Do you get another shower?

TeagansMom609 wrote: Do you get another baby shower after your first child? My Mom said no, only for your first. But what if the baby is a different sex? You would think you would get another one. Anyone know "the rules"?

Josie83 replied: Not the foggiest, Kelly, sorry. We don't have baby showers over here!!

How's your sickness, by the way? xx

Alice replied: I think that, as a rule, your mom is right. You already have all the big stuff, and don't get another shower.

But my family does "sister showers". We all get together and hang out, and get small gifts for the mom-to-be: clean stretchies and onesies and so on, regardless of the sex of the new child.

mammag replied: I didn't......but then again, I'm lucky I got the first one. Someone at my office had to throw me one because no one in my family was planning to.

I have, however, heard of people having them for other children if they have a big gap in age.

JAYMESMOM replied: We are the capital of showers here in Michigan. LMAO

Generally you don't get a second shower unless it has been 4+ years since your first and it is a different sex. Sometimes a close friend may throw a little shower if it is a different sex and it has been like 2 or 3 years.

amynicole21 replied: I didn't have one, but I had another girl so I didn't really need one. It would have been kind of nice, though

gr33n3y3z replied: your Mom is right

I have 4 kids and only 1 shower

But with the other 3 we had lots of gifts from friends and family

mom2tripp replied: I think you only get one unless your kids are more than 4 years apart, like someone else said. Would be nice though just to get together--maybe a girls day or something like that

ediep replied: well I had a huge first shower, so I wouldn't expect a second, at least not from my family but my friends have been throwing small showers for the second child in our little group.

kimberley replied: i guess i am the odd person out because i had a shower with each of my kids. it is less about getting gifts than it is about celebrating the new life coming into the world. if you feel weird about it, you could always have a coming home party when baby is here. i never did cuz i was too exhausted and limited visitors the first few weeks, but some people prefer it. it's up to you really.

stanleygirl replied: I got one for my 2nd too, but it was very small and just family with a few close firends. Not tons of gifts or anything , just a celebration of the new baby on it's way.
However, this is not common here, and some ppl think if you have a 2nd one it is just a gift grab. (none of my inlaws agreed with a 2nd shower, so they didn't come-no big deal lol)

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I would have to agree with your mom. Even if it's a different sex, people will give you clothes and stuff when the baby is born. Or these days, I would imagine friends of yours have kids and they can hand clothes down to you. If someone offers to throw you a shower and they won't take no for an answer, well then I think it's okay. But I wouldn't register.

booey2 replied: We only had one for Matthew, but when Thomas came along everyone came over once he was born and in our family it is tradition to bring a gift not only for the new bundle of joy but for the older sibling so he/she doesn't feel left out.

MissyKay2005 replied:
I will be having another one this being my second child only being there is 9 years difference and I kept nothing of Brandon's things ( not planning to have anymore anytime soon). I think it is all in what your family does casue i have known others to have more then one shower even when there close to age. You may not need the big stuff anymore but the littel stuff can add up that you need.

MommyToAshley replied: I think your Mom is right on the rule, but I think all babies deserve to be celebrated and have a shower. I would never ask someone to throw me a shower, but I wouldn't tell them not to do it either. I love baby showers and wouldn't think anything bad about going to one for a secord, third, or fourth baby. I just love buying baby stuff.

mckayleesmom replied: I watched an episode of the Baby Story on TLC once and they had a shower where everyone brought a gift that their baby had used before....I think it was called a Recycle shower....It was really neat...because alot of people gave her things that they charished alot or had been a lifesaver to them.....They planned to continue recycling the gifts each baby that came.

MomToMany replied: With 5 kids, I only got 1 baby shower. So your mom is right.

A&A'smommy replied: OKay I'm editing this because its sounded kinda rude anyway everyone I have known has had one for all of their babies!!

My2Beauties replied: I have friends who had showers for their seconds kids of a different sex, but if it's the same sex they usually didn't! I would have still went though, you tend to throw and give stuff away with your first anyways, I know I have. Also if there is a big gap between your kids we usually do for our friends and family. I think if someone wants to throw you one, then don't say no. I know where I used to work they threw a girl a Dipe and Wipe shower at work for just diapers and wipes to last her the first few months of her second baby! That was a neat idea I thought.

kidsarecrazy replied: Yeah, I am sure it depends on the situation...I know my mom had a small one when I was born, but that was because I was 8 and 12 years behind my siblings and my parents had gotten rid of all baby-related stuff because they didn't anticipate me... I guess it depends on whether the mom needs baby items or not.

~KARA~ replied: Im on baby #3 and only had 1 shower! And my youngest 2 dont have the same dad as my oldest. My inlaws wanted to give me one with my youngest dd, but I said no. My mom goes crazy when she finds out theres going to be a new grandbaby and buys everything i need before im 6 mo along!

Kaitlin'smom replied: loooks like it veries on hear, but either way you should celebrate the new life. If you dont get a shower than paln on a welcome home gaathering when your up for it.

We did do one for my sisters 3rd since there is a gap of 8yrs and its her second marriage, his first baby. With her second I sent her clothes and such, she was out of state so she did have a shower since it was other family that did not get to be around the first one.

If I were to have a scond child I will not expcet a shower, If they have one for me great if not I will plan on a welcome home for the baby once I am ready for a large crowd.

iluvmysweetiepies replied: I've had 3 showers between my 5 kids. I had one with my oldest, one with the second oldest (with a gap of 7 years), and one with the twins. The 1st one was big, but the 2nd two were smaller and mostly just close family and friends. I think of it more as about celebrating life and being with close friends/family before the birth than about tons of presents.

Mommy2BAK replied: Wow, I am kind of surprised by all these responses, because everyone I know has gotten a baby shower for every child. Maybe we are just weird here in Arkansas?

5littleladies replied: Wow! I would love it if I had gotten a baby shower every time. I've only had one though. I thought if I was having a boy then maybe I could con someone into giving me another one, but I guess it's time to dig out the hand-me-downs once again.

coasterqueen replied:
same here. For me even though I had two girls they were both born during different seasons so almost all the clothes I have for Kylie, Megan can't wear. She can wear some of them but the majority of them she can't.

TeagansMom609 replied:
Thanks for asking! Im STILL sick. Its torture!!! My neighbor who is 2 wks behind me with her pregnancy just gave me 8 spare Zofran that she had. It was funny, we met out back in the dark, she handed them to me in plastic wrap. LOL, it was like a drug deal!

A&A'smommy replied:
You poor thing I hope it gets better soon

LOL about about the pills

paradisemommy replied: i was under the impression you only have one like everyone says but apprently it's different over here in hawaii because i had 3 different showers with taven (dh's family/civilian job/military job) and dh's family just threw me another one a couple weeks ago..but i would have been perfectly happy not having another..

i guess i'm just spoiled cause i got a TON of stuff (but then again this baby is a different sex then my first)..

Boys r us replied: I had one for each of my pregnancies, but my kids are 6 years apart! I don't see why you wouldn't have another baby shower, I mean..pretty much anyone you invite to a shower are the same people who would buy you a gift if you didn't have a shower! KWIM!