Boy, this annoys me!!

MomToMany wrote: We went to the grocery store yesterday to get stuff for the game. At the checkout, the chashier (an older lady) said, "One, two, three, four- are the all yours????". I said, "Yes, all FIVE of them!" in a real pissy tone. She said, "Oh, I forgot the baby. Wow, you got your hands full!". I am SO SICK of hearing that comment!!! Yes, I'm busy, but I don't need idiots like HER telling ME that!!






Thanks for letting me vent!!

Boys r us replied: I'm sorry for your frustration, I'm sure it does get old hearing that.
But I am sure she didn't mean any harm by it and I think that most people just aren't accustomed to seeing large families in today's world, the days of 2's plenty, KWIM?

It's like anything else, people are always going to notice things that are different, I'm sick of hearing.."wow, your boys look so different" well no $#*% I mean in today's world of divorced, remarried and single motherhood it is not abnormal..and it's pretty obvious that they are 6 years apart..so could very easily be from different relationships. And my best firend gets sick of walking around the grocery store with her two 1 year olds and people saying,"Are those twins?"

But like I've told her, you've just got to remember that no matter HOW many times you've heard it, it's not the same person saying it..so they don't mean any harm and are just being "observant" in their minds and naturally curious!

Kaitlin'smom replied: I would have to agree with Nichole while it does get old hearing that most people are not used to seeing the large families anymore. I admire you for being such a strong person to take care of them and still wanting more. You truly are a great mom.

MomToMany replied:
Awwww, thank you Di!! I know I shouldn't get upset by it, but It does get so old.

And when we were at the salon getting Hannah's hair trimmed up again, there was this lady there ( ). I had Ethan, Hannah, and Kayla with me by myself. They were being restless, but nothing out of the ordinary. They just wouldn't sit still. Anyway, this lady said, "Wow, you are busy!". I said, "Yes, I am. And the other 2 are at school!". I loved seeing her jaw drop, LOL! Luckily I was in a better mood that day!

Kaitlin'smom replied:
awww dont feel bad about getting upset we all have thoes comments that bug us.

5littleladies replied: I've never had that happen to me yet-After all I only have 3 so far , but I would be incredibly annoyed too. Why is it such a big deal when a person decides to have a large family?

A&A'smommy replied: I don't understand that either I want four kids (three by birth one by adoption) I love kids and I know I could never have 5 or 6 kids I truly admire you for doing it!!!!

mckayleesmom replied: Awwww...Mollie..I would not get annoyed....Personally If I had 6 kids..I would take it as a compliment when someone says that to me because you are doing something they probably couldn't emotionally handle...KWIM?....I grew up in a family of 6 kids...Im the middle and whenever someone said something like that to my mom she always looked pretty damn proud of herself. We are all grown up now and now the proud face comes when someone says "NO WAY YOU HAVE 6 KIDS".....My mom also had 3 of us all in diapers..including me. I would also like to add that Im not saying that people with less kids work any harder, I just think that everyone would love to have the patience and emotional well being to raise that many, but many know they don't. I would love to have tons of kids,,,but my body is wiped out and Im just learning with 2.

loveydad replied:
I think I know how you feel. Maybe? A little bit?

When Peter was about 2 months I ended up in Walmart with all 9 of the kiddoes. I had two carts and had Hen pushing a stroller with the twins in it.

OMG rude people. Someone comes up "Those aren't babies, those are a litter" and honestly I go "screw you!!" I'd been up for about 24 hours straight at that point.

Not long ago I had Peter Andriana Nicky Carter Clara Tracy and we were in a store, and someone goes "ARE THOSE ALL YOURS!?" and like starts having a seizure over it. I'm going "most of them, yeah."

Recently I've taken to "Yes, I have 10 little loveys about to run around my house. Do you have a problem with that!?"

Yes. It's annoying Mollie I agree. WHat makes me mad though is hwne people say "better you then me" to which I retort "Yes you're right because you seem to be the type of person who's way to narrow minded to be able to take care of this many kids."

As for,you must be busy. "Ah no not at all, the kids change them selves, feed themselves, and are generally well behaved. But, there's always a whip if they get out of line!" that shuts em up!!

Oh and try being a single dad with 9 kiddoes in his custody. OMG the crap I dealt with! I'd go out with just the twins and Tracy when the twins were only... 3 weeks old? And people would go "shouldn't your kids be wiht mommy? surely she wouldn't let them go so early" im like "their mother is California. on business" like I really odn't want to know she's in cali basically ditching us and probably cheating on me. GRR

Everytime I go out with the kids "what a good daddy giving mommy a break" . Yeah, they don't actually have a mother. Sometimes I just have to kinda sigh and go "yep." . But i really don't like pretending that I'm not (or wasn't at the time) their sole means of support. I mean, they're mine, and I'm proud of them, why are people so thick headed that they can't see daddys care too!?!!?!

GRRRRRRRR! *spits fire* Now that angers me!!
GRR! I don't like stupid people!!

Alice replied: I only have 3, but whenever I get the "hands full" line, I respond that I love it, and imply that they should be envious. Much of the time it's true, and they don't have to hear about the rest of the time!!

texasp3 replied: People are just careless, aren't they? I honestly think they don't pause to ponder what is about to come out of their mouths and how it might make the other person feel.

I've always wanted a bunch of kids... but fate had different plans for me. I'm simply delighted that I FINALLY got to have number two after waiting fifteen years.

People have said stupid things to me - when Michael (my older) was little and I looked SO young. And now that I have two kids soooo far apart - and by two different fathers (oh, gee, how UNUSUAL - dripping sarcasm). If they REALLY piss me off, I have been known to respond with "I'm sorry, do I know you from somewhere?" to which they inevitably reply "No, I don't think so." And I come back with "Oh, so you're just comfortable making intensely personal comments to total strangers. Huh. That's kind of wierd." and I walk off like THEY'RE the whacko, not me. Which is true!

loveydad replied:
LMAO! You go!!

FroggyJK replied: I'm getting that crap from my mom right now about having #3!!!!!!!!!

Just because she only had two kids, she doesn't think I will be able to handle 3. And I hear it from her almost every time I talk to her..... "Boy, your gonna be busy!"....... "You sure are gonna have your hands full!"....."How are you going to do that with 3 kids?" :sigh: She drives me nuts I just say sarcastically to her "Thanks for the encouragement, Mom"

FroggyJK replied:

I love that line!

MomToMany replied: LOL, thanks guys! I got some good ammunition for next time!

Sorry you get all that same garbage loveydad. It IS frustrating, but something we have to deal with. I'm going to try to feel special when people say stuff like that. I came from a family of 7 kids, I'm #3.

gr33n3y3z replied: I agree with Nichole
ppl. just dont think at all
Except I was always used to hearing it bc My Aunt and Uncle had 9 BOYS my uncle would tell them ppl. I was trying for a girl lol which was true but he stopped at 9 with no girls

coasterqueen replied: Yep people just don't think at all, really. Sorry that happened to you Mollie. I know that big families aren't the norm but I'm seeing them coming back actually.

kit_kats_mom replied: that does sound kind of rude. I always make a comment like "gosh, you sure have your hands full but what a lot of fun too!". I can't imagine more than two but my energy levels are pretty low. I admire you.

My2Beauties replied: You're a great mommy Mollie...don't listen to those people's comments! I like all the comebacks you guys had!

MomToMany replied: Awwww, gee, thanks ladies! You guys always make me feel better!

mammag replied: I get that all the time. It doesn't bother me so much because I usually also get comments on how well behaved they all are. I also usually have the two kids I watch with me so sometimes I'm out with 6 . People like to try and figure out which ones are mine.

What I hate is when people make comments like "there are ways to prevent that you know". That makes me furious....as if I'm just careless or there is some reason I shouldn't have had 4 kids. I figure it's just bitter people who have nothing better to do in life than try to make people feel bad. I should feel sorry for them really.