DH and I talked it over... we think we've come - to a decision...

Hillbilly Housewife wrote: we're not going to move right away. We're going to stick it out for the next year - and we'll see if they hold up their end of the bargain. We've already got the proftis... we're only missing the cottage / land / idunnoanymore.

We'll see if we get the rights to build, or the actual land.. because at the moment - the story is, we get the right to build... and apparetnly it has to be a type of duplex cottage with DH's uncle... they build the outside, we build the inside.

Anyhoo...we're going to try to stick it out until next march... and I'm going to be staying at home with the kids. It won't be until at least the end of march... cuz I need to get organized to have the kids full time here - meal planning, activities planning etc etc... so probaly by the end of the month - i will be joining the full time SAHM group.

Wish me luck.

coasterqueen replied: Good luck!

That's great that you get to SAH, right?

MyLuvBugs replied: I hope he's going to speak with his Father about that tude he sent you in that email. But I'm glad you've both worked out some of the problems. Good Luck, and keep us posted.

CantWait replied: Hope it works out for ya. I know how much you like to get out of the house for a little bit. Hopefully he gives ya that much needed break once in a while, and speaks to his father.

luvmykids replied: congrats on staying home. hope everything else works out the way it's supposed to, and it sounds like you're both in it together, which is always good.

BAC'sMom replied: Good luck

CAMSMOM1 replied: Well I'm happy for you, it seems like you are happy. I know that it'll be awesome for you to be a SAHM.

So whatever happened with his FIL? Did you & DH talk about that any?


I wish you the best of luck!!!

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: I am happy that you and DH have made a decision and have set a time limit. It always makes me feel better to know that that cause and effect thing is working. You know, if it doesn't happen, then we move on. Good luck to you. And have fun being a SAHM.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Yes, it's great that I get to stay at home. But I will need to get out once in a while... my kids drive me up the wall... but like I've said to DH - working during the day, then coming home and rushing to make dinner , eating, bathtime, bedtime... and then cleaning and doing the stuff I need to do in a small sliver of time was contributing to me not liking being at home.

Now that I will not be working during the day, I can take as much time as I need to to prepare meals etc...but I am not the stay-at-home type - and that will need some adjusting on my part. I go crazy with cabin fever locked up in my home all the time, and since I don't drive... I was kinda relying on work to take me outta the house. Oh well - it's good to live where I do in this case.. there's everything I need, I don't have to run to a store to get something... I can just go to the internal drug store.. heh heh

DH has no idea where his father got his info. Maybe it did come out of the blue.. maybe it didn't - but DH is still swearing up and down that he never said a word of it to either of his parents. I talked to my mother about it - as a confidante - but my mom and I have that kind of relationship... and she hate the outlaws too - hee hee - she's just nice to them when we're over... otherwise, she tends to avoid them as much as possible.

Here's to hoping I don't go batty!

C&K*s Mommie replied: Glad to hear that you two with be staying put!
Hope you enjoy the full-time SAH part of it. But we all need to get "out" at times, or we will go batty. Enjoy it though.

Maybe your FIL had been stewing, with any comments that had been made in the past, and had perceived those things just by watching. It does sound as though he had been wanting to get those things off of his chest for some time, and without prompting by your DH confiding in him-- he must have been building up to explode the way he did. As rude and uncalled for as it was.

MamaJAM replied: Good luck -- I hope everything falls into place for you guys.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Ditto!

A&A'smommy replied: Good luck hun I hope they will keep their end of the bargain up or that you will at least be happy!!!