Crying to Sleep?

holley79 wrote: Ok I feel just horrible. I have rocked/ nursed Annika till I thought my arms and boobs were going to fall off. I lay her in bed and she instanty wakes. I warm up her mattress so she isn't laying on a cold bed and that helps a bit but she just doesn't want to go night night. I finally just raise her bed rail, walk out the room, and close her door. I have to walk out the front door where I can't hear her wailing because I will go back and get her because I'm a huge wimp. After two minutes all is quite.

Am I going to cause her sleep issues by having her cry herself to sleep at night?

ediep replied: sleep issues with 2 minutes of crying?? No way!!! 2 minutes is perfectly normal in fact 2 minutes of crying is great!!!

JAson did that for a while too. You are doing the right thing, in my opinion. She'll get used to it and eventually she probabaly won't cry at all

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
ITA! Learning to fall asleep on their own is important. Believe me by doing it now you are saving yourself a whole lot of trouble too. I waited too long with Andrew and it took him a lot longer than 2 minutes to fall asleep. I don't know how many months of rocking, singing, and hanging over the crib patting him until I thought I would drop I spent before I finally had enough. After a couple nights of crying though he learned to just go to sleep (it's really cute too he wiggles around and hums to himself until he falls asleep ) and he stopped waking up every couple hours at night.

PrairieMom replied: CIO is a touchy subject for some. It depends on what you feel is right for you and your baby. We let Ben CIO when he was an infant and it worked well for us. The first couple nights were a nightmare, he would scream for 45 minutes before finally falling asleep, but in a week or two he was falling asleep in his own, and is a wonderful sleeper now.

As for Ally, we are still working on her sleep habits. I'm not sure how we are going to handle her yet.

Either way, good luck!

coasterqueen replied: Some say yes, I think it does BUT there are a lot of people out there who believe in CIO and think it doesn't harm the child at all. I say go with what works best for you and your parenting style.

I couldn't do this with Megan if I wanted to because she refluxes and chokes too easily for me to dismiss her crying. With Kylie I just sat there, even if it took all night, which sometimes it did or we just co-slept (which is how we almost always did it).

GL

skinkybaby replied: 2 minutes of crying is not going to hurt her at all. Good luck!

boyohboyohboy replied: i think 2 mins is also ok. i bet its the same as if you took her to the sitter and left, she just would rather be with you, and lets you know it with 2 mins of crying, and then when she decides well you are not coming right back then i will go to sleep. i would say she is perfectly adjusted.
you are doing a great job.

holley79 replied: Thanks ladies. This whole parenting thing sometimes stinks.

I think we will just continue to try it. She is very healthy so I'm not worried too much when she cries.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I think 2 minutes is nothing. I am a CIO method type person. I agree with everyone else about it.

luvmykids replied:
Can't add anything to these girls!

I know it's hard Holley, it's only temporary She'll get over the hump and you'll both feel better.

Nathansmom replied: When Nathan was 9 months he was waking every 45 minutes at night and we had to let him cry to learn how to fall back to sleep, instead of nursing. I went in every 5 minutes to lie him down, pat his back and leave again and it worked. I now have a great sleeper who rarely ever wakes up and who just talks to himself in be before he falls asleep. I couldn't ever just let him cry and not check on him, but our pedi thought going in every 5 minutes worked well.

holley79 replied: Thanks ladies. I really needed that. Glad to know I'm not setting my child up for lasting effects and give her something to tell her shrink when she is older. I'm sure there will be plenty of other things with out adding that to it.

mom2my2cuties replied:
IF she happens to remember this to tell her shrink - then apparently you did an AWESOME job as a mom because she had NOTHING else to complain about. Cry it out is VERY hard - Andrea is so spoiled and I am like you, a wimp, I can't handle the crying. I give in to the "Mommy I scared" when I know it's just she wants me to come in and snuggle because if we ask her what is scary she says "I not scared'