Dh is gone

coasterqueen wrote: I feel such a void right now. I've been away from Dh for weeks, a few months here and there for work but all before having children. He was away 3 weeks last winter when it was just Kylie and I, but we knew he'd be back in 3 weeks. 3 months (actually 99 days) seems so much longer.

He's only been gone 7.5 hours and I am a mess. Not because I'm taking care of two children, but this just seems so real. I look around this house and I feel like he's never coming back. I know that sounds silly because he will be coming home, but I just feel horrible.

Kylie still doesn't understand he's going to be gone a long time even though we told her. I went to check in on her a few minutes ago and she asked if daddy was home yet. I peaked in on Megan and all I could think about was "is she going to remember him?".

I don't think I can do this.

moped replied: Ahh Karen, it must be so hard - I am so sorry you are feeling sad. It will get better and we are always here!

luvbug00 replied: Ohh Karen! I'm sorry that you are feeling soo down! Don't worry Megan will remember him. ( their memories are amazing!) Well we are here if you want to vent!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Big hugs Karen!! I'm so sorry ~ this must be so hard for you. I'll be praying that the time goes by quickly for you and the girls!

mummy2girls replied: (((HUGS))) I am so sorry! I wish i knew what words to say to help your feel better:(

amymom replied: I am so sorry. I feel for you and wish I could say / do something to make you feel better. But, I can't. Please know I will say a special prayer tonight for you and your girls.

5littleladies replied: I'll be praying for you and the girls Karen. Hang in there!

kayla's mama replied: Sorry that you have to be apart from DH so long. I'll be praying for you and the girls and for DH. Hang in there, take it one day at a time. Before you know it he'll be back

Mommy2BAK replied: I am so sorry you are going through this Karen. Remeber that we are always here for you when you need us.

Mom2Boyz replied: BIG BIG hugs for you and the girls HE'll be back before you know it

3_call_me_mama replied: Karen I've been thinking about you guys all day You and the girls are inmy thoughts and prayers for a quick passing of the 99 days! Also Ryan is in my prayers for a safe trip and a safe stay while he is away. You can do it , I know you can. HUGS!

holley79 replied: Karen,

I am so sorry sweetie. I know the feeling all to well. My dh was gone to Iraq for long periods of time. It does feel like a void but the girls are going to keep you so busy that the time is going to fly. I worked full time and I had my own version of "While you were out." Not the best of ideas. LOL. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Holley

Jamison'smama replied: Oh Karen, I have been thinking about you today. I am so sorry. I know it will be hard--I can't imagine.

Time to think--projects! Christmas planning--you could create something awesome to give him. Anything to give you goals to make it a tiny tiny bit easier.

Hang in there---

CantWait replied: Take it from a pro hon, you can do this....you'll come out better because of it. Hang in there and remember we're there if you need to talk. My PM box is just a click away.

coasterqueen replied: Thank you everyone for your p&pt's and words of encouragement. I sure hope this time goes fast. Kylie spent all morning watching and re-watching the tapes of her daddy (the ones he recorded before he left). She just kept talking to him and didn't understand why he wouldn't talk back to her. I hope it gets easier for her too.

DansMom replied: 3 months IS a long time. I hope the days fly by for you!

TANNER'S MOM replied: Aww Karen! I am so sorry. I know this is so hard.. and it pains you to watch your children.... but as with anything time will make it easier. I know it is hard right now.. but just think postive thoughts.. and try to do something for yourself while he is gone..

I wish everyone on this community really did live close in a community.. you know the parenting community down off Hwy SO SO... the one with beautiful houses and the kids are soo cute running around.. and those cute little ponies in the yards..lol

I wish we lived close enough to lift everyone up and really be there for you. I wish we could have a Karen night.. and celebrate what a great mom and wife Karen is.. we'll cook for you.. and the kids will all play.. and we can play pictionary.. and just draw Karen.. related stuff..lol Sounds like fun right.. Oh and I am going to throw my socks in the floor.. just to help you not miss Dh..

Well, I am just being silly I know.. but I wish I was close too you.. to help you.. But since I am not.. I am praying for you.. I am lifting my voice and claiming peace in your heart and home... and your Dh to return home in a hurry!

love ya'

Mel

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I hope that time goes by fast for you!!! Thoughts and Prayers to you!!!

Kaitlin'smom replied: YOU CAN DO IT KAREN, sure it will be hard but as hard as it is you have to stay postive around the girls. Please let me know if there is anything I can do.

ediep replied: Karen

I hope the time flies by for you and the girls!
I wish you were close by, you could come over for dinner every week!!

Sending P&PT to you!!!

3xsthefun replied: I'm sorry, I know this is hard. I really hope time will fly by for you all.

You know we are here if you ever need to talk.

gr33n3y3z replied: Karen it just seemed like yesterday that you were talking about this
He will be fine and home before you know it
And the girls will keep you so busy

(( Hugs ))

ions_momma replied: I know this must be hard. I couldnt even imagine! Im sure everything will be fine!

jcc64 replied: We're all behind you, Karen. I know it seems undo-able, but I think you'll be so busy with the girls that the time will probably go much faster than you anticipate. You guys will settle into a routine, and before you know it- he'll be back.

kimberley replied: hang in there hon. you are a strong woman and you can do this. i agree with keeping yourself busy and once you are in a routine, the days will fly by. Kylie will adjust in no time and Megan won't forget him. one look in daddy's eyes when he is back and it will be like he never left. Marie is right, you will be better for this.. more independent, stronger and it will give you and DH a greater appreciation for each other. you'll be proud of both of you . we are always here if you need to talk, anytime! p&pt for DH's safety and you to make it through this.

Jamielou replied: AWWW im sorry he will be home before you know it

My2Beauties replied: Karen I know you are feeling so down right now, but hon this time will fly be I promise you. Do not worry about Megan forgetting her daddy that will never happen. When he calls make sure she can hear his voice and let him "talk" to her! Kids are very resilient and Kylie will be fine as well. Just make plans to keep yourself occupied and find "projects" to keep yourself busy and before you knw it DH will be home again and back in your arms !! Hugs hon and if you need me PM me, I am here to talk. You don't even wanna know the stuff I did to pass the time when Brian was gone for those 7 weeks. It's pretty funny!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: You can do this. You are strong...you will do fine. He will be home before you know it.

A&A'smommy replied: You can do it, your a strong WONDERFUL woman, wife and mother!!!!! (((((((BIG HUGS))))))

jem0622 replied: Are you a member of any local clubs (MOPS, Moms Club, playgroups?). That would help keep you company and keep things going. I went through something similar before the kids. It was partly refreshing b/c I could eat a bowl of cereal if I wanted to every night! LOL.

Many hugs. Time really does fly!

mammag replied: I'm soooo sorry Karen. I can only imagine how hard that would be. You guys will be okay and he'll be home in no time. The girls will do fine.