bruise, but i see him watching caleb and the play fighting and acting out super heros so its only a matter of time.
good luck

Insanemomof3 replied: My kids seem to get hurt a lot too. Their legs are covered in bruises from one mishap or another.

We just moved into a 2 bedroom apartment and Tristan and Demetri are sleeping in bunk beds, Tristan (almost 6) on top. The other night Demetri told tristan to "fall" out of his bed and the dork did it!!! I was freaking out...he could break and arm or worse his neck! I worry about these things everyday, sometimes fanatically...I guess I am crazy. LOL

lisar replied: If you were to look at my 6 year olds legs right now you would think I beat her with a stick. I didnt. But it looks that way. Raygen not so bad yet. She did skin up her knees over the weekend though.

moped replied: Jack had a phase when he was always getting hurt - it comes and goes. SOme days are worse than others!!!!!
DOn't worry - he will have all sorts of bumps and bruises
You wouldn't believe the bruises and his legs, if we took him to ER they would for sure take him away from us

A&A'smommy replied: Alyssa gets hurt a lot she has scratches, bumps and bruises all over her literallly its awful.. but poor thing she is JUST like me she is clumsy and she can't help it!!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: yep Kaitlin as well seems to hurt herself quite often. I hate the bruises that seem to pop up on her legs, when they do its vitamins with extra iron, deffinalty helps with the bruises healing faster.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Oh good, so my kid is not the only clumsy one. Lisa, I totally trust what you say since you have older kids. You can't carry them around in a bubble, I know this...But man is it hard to let go. I'm actually pretty good at the playground and let Wil do just about anything he wants, as long as the play structure is suited for his age. But he climbs things that seem a bit hard for him and I just let him go. He always feels real proud, so I see the positive in letting them "fail" (or fall) sometimes. I just think boys have a tendancy to take more risks, physical ones, and I suppose that's what really scares me. Hopefully Wil can get it all out of his system NOW so I don't have to worry later...One can wish right!

Boo&BugsMom replied: Tanner has two left feet, so yep! Esp. with boys...they have no fear!

luvmykids replied: Yup, mine have bumps, bruises, scratches, etc. Everywhere, all the time

My3LilMonkeys replied: Madison is my little daredevil boo boo kid. She is always scratched, bumped, bruised, etc everywhere. That child knows no fear and has the scars to prove it!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Rae, my thoughts on this have become, He gets hurt more often now because a year ago, walking was still new. He was WATCHING where he was going. Now, walking is old hat and he is so busy going, he doesn't watch anymore. Logan has avoided ER visits since the peanut breakout at 15 months. But he's constantly got bruises and scraped knees and bumps on his head. Our ped just looks at him and says, "Well, he's got bruises in all the right boy places."
I am one of the most laidback moms I know. My uncle commented on it last year when Logan bumped his head at the cabin. I dusted him off and sent him on his merry way. He said, "Geez, Kelly, for a first time mom, I'd think you had 5 of them already." My response, "Well, after heart surgery, most everything else is small potatos. If I can't see the bone and he's not spurting blood, it'll all be good."

MyBlueEyedBabies replied: Matt is just starting to not be hurt ALL THE TIME. Or it's teh lull before teh storm as soon it will probably be broken bones instead of goose eggs. Johnny will probably start any day now as he's just starting to get mobile. I almost canceled Matt's 18 month well baby because he had just jumped off the couch and missed the pillows hitting the side of the table with his face and I refused to walk in to the Dr. with another major facial injury. He had had one EVERY visit since we started going to that ped at 8 months. The nurse did reassure me they are used to it and most of the boys they have typically have injuries when they show up.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Good words to live by Kelly! Thanks for a smile!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied:
You're welcome. Glad it made you smile.

DVFlyer replied: We were just talking about this last night. It seems one of the kids is hurt at least twice a day. Yesterday was 4 times. What can you do? They have to learn somethings all by themselves. All you can do is try your best to give them a (relatively) safe environment and hope for the best... and keep ice packs nice and frozen.

TheOaf66 replied:
do you?????

Tanner is always falling down, getting scrapes or whatever, he is such a clutz

Torbian02 replied: As a personal survivor of many injuries as a young lad, I think it is something good for you. Just like the old wives tale, "get your sickness out as a child, and never be sick when your an adult." I am a personaly believer that children should scrap there knees once in a while, and try some things that "might" get them hurt. And I think it is okay for parents to let kids figure this out, unless it is something that could seriously injury a child.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Hey is that Lars??? Cool to see you on here! We love your girl Nadia! Anyhow, welcome and thanks for the response. I think what you said is a very good way to look at it.

I let the boys play pretty rough, probably more so than most parents I know. And I really let Wil do what he wants on the playground. I know that he will never learn to be careful until he gets hurt...Minor injuries that is.

luvbug00 replied: trust me Rae, he would know I've never seen so many childhood scars on one person in my entire life!

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
LOL! My DH is the same way. He has this huge scar on top of his head from hitting it on a diving board. And football scars, and hockey scars, and falling out of a tree, and a scar above his eye that I can remember what from...the list is endless! Boys. I have maybe a handful of scars...One being the large incision from my Csection, but the others were just minor falls from riding my bike. Boys just seem to be bigger daredevils.

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied: We have a saying for Meg. She is not a clutz, she is gravitionally challenged. When she was a toddler, she would watch wear she had been instead of where she was going and always turned around just in time to walk into a door frame. Now she is 8 1/2 and still always gets hurt. On Sunday she was riding her bike and all of a sudden I hear her crying. I go to the bathroom to see what is wrong and her hand is bleeding, both knees are scraped up and her chin looks horrible. I finally get out of her, that she was on her bike and went to stop, but her bike didn't and she hit the brick part of our house. All I could do was shake my head. Two days prior she flipped over the handle bars. She is not using her brakes correctly and hence she keeps getting hurt. She trips over the floor and still sometimes doesn't look where she is going. I hope she will out grow it, but who knows. All I can do is bandage up the boo boo's and send back out to play. Good luck with yours.

Torbian02 replied: I agree, you don't want the children to get too hurt!

Anthony275 replied: my brother is full of scars. he hasnt gotten hurt in about 3 years which im happy about, no more seeing him in the hospital and suffering

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Rae - when they're this young, they're not going to go jumping off a cliff into water.

Falling down a step or two is ok, when you're trying to teach them to clib properly and to hold on to the railings.

You need to sit on a chair, or you might fall off. That lessons sucks... and you try to catch them of course so they don't crack their head... but they still hurt themselves a little bit.

hot drinks are not for kids... have a hot tea or something - just hot, not scalding... hotter than bathtime usually is... and if they touch the cup, they won't touch it again.

You as a parent, will most likely know the actions your kids take, whether they're REALLY dangerous, or just a little owie's worth of dangerous. DO let the kid take a tumble off the booster seat if they don't want to strap in... but don't let them run in the road, kwim?

You as the parent needs to examine if it's worth your own heartache and worry to see your child do something and KNOW they're going to get hurt from it...and to YOU, is it worth their little owie to learn the lesson?