Dad kissing daughter goodnight on lips

rubytuesday wrote: Is there anything wrong with Dad kissing daughter goodnight on the lips. She is 12, has been in puberty since age 10, I feel uncomfortable when I see it. He says he has always kissed his daughters on the lips,..... but now they are not babies,
any feedback?

MomToMany replied: There's nothing wrong with it. She's still a child.

gr33n3y3z replied: There is nothing wrong with it
Why do you feel that there is?

Allyson&Patrick'sMom replied: I see nothing wrong with it.....it is HIS child. I gave my Daddy kisses on the lips and never thought about anything than him being my Dad. I also kissed his cheeks...

Boys r us replied: There is nothing at all wrong with it...I know a lot of people who continue that through their whole life..kissing family on the lips!

Now..I mean, there is nothing wrong with it, within reason..of course as everything else..there are boundries, but I assume you're not speaking of anything distinctly sexual..you just seem to mean a simple kiss on the lips instead of the cheek..and that I feel there is NOTHING wrong with at all! I kiss both of my boys on the lips and don't see a need to stop until they indicate they would rather not?!?!?

Not trying to insinuate anything, but is it possible that you have underlying things from your past that make you umcomfortable seeing this?

MomofJandB replied: I don't think there is anything wrong with it. If the daughter is uncomfortable with it, that would be another story! I still kiss my dad on the lips when saying hello and goodbye. It's just a sign of love, nothing sexual. Is there a reason it makes you feel uncomfortable?

Jamison'smama replied: I still kiss my dad on the lips--I see nothing wrong with it personally but I agree with what Nichole said as well.

kimberley replied: my grandfather STILL kisses all female relatives on the lips and he is 87yo! i see absolutely nothing wrong with it and am very curious to know why you felt there might be. my dad had a gf once who accused him of having relations with me when i was a teen because she was insecure at how close we were. my dad and i were both mortified that she could even think such a thing! she didn't last long!

Kaitlin'smom replied: I dont see anything wrong with it, unless one of them is uncomfortable with it. I still kiss my dad on the lips when we hug goodbye, its just a quick kiss. Alot of familes do this and there is nothing wrong with it. Guess it would also depend on how you are rasied

moped replied: Nothing wrong at all - our family is affectionate and I will always kiss Jack on the lips until he says he is too cool!!!!!!!

It is wonderful!

My2Beauties replied: Desiree is 9 and Brian still kisses her on the lips, I kiss her on the lips and she is my stepdaughter, it's just a sign of affection, I don't see anything wrong with it at all!

MommyToAshley replied: I agree with what everyone else has already said. As long as both of them are comfortable with it, I don't see anything wrong with it.

A&A'smommy replied: I agree with everyone else

mom21kid2dogs replied: Actually, Rubytuesday, I agree with you, I'm not used to the look of it, either. My daughter is 4 and still kisses me on the lips but my husband wasn't comfortable with her kissing him on the lips so he steers her to his cheek. I come from a very affectionate family but I can't recall ever kissing either parent on the lips. We're just a big 'ole cheek kissin' group, I guess! It likey has to do more with the differences in how your family demonstrated affection as opposed to your husband's family.

akbutterfly83 replied: I agree with everyone too.... I still kiss my grandpa on the lips... and he's 77, almost 78.... and my mom kisses him on the lips too... there isn't anything wrong with that....

until she says stop, or she's uncomfortable..... there sholdn't be anything wrong with it.

Josie83 replied: I agree that if your daughter and her daddy aren't worried about it then you shouldn't be either. I don't see any reason why you would be. My husband always kisses our little girl on the lips and I see nothing wrong with it. He's her dad at the end of the day! xx

paradisemommy replied: nope - nothing wrong..we're a lip kissing family all around!!

amymom replied: I agree with everyone that there is nothing wrong with it. (As long as that is all there is)

However, I totally understand your uneasiness. We are a kiss on the cheek kind of family. The majority of the time we have cheek kisses. I have a SIL who has yelled at her children for turning a cheek to Aunts & Uncles, and tried to chastize my children about it as well, till I told her No. My kids do what is comfortable to them. I insist on respect.

MomToJade&Jordan replied:
I was going to say that I still kiss my Dad on the lips. We are an all around kiss on the lips family. I agree with everyone else. I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

maestra replied: I understand your uneasiness- dh and I both come from cheek only families. It does make me feel uneasy to see families that kiss on the lips- just because I was raised that lip kisses were romantic. Everyone does things differently.

But as long as the dad is just giving peck kisses, and it's nothing passionate or anything, I wouldn't worry.

TeagansMom609 replied: My sister is a cheek kisser, im not I kiss everyone right on the smacker! (except my Dad because I have alot of problems with him) But I dont see anything wrong with a little girl, or even a grown woman kissing her Dad on the lips. Mom, Dad...whats the difference? Their both your parents!

loveydad replied: No problem here. I still kiss my son on the cheek sometimes or forhead and he's 17, because it's not a sexual thing it's a daddy thing.

If she's comfortable with it then great!! If he's not comfortable he can always kiss her on the forehead instead.. I think there's no problem.

It really makes me mad when people make big deals out of stupid little stuff like a daddy kissing his baby girl or a man taking his daughter to the restroom (there's no reason he needs to go in there with her if she's potty trained of course).