Are you different from your family members?

ammommy wrote: That may sound like an odd question, but DH and I were discussing guardians yesterday and I realized that I am totally different from anyone in my family. Seroiusly, when I look at my parents and siblings, Dh and I wonder how I turned out so "normal". Makes you wonder about the whole nature v nurture argument.

MissyKay2005 replied: LOL I would have to say that I am quite different from my family as well This is a good thing I think

booey2 replied: I know that I am different from my 2 siblings, I am the "normal" one, I always thought is was due to us being adopted from different families thus our genetic makeup is what made us turn out so different.

ediep replied: I think I am similar to my parents and my sisters, but I am vvveerrrryyy different from my brother

luvbug00 replied: I am nothing like my parents (adoped) But I'm very much like my birth family.

My birth mother was very nurturing and patient.
My birth father was angry and had a short fuse. he was always running from his responcibilties. ( me and my brothers)
My birth grandmother was very creative and was a traditional Mayan rug weaver.

I have the nurtuing part of my mother and I'm very patient but I also can be very angry and I do run from things alot. I'm also creative. That's all I know about them.

My brother is hot headed and runs from everything! he is also very crative.
I don't know about my other brother. never met him.

mammag replied: I am a LOT like my sisters. We all have the same insecurities and issues and think a lot alike about most issues. We are all goofy when we get together. We also all married Asian men (even though it was the first interacial relationship for each of us) Oldest married a half Japanese man and middle sister married my husbands cousin. There are some differences (middle is very materialistic, oldest is a hypochondriac) but pretty much you could have a conversation with all three of us and it would go a lot the same.

My brother is becoming more like us as he gets older (he's the oldest however).

I am like my parents in a lot of ways.....stubborn, conservative, insecure, hard working, etc.

But I like to think I have a more positive attitude than they do. They are also very vindictive which I don't feel I am.

gr33n3y3z replied: what is normal?
What may seem normal to you is not normal to others!

~KARA~ replied: My family is pretty "normal" but dh is completley different from his family.
Needless to say it wont be the inlaws that get the kids if anything happens to us!!

ammommy replied:
What do I consider normal? Well, I'm not paranoid; I think that you should work for what you get; I accept responsibility for my actions; I try not to hold grudges for long; and I don't think that it's OK to pi$$ away your life just because someone did a minor wrong to you many, many, many years ago.
I understand that there are many shades of normal, that's why I put it in quotes.

Kaitlin'smom replied: Yep I think (and have been told) I am nothing like my sisters, espically the eldest (she is such a self centered, selfish, well I could go on butits nto worth my time) I also think I am not much like my parents either, maybe a bit but not much, I have some simliar traits but over all I am different

gr33n3y3z replied:
Oh ok

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Funny you asked because I was just thinking about this same topic the other day. Just got back from visiting family and realized how similar we all are, especially my sister and I now that we're grown and parents ourselves. And I'm about 50/50 my mom and my dad. I have traits from each of them...some I like and some I don't like. My sister and I are now like twins, but we weren't always!

Josie83 replied: Interesting topic Lisa!! I would hate to think that I am anything like my mother.
She's very controlling, spiteful, manipulative and has zero compassion. She never showed any emotion when we were little (maybe some to my two brothers, but none to me an dmy sisters). I suppose that's the reason I have a hard time talking about feelings/crying etc . .. but I wouldn't say I was alike her in any other way. Apart from my temper - but I keep it pretty weel. wen I let it go though . . . its all her. My two sisters have it too, AND Cassie. Italian female temperament I suppose

I suppose that I'm more like my dad, he's very laidback and happy to let me mother rule the roost . . . in fact he was very submissive. I am more able to stand up for myself than he is but I've never been able to stand up to HER

My two sisters and I are a lot alike. Especially me and my younger sister. We look alike, sound alike, and talk alike . . . but she is still quite selfcentred and immature - although she is only young still. Comes from being the youngest girl i suppose My older sister and I have similar views on marriage, childcare an dlife - we both married and had kids young etc

My two brothers . . . I don't know. One's married with a little one and he loves it. My younger brother is only 17 so we'll see how how turns out!! He's a pretty good kid who knows?

lisar replied: I am nothing like my aunts they all compete with each other. which one has the nicer car, house, etc... they wanna make it look like they all have money. I make more than they do thier bills are just higher... so i dont get into that

lisa

Sarah&Mackenzie replied: I am a lot like my mother!!! Total opposites of my sister and 1 brother. My other brother and I share some traits. But of course we all know is the best child ME. LOL

kimberley replied: i swear i am adopted . my mom is emotionally vacant and very self serving. my sis is much like her if you add my grandmother's "centre of male attention" neurosis in there . my bro is a self proclaimed con artist who gets off on how much he can use people. my dad and i carry similar values except he can't quite carry his out because jealousy and deep childhood issues prevent that.

i am the one they expected to turn out the worst. looks like they were wrong.

A&A'smommy replied: I'm a LOT like my parents my dad cleans a lot and tends to get uptight when it comes to things changing, and i have his temper. I'm like my mom too we have the same morals, same outlook on life, same things make us happy, and I have her temper too both completly different but the same (weird huh!?!). And I'm really not like my brother at all he is spoiled, and has a REALLY bad temper, he is a sweetheart too,he is 15. Jeremiah has half of his dad personality and half of his mothers.. its VERY interesting!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: We are all very hard headed and opinionated but I like that because we think for ourselves. We very much got that from our mom and dad."You got to stand for something or you will fall for anything" was something we heard often. But I was lucky our home was also VERY loving and full of laughter and all kinds of happy chaos! So if I turn out like that I guess it is not too bad! Dh is just like his grandpa...all about taking care of his family- all in all I am VERY lucky! We both seem to have escaped the internal loonacies in our families

danahas4monkeys replied: i swear i was adopted, my family is such a mess i wonder all the time how did i not end up in prison! or the looney bin! i am nothing like any of my 6 siblings or my parents thank god!


dana

debbiedoo replied: Yes. And for that reason I do not really speak much to my family.

Alice replied: I am jokingly referred to as "The White Sheep" ... in a family of black sheep. All throughout our childhood, when they were playing ring-and-run, I was curled up with a book. My ears are pierced once, and I have no tattoos. I still go to church on Sunday. It's a running joke in our family.

But in the important ways, we're all very much alike. We all strongly value family-- when one of us needs something, the other 4 are there, no questions. We love to laugh about our childhood and tell all the old stories, and now our kids share a love for these same stories. We all live in the surburbs, no more than an hour from the house where we were all brought up and where Jeanne still lives with mom (we lost dad 2 years ago.) None of us is a great cook, but we all get by and keep on trying. We like dogs, not cats. and so on.

ions_momma replied: Im not really like my parents or my brother at all but I am quite a bit like my sister. I guess in some ways though I am kind of like my mom. We both need some time to our selves every once in a while, like having everybody out of the house so we can relax!


DH is nothin like his mom or his sister but is like his dad and his brother when it comes to certain things. They do have thier differences though! He is the only one in his family though with a bad temper! He is also not much a people person and the rest of the people in his family are.