BIRTHDAYS????

mckayleesmom wrote: Do you buy the siblings a gift on another siblings birthday?

When Russell was born we got Mckaylee a big sister gift. Then we got him something on her birthday. Then his last birthday we got her a grocery cart. Her birthday is comming up and along with her presents, we thought about getting them his and her kid recliners for the living room.....they are constantly fighting over seats.

Mckaylee and Russell are so close in age that Im afraid that one will feel left out when the other is getting presents. We call them big sister or little brother gifts.

Does anyone else do this too?

amynicole21 replied: Hmmm... we haven't had to deal with it yet, but I'm thinking we might get Sophia a little something for Nora's bday next month.

luvbug00 replied: My parents did this ( and still do ) for me and my brother. we are a year apart and we each get a small trinket on the other siblings birthday.

mckayleesmom replied: Good...Im not the only one....some people think Im nuts. Before we got them gifts such as toys, but from this birthday on, we will get them 1 thing that is the same and is of use ...not a toy. Like the recliners....

booey2 replied: We only got something for Matthew when Thomas was born but we have never repeated it. We did use a lot of distraction with Thomas at Matthew's birthday but they never really fussed that much.

JP&KJMOM replied: We always do that and probably always will. The one with out the birthday only gets one gift but it seems to make them not feel left out.

C&K*s Mommie replied: We do that too, and so do some of the guests we have at their birthday parties. Matter of fact, I have already been spying what I want to get for Christian for Kellie's party. If I got it for C's b-day in Nov, it would be too chilly to enjoy it. I want to find a Dora 4-wheeler like I saw on a commercial once.

PrairieMom replied: We haven't for friends kids, and I don't think we will for ours. These 2's birthdays will be so close by dates (2 or 3 weeks apart) that I don't think it will matter. I guess I really don't know yet!

3xsthefun replied: I've done that before also. I usually just get them something small.

coasterqueen replied: No we do not do that. We did get Kylie something when Megan was born, but that's it. A few other people actually did buy Kylie gifts when we had Megan's birthday party though. But Kylie was so interested in playing with her cousins that she didn't even want to open them up.

Kaitlin'smom replied: wow honestly I never heard of doing this. Good way of not lettign them feel left out and slipping something in they might need.

luvmykids replied: We don't but a lot of the family does. When they're a little older I think it'll stop, the twins I think next year should be able to understand fully what someone elses bday is about.

3_call_me_mama replied: No we don't do that. We get a big sibling gidft with the birth of a new baby and that's it. For birthday we teach teh kids that it is the birthday child's special day and they get teh presents and when it is there special day they get the presents. We haven't had an issue with it yet. And they are almost 2 and almost 4. The main reason we wont' do it is because when we got to others birthdays (liek friends and relatives) we dont' give them a gift just because that kid got a lot of gifts. And if we had started teh practice at home giing a gift when it was someone elses birthdya it would be confusing as to why they didn't get a gift at every birthday we went to. We do have them go and pick out a special gift from them alone to give tot the birthday child and they can help unwrap it if they want. When we go to a birthday Cameorn might bring a small thing he picked out for teh birthday kid and we tell teh kid he picked it out special and wants to open it with you and then we give a regular gift in teh pile of presents for the kid to open alone. (The small gift migh tbe a pack of stickers, a small book etc )
And we buy enough crap throught the year that we would just get teh recliner for the because we wanted to not necessarily on a birthday. (But luckily MIL got them both charis ! LOL)

AlexsPajamaMama replied: I remember my Nana did this when I was a kid. My brother and I are 2 1/2 years apart and she always got us something on the others birthday. One year my brother wanted a lizard for his birthday, so she got him that and got me a gerbil!!

fashionmumofboys replied: My younger boys are one year apart and they share birthdays 5 days apart, so for now I always celebrate their birthdays on the same day, and they have equal amount of presents so it works out great.

When I'm buying them stuff, I always get two of the same. Sometimes I feel like I have twins, because it works the same way for us.

NikkiM replied: We do, it is normally something small.

MamaJAM replied: When a new sibling was born - the new baby gave gifts to all of the older siblings (they were wrapped and waiting at the hospital for the first visit).

As far as giving non-birthday kids gifts...no, we don't do that. Personally - I feel that it takes away from the b-day kid's special day. DH's mother has done this in the past - bringing gifts for all of the grandkids to a b-day party -- I always felt it was rude any made any kids other than the b-day child(ren) open the gifts later and on their own.

As it is - we have so much 'birthday sharing' going on around here...we need to make b-days extra special. (ftr - Our two older girls' b-days are 4 days apart...and the boys actually share a b-day, so that one's really tricky!)

ashtonsmama replied: I would say for the sibling, if it's an older one like your DD, to just get something small so they don't feel left out...if it's a baby or something, I wouldn't bother...
JMO.

CosmetologyMommy replied: my mom did that with my siblings when they were very young but it ended when they got older and knew better.