Do you ever get hassled to have another kid

Celestrina wrote: My DH and I do not want to have another child. Sometimes my MIL will leave some not so subtle hints that she wants us to have another. Does this happen to you? How do you handle it?

MyLuvBugs replied: All the time, but then the MIL and my only Mother follow it up by saying "But I don't think you both are ready for another just yet" WTH? So do you or don't you want another grandchild? It's very confusing.

CAMSMOM1 replied:

ITA, I get the same thing from everyone! One moment they are telling me they can't wait for us to have another baby....but then say we should wait! They're confusing! I know the thought of us having another baby is thrilling to them, but then they realize that I need to lose some weight first, and I want to go back to school, and spend some more time with our son before we have another.

My advice to you is to tell your MIL why you have made this decision. Most people don't understand why you would only want one child. But if you and your DH have thought about this, and know that you are done having children, just explain to them your reasons. Sure, it's easy for them to tell you to have more children, but they aren't the ones having to stay up all night with them, buy diapers, ect. Hopefully they'll respect your wishes. And you never know, down the road you may change your mind. Your son is still very young, and a lot can change once he gets older.

But I know how the Grandparents want to push for more children! It's their dream to have a bunch of grandkids....so you can't blame them for their dreams!

Ann

MamaJAM replied: Sorry - I'm no help there.....mostly our families live in fear that we WILL have another baby!

Next time your MIL leaves a hint - just tell her that if you and your DH ever do have another baby - you promise to tell her....but, until then, she really needs to drop the subject.

Kaitlin'smom replied: I got that ALOT before we had our daughter for YEARS finally the subject droped and we got the best suprise. I do get comments here and there so whens the next one. We dont plan on any more. I have a good comment for them but it not apporiate for here.

ediep replied: every day!!!

My DH wants another now, and everyone else tells me "jason is getting so big, its time for another" even strangers say that...its rather annoying

MomToMany replied:
LOL, same here! But what I hate is when they say "Oh, you need another girl to even the numbers!"! We really don't care what the gender is, as long as s/he is healthy!!

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
ditto!!

we get asked ALL THE TIME when DH is gonna get snipped.....

Celestrina replied:
Strangers have said that to me too. I usually tell them that there were complications during Ben's delivery and I cannot have another. It usually shuts them up and makes them feel like dirt.

MomToJade&Jordan replied: I have basically said to all that I'm done. After having pre-eclampsia with Jordan I just don't want to take that risk again. Yet I get this so are you going to try for a boy. Uh no. We tried for a boy we got Jordan and I'm perfectly happy with that. Is there some law written somewhere that the family isn't complete unless you have a boy? Yeah I know it's that whole carry on the family name thing, but it's not going to get me to try again.

coasterqueen replied:
Grrr, I so hate that too! At Christmas this year I got, so when are you trying for number three....the boy?

Course I'm not sure if I'm done or not. I really could care less if I do have another and it's a boy or a girl. I wouldn't have another just to try for a boy. DH thinks he's done though.

mom2tripp replied: YES ALL OF THE TIME!!! And I'm constantly telling people, I might be done. For some odd reason they think I'm crazy and insist that I have another to try for a girl!!!!!!!!!!! It makes me so angry!!