Desiree's step dad went ballistic - on her and her mom last night

My2Beauties wrote: I haven't posted anything about this because it's really personal for Desiree and her mom, her mom and I are really good friends and even though she doesn't come on here or know any of you or anything I still didn't wanna air her "dirty laundry" so to speak. But what happened last night is just the last straw I am so afraid for them and we don't know what else to do. OK just so you know Desiree's mom's name is Staci, her step-dad's name is Niles and their son's name (Desiree's little brother) is also Niles, we call him Little Niles or baby Niles a lot of the time. He's 4. They have been going through a really horrible divorce. None of the thigns he was doing to her really came out until about a little over a month ago when she confided in me as to the stuff he'd been doing to her. He is a really bad alcoholic. OK every single time you pull up to their house he has a beer in his hand. He was always quiet but for the most part cordial with brian and I. We always thought he was a little too quiet and not very friendly but I always said to Brian what can you expect to be like to your wife's ex-boyfriend who she has a child by, it is probably awkward for him ya know. I'm not that type of person because I've become very close friends with Desiree's mom but maybe to him it's just weird ya know. So he was always just nice to us but quiet. I always thought he was just one of those functioning alcoholics. You know those people that drink so much every day that nothing gets them drunk anymore pretty much, he still goes to work everyday, makes a living, provides for his family etc. I know it got on her nerves but I just figured she put up with it because he was tolerable when he was drinking. I find out the total opposite is the truth. About a month and a half ago she started telling me how he threatened to burn a cigarette out on her face, and that on another instance he had flicked a lit cigarette right in her face. I said Staci that's awful, I said what did you do to him. She said well I just started arguing with him about how disrespectful that is, etc. She said all his friends were standing around when he did it too and none of them said anything to him. So, then she proceeded to tell me about his drunken rages where he's tried to take Baby Niles with him while he's been drinking and leave and she said one night she had to hold Baby Niles as hard as she could to her chest while he beat her upside the head numerous times trying to get her to let go and he threatened to kill her! So....I was like Staci what are you going to do...leave him come stay with us, leave him now. She said she was going to file for divorce. Well once she mentioned that to him things have absolutely spiraled out of control. He's come home at night (which he's not supposed to be there, that was their agreement, that she'd stay there and he'd go somewhere else) and he's called her out of her name, threatened to rape and kill her, knocked her to the floor and got on top of her back and bent her shoulders back to the point where he bruised her collarbone. He took off with Baby Niles about 2 weeks ago at 3 in the morning drunk after he'd hit her and cut off the power (Desiree wasn't home), he threw her cell phone in a ditch and she had no phone or anything. She was able to reattach the cord he cut the power off from and the phone came back on and the power she called the police. He pulled up at the same time the police did, they asked him to give the child back to her and told him to stay in a hotel... they did not even arrest him! She said she begged them too and they wouldn't. Then last night is when it got bad. At midnight Brian's cell phone rang and we were dead asleep. He didn't get to it in time, he woke up stumbled around and his phone stopped ringing, he picked it up and said I don't recognize this #, he said wait I have a text message, so he read it and he said Oh my God LeaAnn...and he started running around putting clothes on I said what what what what's going on....so then my cell phone rings. I pick it up and Desiree is screaming and crying in the phone, I could barely understand what she was saying, she said LeaAnn Niles knocked my door over on top of me and my mom and he hit my mom, he broke my cell phone, I mean that's all I could understand. I said Oh mY God Brian go get her now Niles did something to them please go now...he said give me the phone he asked her where they were, she said they wre across the street. So he said I'm on my way, I said what did your text message say, he said it was from 20 minutes ago I must have not heard it, it said Dad Help Niles cut the power off...I had chills, my heart just sank. I hadno clue what he had done to either one of them. So I called him about 15 minutes later, he had already gotten there and Desiree answered the phone. She said he was helping her mom get their clothes and talking to the police and stuff. They had helicopiters out searching for him. Here is what happened before we received the call: She was putting Baby Niles to bed and Niles came in the house drunk. She said I don't think he was just drunk, she thinks he has been doing drugs as well. She said she doesn't know because they lead 2 different lives. She said that he started saying Baby Niles come here away from your mom she's a wh*** and no good, She doesn't lvoe you. Baby Niles was like no my mommy's not leave me alone and was crying. She said he started screaming I'm not buying you anymore toys or taking you anywhere ever again if you don't coem with me. She said he was screaming crying at this point. So she said Niles go away leave him alone you're scaring him to death. She said at that point he walks out back and she knew what he was doing. About that time all the power in the house went off. Desiree said she was in her room listening to everything. Staci calls the police and tells them what is going on, he comes back in and hits her twice in the chest really hard (she has marks) while she is holding Baby Niles. He keeps saying B**** give me my son or you're gonna see my go crazy, she said Niles I called the cops you're already going crazy you need to leave. So she said she screamed for Desiree to call her dad and she ran into Desiree's room and locked the door. She said for about 5 minutes you couldn't hear him at all, she said he was going and doing something with all his drugs she figured (because they eventually found paraphenelia that she had no clue was in the house and they found some drugs, just mainly marijuana but she knows he's doing something else because she said you can just see it in his eyes that he's on coke or something really awful) so she said that they locked themselves in there, and after 5 minutes he came in there and started banging on the door. So she said her and Desiree put all their weight against her door trying to hold him back and he broke through the door and landed on top of them. She got up grabbed Baby Niles and was screaming at him to leave he said I'm gonna kill you and came after her and then the cops banged on the door and saod Police open up..so he took off running to the back door. Staci let the police in and they took off after him on a foot chase, they never found him last night She said he grew up in that area and has family all over the place and one of them probably took them in. So once the police got there they ran across the street and their neighbor let them use their phone. So they came over to our house last night, and Brian left with Staci to go take an EPO out on him and they took an ECC out on Baby Niles which is an Emergency Child Custody order, which gives her full custody. They are going to be staying with us for a week because he doesn't know where we live. Staci only has her sister and her mom and he knows where they live. I'm really worried at this point guys. I never realized how crazy he really was, seriously. Brian and I had no clue she was hiding all this. And she said up until last night, Desiree knew they argued but he'd never went off in front of her before. She was horrified you guys, I can't believe she had to witness that So now they are with us, and I know he has no clue where we live but guys...it's easy to find out on the internet when you know a person's first and last name. I'm going to call the phone company today and request our phone number be private so that if he tries to look it up on the internet our address won't pop up. I'm scared that he's going to hurt her. I seriously doubt that he'd try to come to our house, he's a twig compared to brian and not that Brian is violent but I've seen him fight a guy before that was hitting on a woman with their child present and it wasn't a pretty picture, he busted the guys head wide open with one punch, so I seriously dont' think that NIles has the gall to come to our house. He is a convicted felon so he can't own a gun but God it doesn't mean that he can't get his hands on one I'm sure. I'm so afraid that if they leave our house he's gonna find Staci and hurt her. I'm scared of what is going to happen when they grant her custody, she's scared ot death that he is going to kidnap Baby Niles. This is so scary. I hope they catch him, but Lord knows he'll get out on bail and be out. He's absolutely insane. He's threatened to kill her so many times in the past few weeks that she is so scared you guys! I don't know what else to do, I mean the crimes that he's committed is not going to land him in jail for a long time....and what little time he'll do is only going to let him sit and stew about it and get madder. I'm also scared because if Brian gets a hold of this guy, he's probably going to go completely off because he threatened Desiree and called her all kinds of names and broke the door in on top of her and stuff...Brian is furious. Absolutely furious! Thi s is absolutely awful. I could really use some prayers right now that they catch him and do not let him out on bond, at least we'll have a week's peace before their court date.

grapfruit replied: Oh my God LeaAnn I'm seriously shaking right now. I offer all my thoughts prayers and positive vibes to you guys. Thank God you and Brian are such good people that you can give them a place to stay. Thank God you are so wonderful that you have such a good relationship w/Staci.

I am praying HARD that they find him fast!!!!

danahas4monkeys replied: Oh gosh those poor kids and Staci, and you guys! Coming from a formerly abusive marriage I just wanted to say you are a special person for being there for her and the kids she will really need your support! I hope this all turns out well for all involved and he goes to jail for a long time, although they rarely do !

momtoMegan&Alyxandria replied: My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

lisar replied: OMG.... Thats horrible for that to happen to them. I am glad they are staying with you even if it is his ex, I would under the circumstances. I am so sorry that Desiree has to go thru that. I hope they catch him and hang him.

amynicole21 replied: God, that is terrifying. Poor Desiree - I can't imagine how scared she must have been. I really hope they find him and put him away for a while at least.

momofone replied: You should get a security system for your home to protect everyone. I'm sorry you and your family are going thru this scary time.

luvmykids replied: Wow that made me sick to my stomach Thats great that you and Staci are such good friends, she must be so grateful for that right now. I hope she's getting a restraining order, I know that doesn't always stop someone but at least it would make it punishable if he tries to come near her. Lots of prayers for all of you right now

A&A'smommy replied: OMG LeaAnn... that is awful!!!!! I hope they catch him quickly and NEVER let him out I'm Sending LOTS of prayers for them I hope she is able to get some peace now.

Cece00 replied: Very scary.

I think you & she should get security systems and it goes without saying she shouldve changed her locks long ago so he couldnt get into the house anymore.

She might even want to move.

I hope they catch him soon. They should be able to pick him up @ work, you might tell the police to check there a few times this week, as he probably will go to work.

My2Beauties replied:
Yes she told them everything, where he works, they have his license plate since his vehicle was in the driveway, incase he somehow gets to it today bring sneaky while no one is around, they know where his relatives live and everything. They're looking for him big time supposedly. Let's just hope they catch him. She already did put a restraining order against him, well an emergency protective order, an EPO. She also took an ECC out on her son so she has full custody right now. They were downtown last night for 2 1/2 hours filling out the paperwork to do it. Yes I am going to look into an alarm system and we're going to do everything we can to help them out. This is awful!

momofone replied: They might be able to track him thru his credit card use. Like if his wife knows what card he has and he uses it you can see what town the purchase was made in. Or she might want to cancel cards and check banks accounts so he doesn't take all the money.

My2Beauties replied:
Thankfully they never opened up a joint account, their accounts are seperate.

Anthony275 replied: oh my god this is horrible, im i feel so bad and especially for the 4 year old, hopefully he won't remember it when he's older. you are a good person to take them in with you

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MommyToAshley replied: Yikes! I agree, take all precautions. I'd see if the police can patrol your area more often and I'd look into getting an alarm system installed.

Poor Desiree and Baby Niles.

Danalana replied: This is just awful! I pray they find him soon.

Insanemomof3 replied: That is awful! I hope they find him and can keep her safe. What a horrible ordeal.

MoonMama replied: That is so awful! I am so sorry this is happening. Many thoughts and prayers are bing said.

gr33n3y3z replied: I hope the heck Brian doesnt touch him bc he isnt worth jail time for
Lots of prayers for all involved and for the children I hope this jerk goes to jail.
I'm glad your keeping them safe

redchief replied: That sounds like it came right out of a terrible horror movie. You're a good friend for taking her in.

holley79 replied: WOW honey that is horrible. I'm glad you all have a great relationship to where they know they can depend on you and Brian to have a safe haven. I hoep they find him soon.

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Oh LeaAnn...that's awful!!! I feel so badly for them. I will be praying that it all works out for Staci, Desiree and Baby Niles. I hope they find him and lock him away.