Calling all working moms...

daycare mom wrote: Is there a separate spot for moms who work out of the house? Just need to talk.

MyBrownEyedBoy replied: Not really, we kind of all blend together. But I am a working mom. Feel free to chat away.

PrairieMom replied: I'm both! I work part time, everyother weekend, on the night shift! The rest of the time I am a SAHM.

coasterqueen replied: No there's not a seperate forum for us WOHM. If you need to talk....talk away we are here and listening .

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I am a full time working mom, always here to listen.

My3LilMonkeys replied: LIke everyone else said - no seperate forum, but there are lots of us here and we are willing to listen and talk anytime!

daycare mom replied: Cool, thanks. I was just starting to think that I was the only mom who was working at an outside job! I've been checking out this other site (for ECE workers, like daycare providers), and they've been having this big discussion about sending infants to daycare. I think the majority of the comments basically said that unless you are a single mom, and it is necessary to work, you should stay home all the time. It was making me feel guilty, I guess. (Although, I have to say that I lucked out...I work at a daycare, and get to bring my daughter with me!)
I mean, yes, my job pays for my car, and if I moved to the city, I could live without a car. But then rent would be a LOT higher. So either way, I'd be working. And I do need something else to get me out of the house.

What do you all think?

luvmykids replied: I'm a SAHM but I think it's a totally personal call. For the most part (ha ha) I'm enjoying staying home but there are days I truly wish I worked, maybe even just part time. So many moms have so many different reasons for working or staying home and personally I don't think either is wrong or right. They both have their challenges and their benefits and it's totally up to you!

The only thing I felt guilty about was when I was still working for my husband and it was really only part time, but I'd take the kids to daycare and find excuses to drag it out just because I didn't want to pick them up and go home! It wasn't them being at a sitters that I felt bad about, it was the way I felt that bothered me.

We all do what we have to do to feel like we're doing the best we can for our kids.

CosmetologyMommy replied: I go to school full time and when I graduate I will be working part time!

daycare mom replied: Well, I'm glad I'm not the only one!

I get to go on maternity leave again starting in July....and I'm already thinking about work after. With 2 kids, it may not be worth it to go back to work. I love my job, but after taxes and daycare, I'd be working for half the pay.

TeagansMom609 replied: Im a full time working mom. I could not stand to be home everyday. I would get such bad cabin fever, and eventually would go crazy from boredom. Im on maternity leave now, and im going batty. My son will be going to daycare when I go back to work at 6 weeks and I am NOT happy about putting such a young baby in daycare at all. I wish my mother or MIL was retired!

1moremakes4 replied:
I was looking for a new job when I was about 5 months pregnant with my first daughter. My mom told me that since I was already out of a job I should think about staying home with the baby. After all, that's what she did. I basically told her that unless she was going to help us pay our bills, I needed to work. I didn't like the idea, but sometimes that's the way it is. Just like you, I found a job at a daycare and when my daughter was about 3 months old a spot opened at my center! I was so excited. If you've got to work.....what better place than your own child's daycare. I got to see her every day, all day.

MichaelsMommy replied: I work full time too. Had to go back when the baby was 8wks. Was terrible
but got better as we go along. I don't think I could afford 2 in daycare at this
point - one is enough of a stress on the bank.

PhiMuMommy replied: HI.. i'm coming in late in the game because i have been MIA>. but i'm a fulll time student and i work part time outside the home as well.. i would love to stay with a daycare so i could see my son more. but i would be afraid of a conflict of interest. i mean other parents don't want you spending more time with your kid than theirs.. they send their children to the daycare with personal attention for their child also in mind. that is just my opinion.. i'm lucky enough that both sets of grandparents are here to babysit.

do what will make you happy and what is best for you and yours.

Hillbilly Housewife replied:
Hee hee - Our daycare for the older 2 kids is open from 7:30 to 5:30.... Dh usually drops em off around 8:30 or so... but when he gets home at 4: he always asks me if I want him to pick up the kds now... and I always reply - are you KIDDING? We have until 5:30 of FREE TIME - ENJOY IT!

Pretty bad, I know. But - as much as I love my kids.... time without them is nice too.

daycare mom replied:
I do my very best not to give my daughter special attention here. I think I'm doing alright. She's been coming since she was one, so she knows all the rules, and how to behave, and also how to share me!

I may have to go back to work earlier this time, I have a small home business that I can't pass off to anyone else. If I go for a year without selling anything, no one will remember that I even have it!

lesliesmom replied: I work fulltime too. Both of my kids went into daycare at 6 weeks exactly. I got extremely lucky by finding this great home daycare. She is literally another mother to the kids. I totally trust them with her and would hate to have to put my kids anywhere else. She takes them to school, on outings, etc.

There are days I do feel guilty about not being able to stay home with them but we need the double income (I'm the main breadwinner in my family and he provides the benefits)...especially with #3 on the way and #1 starting kindergarten in the fall.

widgetX12 replied: Hello. I graduated from college in December. Isaac attended daycare while I was in school full time, and hes still in now but only 1/2 the time he was in before. Im currently looking for a job myself!!