Baby showers

HuskerMom wrote: My mom wants to have a baby shower at the end of january. I'm really excited about it but I feel kind of guilty having one now since I just had one a little over a year ago for Keith. Does it look greedy that I'm having another one so soon?

Boo&BugsMom replied: I think it depends on the circumstances, the gender, and the geographic location. Around here it is not common for someone to have more than 1 shower in their lifetime, but in other areas I have heard it is very common. If the person was struggling financially, like a friend of mine recently that threw out ALL her baby stuff because she thought she wasn't going to have more, I wouldn't think anything of it. Or, if it was a different gender baby than what they already have and everything they had was geared towards the opposite gender (you're having a girl right, and already have a boy...so...). I think it depends. If your mom wants to, let her. It's not like you are asking for it or are throwing it yourself. If she wants to do that for you, then I would just go with the flow. If that were me, I'd be fine with it.

luvmykids replied: My grandmother would say that according to "etiquette" a woman has only one shower. But these days it's very common to have one for every pregnancy, and especially since someone else is throwing it for you, not you throwing it for yourself, I think it's fine

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I agree with Jennie, depends on the cirmcumstances. If different gender, fine. If you are in a financial bind and need more stuff, fine. If someone REALLY wants to throw one for you, just do it. It's true, in a lot of areas, it's common, but for me, the way I was raised, you only have one.

Long story short, don't feel guilty. When someone has offered to throw you one, I say go with it. You don't want to hurt feelings by saying no, plus a lot of people really want to spoil you regardless if it's your second child! Enjoy!

HuskerMom replied: I know I shouldn't feel guilty. I just don't want people to think that I'm only having one because I want new stuff, kwim? I'm still excited though, especially since last time my two best friends couldn't make it so maybe this time they can.

Calimama replied: It's something your family wants to do to celebrate the new baby, I think it's a good idea!

Brias3 replied: It depends, I would say. Personally, I only had a shower with my first, but its becoming much more common to do separate showers for each pregnancy.

Sounds like it'll be a nice opportunity to connect with friends and celebrate the new baby though, so go for it and enjoy!!

Danalana replied: I don't see anything wrong with it at all...I think this is something your mom WANTS to do for you...who cares how many showers you have in your life if it makes your mom happy?

grapfruit replied: You know what, I don't understand why it's "taboo" to have more then one. IMO it's a "celebration" almost to have a baby shower. Like you're celebrating that baby. Most of those pictures would go in a scrap book if you keep one. So why would it be fair for one baby to have the "party" and the other not to?


If you have everything you need just ask for diapers. B/c you can't have too many of those right?


OR you can have people get you inexpensive items you can donate to a local shelter or church.

I just think it's silly to say "No you've had a baby shower, no more!"

grapfruit replied:
See I agree! Party!

Danalana replied:
Come on down this way, and we'll have a shower for you too

Hillbilly Housewife replied: I only had the one shower. But I love baby showers... spoiling the mom!

A&A'smommy replied: I think every mom should have one with every baby!!!