Biggest Vent Ive ever made

mckayleesmom wrote: Oh my gosh. My family is a horrible soap opera. All HE ..double hockey sticks broke out at my moms house last night with my older brother the screw up. He got into a fight with my mom yesterday and and she told him to leave if he didn't like living there. He got mad and pushed her tv and vcr off the entertainment center, stole the rent money, the keys to my moms care and left. He tried to come back and my mom tried to hold the door shut, well he got the door open and hauled off and punched my mom in the face. I cannot believe he did that. She has a huge gash on her face and had to go get stitches. My younger sister called the cops,,they came out and said they couldn't arrest him because he lived in the house....#1. He doesn't live there, he was suppose to stay till he got back on his feet and got an apartment with his baby...#2. Since when do you not arrest people for punching someone in the face?...I told my mom to call the police station and talk to the Cheif of police and file a complaint against the officers that came out.

Then I asked my mom where the baby was and she said that my brother dropped Timmy off at my sisters house down the street and told her that if he wasn't back in 3 days to call Timmys mom to come get him....NICE BUDDY....

So I proceeded to ask my mom what my older sister had to say about all this. And she said that my sister was taking his side because she thinks that my mom was trying to take all my brothers money since shes not working right now. That shes just sitting around....Ok,,now Im mad, because if my mom is just SITTING AROUND,,,why is she practically raising both your daughter and my brothers son 90% of the time while my brother goes out drining or playing on the internet and while my sister works...for free. Half the time my mom has Ashlynn and my sister is sitting at home. They take trips out of town for 2 or 3 nights...Where does Ashlynn go....my mom....For FREE....they don't pay her. My mom before was working full time before on the graveyard shift and watching Ashlynn during the day.

A little backround....My mom has no backbone at all. She is one of those nice people that let others walk all over her. We moved to Illinois when I was a sophmore in high school after I kicked my dad out of the house cause my mom didn't have the backbone to. Yes,,,my mom didn't want him there, but my dad can be violent sometimes and she was afraid of him. So I kicked him out. My dad knows better then to mess with him because when Im mad, Im just like him and we will have a fight. I won't be some little girl that takes a beating from any man without one heck of a fight. I am really a nice person, but when it comes to men hitting women, it doesn't fly with me. Anyways,,,after I moved and got married my Older sister asked my mom to move back to California to babysit her daughter Ashlynn...The deal was that my mom and sister could stay in their guest house , RENT FREE as soon as the other tennant moved out. They said he was moving soon. Well I told my mom not to do it cause Jennifer just wanted someone to be a nanny for her daughter and it was going to backfire. But she didn't think it would happen this time. Well after a 3 months of staying with my sister in her home, they informed her that they were going to take on another tennant that would pay rent and help my mom get an apartment. They helped her find an apartment, but she had to go get a job to pay for it. She could have kept her job in Illinois if that were the case. Then you would think that they would at least pay her for babysitting Ashlynn instead of the free apartment she was suppose to get. She hasn't seen any money at all. And Ashlynn is over there all the time. I know that my mom loves her grandaughter, but if I had my mom babysitting Mckaylee like that, I would pay her. She watches her more hours then a full time job. So you can see why I am mad when she said that about taking his side.

Well then my sister calls last night and says that the landlord wants to evict her for all the noise that went on that day...Thats nice. So my mom told my sister she had to go out and find a job tomorow to try to get the money for the rent she still owes...She has been layed off. Well guess what my sister says? Well,,if you get a job, then who's going to watch Ashlynn? Exactly...find someone else to do it,,and you can pay them to do it.

I can't believe the nerve of them too..My mom has 5 kids. Them 2 have one dad. And me and my younger brother and sister have another, we also have an older sister from my dads previous marriage. So there are 6 of us. All growing up, my mom struggled to make sure we were fed and clothed,there were times when Im sure she didn't eat. Even my older sister from my dad is close to my mom, and has been helped by her in the past too, but shes more greatfull then the other two. Without any child support from their dad. Their dad owes my mom over 60 grand in child support. So instead of Dustin going to live with his dad in his big fancy house,,,,my mom lets him move into her 1 bedroom apartment with a baby and your not greatful. And mom watches both your kids and you act like this.

Here is what I wish would happen to both of them. To my sister...I hope you go broke and have to move into the getto..get every wrinkle you deserve, and turn really ugly,,,cause it would match your personality. Face it sister,,,you are now a washed up beauty peageant contestant and face it,,,you never won any of them. ( I say that cause my mom worked her butt off to buy my sister thousands of dollars on peagent dresses for her even thought she was a single mom). Jennifer always got whatever she wanted. By the way,,,,I think your husband is still cheating on you....OOOPS,,,did mom tell me about how he cheated on you before you were married...uh ya....so your ,,were better then everyone else attitude is very humerous to me.

To my brother the women beater who is a coward. You think your bad,,but I pray for the day that you pick on someone worse and he takes a lousville slugger to you. You shouldn't even be walking the streets. You shouldn't even be a father. Mom should have left you in the mental hospital when you were a teenager and never looked back,,cause your nothing but mental.

And to the both of you. You think our mom owes you...I don't think so,,you owe her. She doesn't owe you a thing. Where were you when I was 14 and working to help mom pay rent? Mom might have borrowed money from you accassionally, but it wasn't for her, it was for the family. Get over it. Mom has borrowed thousands of dollars from me, but I gave it to her. I wouldn't dare ask my mom for money back. If she hadn't needed it, she wouldn't have asked. And she is our mother . Sure I might be broke, but unlike you, I don't have the heart to let our mom, little brother, and sister go without electricity or anything else for that matter. But you guys wouldn't know about anything about going without cause your too high up on your pedistools to see the rest of the world.

I seriously have never hated or been ashamed to have anybody in my family until now. You two are disgusting and you don't deserve to have a mom. If either of you passed away tomorow, I would not waste my money on a plane ticket to come to the funeral....and Im not exagerating.


Ok,,,done with this vent for now.
I can't believe these spawn came out of the same womb as me.

~CrazieMama~ replied: Oh my goodness, I am in a state of shock right now. This is the look on my face while reading. I am so sorry you have to go through all this. I pray that all will work out . I will keep you and our family in my prayers.

mckayleesmom replied: Im in shock too....I know my family is whacked,,,but this draws the line.....Do you think Im wrong in the way I feel?

~CrazieMama~ replied: Not at all. I would be very ashamed of my family if that happened.

DansMom replied: Is there any way to put a real scare into this brother of yours? The example he sets with abuse and violence is not acceptable. I know it might cause heartache for your mom, but I would call social services if I witnessed what you describe. The threat of having an investigation and losing custody of his child might lead to his getting some kind of counseling for his problems. Those cops were wrong---I thought they changed the laws for domestic violence so that cops would not just do nothing anymore!

I wish there were some way to help your mom stand up for herself too. Some people really believe that if they always give and give, things will be good in the end. The other person will change, or will realize how much she has sacrificed and be grateful for the help. But instead, things get worse and worse. The other person (husband, son, whoever) sees that he can do anything to get what he wants and the evil inside him takes over.

Sorry things are so bad in your family right now. I would pursue some kind of legal action against your brother. The other stuff---doormat mom, self-absorbed sister---I hope they see the light some day. It's great that you are so strong and perceptive. At least you set a good example for them.

A&A'smommy replied: wow...im so sorry you had to go through that!!!! It sounds like they are like their dad if he owes so much money to your mom!!! I feel horrible for your mother its horrible that she has to go through that she probably thought all the drama was over when they moved out.....it also sounds like they have a lot of growing up to do...and the kids omg poor kids but they have a great grandmother that actually takes care of them! Im so so sorry that you have to go through all that and your mom too i dont blame you for feeling the way you do at all!!!!! I know this wont help you feel better but heres lots and lots of (((((((HUGS))))))))

mckayleesmom replied: No he left his son with my sister. They worked so hard to get him and once my brother did get custody, he expected my mom to take care of him. He is not her child. That was not the plan. My was trying to help my brother be a good dad. He has 2 other kids that he doesn't see either. Their mom won't let my brother see them again. But I don't blame her, he just goes in and out of thier lives. I told my mom to call up to the police station cause that isn't right. But my sisters husband is a cop on the same force and Im wondering if he asked them not to arrest him and if thats the case I will be mad. Ive have never heard of a cop showing up and not arresting someone for leaving a black eye and a huge gash on a womans face because he lived there. Im trying to convince my little sister to get my mom to call my grandma and go stay with her for a while. I just can't believe they didn't arrest him. They would have had to find him cause he fled. So maybe thats why. They didn't want to try to find him. My little sister was telling me that he hit her so hard that she was standing in the dining room and my moms blood went all over her about 20 feet away. Now do the cops really want someone like that on the streets? She is suppose to go file a restraining order today. So she better look into why they didn't arrest him or Im going to be livid. My mom is one of those people that constantly forgives people and gets it blown up in her face. I asked her last night if she will finally walk away from this and she said yes. I told her that from now on, in my opinion he is not my brother and he is not her son. I just hope she learns this time. Im hoping she stays at my grandmas and then comes out here after she saves some money. She should have listened to me in the first place. I totally panicked when she told me that she was moving back cause I just had this bad feeling. And I was right. I felt better with her 6 hours away cause I feel like alot of the time Im my moms protecter. I can't help her from so far away. Plus I feel like my sisters protecter too..Yes she is 19 years old, but she doesn't seem like it. To me she is still 15. She just isn't up to speed with people her age. She so naieve.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: First of all...I don't know why the cops wouldn't arrest him. Maybe it's different in the States - but just because you live somewhere doesn't mean you can't get kicked out from there.

I lived with my grandmother for a few months a few years ago...and over something stupid (she got mad at me, threw a remote at me, which shattered on the stove, rebounded, hit me in the head as well as my friend's leg who temporarily lived tehre with me, and my first reaction was to throw the piece of macaroni I had in my hand back at her. It missed her. She called teh cops and told them I was abusive - how dumb is that? Well the cops showed up, they listened to my grandmother's side of the story...which was *I'm scared of my granddaughter*...and then both mine and my friend's side, which was *my grandmother threw a remote at us and it shattered, then rebounded and hit both of us...she was yelling at us and calling us names*

and the cops escorted both my friend and I out. AND we were both paying rent at the time. My friend had just moved in for a month, she had already paid my grandmother the rent for the month. So basically, we had no place to go for about 3 weeks, almsot no money since we had both just given her our $ for rent, and hence had to dish out an extra 1000$ between the 2 of us the next day when we got a 1 bedroom together.

I think that I owuld MAKE yoru mother get a backbone. Yes, he is her child and she will love him no matter what...but enough is enough. Has she changed the locks on her door? I suggest she get out of there, to go stay with a friend or other relative...ad not tell the other kids where she's going, so that they can't harass her even more. Then maybe when they realize that mommy isn't going to come to their rescus...they'll back off.

Maybe you shuold apply to Dr Phil.... heh heh (jk)

mckayleesmom replied: lol..you know,,one day Im going to write a really good book about my life...my actual life is way more dramatic then the Godfather any day.

mummy2girls replied: Wow i am so sorry to hear this. I am so shocked. I cant believe your brother had the nerve to punch your mother. I thought my life with my sis were the craps. I am going to send you some much needed hugs

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I know what you are going through. Your family sounds a lot like my family. There is always some drama going on and it seems to never end. It is such a long story that I won't go into it, but I know exactly how you feel. When DH and I moved away I thought that would get me out of the mess and wouldn't have to listen to it, but it just gave my mom a reason to call and gripe more. She would call everyday and tell me how horrible her life is. And it has been horrible. I told her that I had my family to raise now and I couldn't be burdened with what goes on in her life. (Where my brothers are concerned) It was too much for me to listen to. Now, 2 of my brothers are doing great and the other one, well, we are still working on him. I believe when I decided to let all of that go that I started feeling better about myself. I have literally wished death upon one of my brothers b/c I honestly felt that it would be better for him to die than live with such a horrible drug addiction. Today, we are best friends and we talk every day. He lives 30 mins from me and has been sober for 10 mos. I completely forgive him for all he has done to the family and he knows this. He knows we all love him and are moving past all of that. He was sick. It is an illness and he chose to get help. Now he is fine. The same with my other brother who is an alcoholic/drug addict. (All 3 of my brothers are alcoholics/drug addicts...2 are recovering) It has been a long road to get where I am today. I feel completely at peace with the decisions I have made and having to break ties with my family at times. It was rough and I hated it at the time, but that situation was not healthy for me and MY family. Nothing you do can change the situation. I wish with all my heart that you wouldn't have to go through this. It is so hard and I know exactly how you feel and where you are coming from. My mother is just like your mom and I am just like you. I refuse to let anyone walk all over me. It hurts to be that way when you truly love someone deep down. The best thing for you to do would be to love them despite their illness. I always said that I loved my brothers, but hated their actions. It is such a tough situation and again, I am sorry you have to deal with it right now.

aspenblue1 replied: OMG!! I am so shoked. 1st that her son would do that and her daughter would defend him!!!! That is awful. 2nd that he would not be arrested. I was speaking to one of my friends to husband is a police officer. She said he should have been arrested for assult!

mckayleesmom replied: Exactly...its domestic assault because last year,,the same brothers girlfriend punched my mom ( my poor mom) and she got charged with domestic assault only because she was pregnant with my moms child...she would have got arrested anyways,,but they pushed for domestic cause in a way she was related.