DH's 15yo neice is pg - everyone just found out

amynicole21 wrote: DH's neice is 15, beautiful, intelligent, mature... and pg. 7 MONTHS PG - and her parents JUST found out. She has been hiding it all this time and has gotten no prenatal care Her mother happened to see her changing clothes and saw her stomach. She rushed her to the doctor and they found out she's due in December. They also put her into therapy to find out why she would hide it. I guess she's going to keep it, though her father is pushing for adoption. His whole family is sick with worry and guilt about how they could have missed it for this long. Who knows what the 17yo boy who got her pg is going to do, but I imagine he's not very interested in being responsible now either.

moped replied: Ahhhhhhh that is really too bad for everyone involved - How they seem to be able to hide it that long is amazing...................I hope everything works out for the best!

SOUTHERN MOMMY replied:

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh Amy that is so sad. I am terribly sorry to hear that. I hope things will work out for the best. Your family will be in my thoughts.

gr33n3y3z replied: I hope everything works out well

six_kids_at_28 replied: I know that her herself must be going through a lot. That is why she hid it. My only wish is that the baby's dad steps up to the plate

Good luck to her

Maddie&EthansMom replied: That's so sad. Her life is over whether she gives up the baby or not. She is no longer a child. How terrible. I will be praying for her.

mommy_loves_chase replied: I hope things go well, and everyone can work things out

PrairieMom replied: How sad. I hope that things turn out okay. Sounds like there is a lot of stuff to work through. This is going to be a very tough time.

mummy2girls replied:
its possible. I hid mine from my employers for 7 months because i didnt want them to fire me as i needed the money. i did eventually tell them at 7 months and they were happy for me i hid it underneath lots of baggy clothes and such...

mummy2girls replied: I am sos orry you are goign through this:( Ill be sending p&PT thier way!

C&K*s Mommie replied: ALL of our concern for her and the well being of this child is with her. I hope that her family stays supportive throughout, enough to lack for the support that she may not get from the father of her unborn child.

TeagansMom609 replied: I hope everything works out for the babys sake. Thats really young and without her parents she wouldnt be able to do it. I feel for her parents.

mckayleesmom replied: Im not going to say her life is over....Shes just starting a new chapter and will have to grow up sooner then she should have to. I wish the best for her and her baby and hope that she can make this work.

six_kids_at_28 replied:
Dito!

I was preggy at 16..lost the baby when I was 3 mo preggy...but still..

holley79 replied:



I don't know how she kept it hidden that long either. I hope that everything works out.

mom21kid2dogs replied: My DH's niece let her mother know she was pregnant when she needed a ride to the hospital to deliver. I saw her in Dec (baby born in Jan) and thought she had put on a little weight but she didn't look pregnant. It's not really that hard to hide it if you try and you have the right body type. Hope all will work out for the best for your DH's family.

Boys r us replied: Oh lord!! Poor girl! You know..who knows what was going through her head all of this time, but I'm I bet, even though I'm sure it's humiliating for her, that she's glad she doesn't have to hide it anymore!

kit_kats_mom replied: Oh wow. Well, it sounds like she has a good support system. She is probably relived to not have to go through this by herself.

My2Beauties replied: Poor thing, I just wonder what she was going to do when she went into labor, bless her heart! Well I hope that everyone doesn't jump her case and that they are supportive of her! She needs it right now!

CCTandME replied: With my 1st I didn't tell my employer until January. I was due in March. I told my mom 6weeks BEFORE my due date. I was afraid she's be disappointed because I wasn't married. I was so wrong. She was soooo excited!!
With my last pregnancy I didn't tell my employer (diff job) until 20weeks.

Kaitlin'smom replied:
sorry amiee but I have to ask why do you say her life is over?


sad but I hope everyting works out for him.

jem0622 replied: I know this is a very difficult time. I have a friend who hid her pregnancy too. It isn't uncommon, but I am so glad her mother found out. My friend went with adoption, and she and the father split.

I gave up my first child, a daughter, at birth nearly 13 yrs ago. I was 18 when I had her. The father was 16. It was in my daughter's best interest to be in a stable, loving place. It was not an easy decision, but I knew what was best for her.

This girl needs a lot of support right now. It isn't a time to be angry. If the father is not around then keep him away. It's easier that way.

Her life is far from over. It has only begun. You can be a young parent and be very successful. It will definitely strengthen her and give her purpose and direction...it surely did for me!

HUGS

DansMom replied: I think at that age you are afraid of what your parents will say and go into a kind of denial about it. One of my employees has a daughter who did the same thing--hid her pregnancy until she was 6 months along--and she couldn't believe she missed it either. She's going to need a megaton of support to finish high school.

Jamielou replied: I also dont think her life is over.... yes it is way too young to have a child but with support from her family she can do it. i wish the best for her in whatever she decides to do

My sister hid her pregnancy until she was almost 7 months because she was still in highscool and wasnt 18 yet but she knew my parents would make her terminate the pregnancy or give the baby up and she didnt want to do that....

she is a very small person she just looked like she put on a little weight and wore baggy clothes..

I hope everythings works out for the best

Maddie&EthansMom replied:
I probably didn't use the right words there...sorry. I just meant that she won't be a child anymore and that her childhood is over.

JAYMESMOM replied: It is sad that she hid it for so long but at least now her mom and family knows so she can get the right care when the baby appears. I hope that your the family can support her and give her the love that she so desperately needs.

Whatever her decision - even if you disagree remember to be there for her. If she asks your opinion feel free to give it but do so with love.

3xsthefun replied: That is so sad. I hope everything works out fine for her and the baby.

ilovemybaby replied: It sounds like she was too scared to tell her parents incase she got a bad reaction... if she is 7 months along she obviously wants to either keep the baby or adopt it out.
It would be nice if she kept the baby - she sounds like she would make a good mother despite not getting any prenatal care... If she is intelligent and mature I am sure she will be a great mother. I know a lot of younger moms and they are great mommys. I know there are the few that are still too immature and can't even look after themselves...
Either way, atleast they know now... it must have been a big shock to them. I hope things work out.

A&A'smommy replied: OH hun I'm SO sorry I can't believe she would hide it for so long to your family I hope they work things out easily!!

ilovemybaby replied:
I understand what Aimee is saying. I don't know why but I just can't see it as a sad situation though... I am sure things will work out and she will love her baby. I always see children as a blessing and something that should never be taken for granted.
But I totally understand about the losing her childhood thing... I've been there and I was only 7. Sometimes I wish I was a child again because I know I missed out on a lot of stuff. I still love playing with kids toys and playdough etc... LOL *hides under a chair* I can't wait until Christmas when I can give Abby her Baby Amore doll so I can see it going hahaha

mommy2owen replied: Hope everything works out well...


My little brother (17) had a beautiful baby boy in July. His girlfriend just turned 16, 2 weeks before Cody was born.

ions_momma replied: First of all, for you and everyone in your family. I know it must be very hard to find out about that. 7 months is a long time to hide it for sure. I hid it for 4 months, and it was hard. I just hope that your fmaily will be there to support her in whatever decision that she makes. I know a girl who got pg when she was 14 and had her baby when she was 15 and she is a wonderful mother and her son is so well taken care of. It amazes everyone that she knows how great of a mother she is.

ediep replied: so sad.
I hope it works out for the best

sending prayers to your neice

ashade75 replied: AimeeNicole,

Sound's like Dh's niece just needs support and love from everyone. It is hard being pregnant and a new mommy, but it is even harder when you're a teen.

I had my daughter when I was a teenager in highschool, and I hid it from everyone until I was in labor. I told my sister, "MommytoAshley" only because I needed a ride to the hospital.

Now as an adult looking back on it, I realize that was really stupid and I could have used my family for support.

I was so afraid to disappoint my family. I was scared!

The best thing you can do for DH's niece is let her know that you are there for her. Encourage her to take care of herself and teach her to be a good mommy. Give her as much love and support as possible. She'll make it!

I'm proof, ask "MommytoAshley"! It was really hard but with family support she can do it. Her life isn't over, it's just different. My daughter is 15 now and doing very well in school. Actually she ranked first in her class this year. I couldn't have done it without the love and help from my family.

CantWait replied: I was 17 when I got pregnant, and my grandma is a strict catholic, I managed to hide it from her for about 5, almost 6 months. I bet she was just scared, and didn't know how to tell anyone. Best of luck to her. I hope the father steps up to the plate.