Are you a touchy feely huggy person - And if not how do you feel
TANNER'S MOM wrote: About people who are?
Now I am not a touchy person except to my family. I am not one who gives co workers or friends hugs or pats on the back. I am just not a touchy feely person. I might hug someone I haven't seen in a while but not some one I don't know well enough to share say a bathroom with!
I think I am one of those people that has very distinct boundaries. Where I am a big flirt in real life.. I can't stand to be touched. I don't want someone to touch my hair, face, lower back, or hands at any point ever unless we sleep in the same bed or plan too!
Am I just a emotionally closed off person? I know there are people who can pat and touch and be very loving but I can not.
This post comes from my lunch break. I was paying for somethings and the male cashier reached out and touched my hand, rubbed it and commented on how pretty my rhinestones where on my nails and toenails. I was sooo ewwwww Don't touch me. you are not normal.... Now this gentlemen was old enough to be my father.. though it couldve been flirting.
Does any one else freak if touched by a non family member?
Brias3 replied: I'm not very touchy feely, except with the kids and my husband. I also tend to prefer that "bubble" of personal space around me- I can't stand "close talkers!"
cameragirl21 replied: I am very affectionate by nature but I do think that some old guy rubbing your hand or any part of your body uninvited is weird and yucky.
I don't think it makes you emotionally closed off at all.
Jennifer
mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I'm somewhere in the middle. I hug my friends when I say hi or goodbye and I shake hands with people I just meet. I will sometimes reach out and touch someone on the shoulder too to ask them "are you okay?" or to say "good job". But I'm not overly touchy. It doesn't bother me to be touched unless it's from a total stranger. I don't like it when someone talks too close though. I'm a freak about bad breath. I've told you all about my super nose! 
gr33n3y3z replied: at certain moments I like it
Other then that no
Its ok that the kids give me hugs and Ed but dont hang on me or breathe my air LOL
Boys r us replied: I don't mind it as long as someone isn't overboard with it!
I try to respect other people's personal space unless we're talking about one of my close girlfriends or a family member..we can be pretty touchy.
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Momof3inMe replied:
I am the same way. I dont want anyone to hang on me or be close to my face.
BAC'sMom replied:
I like your answer Lisa and I am pretty much the same way. I need my space sometimes. 
And to think I am from the freaking friendly state!
C&K*s Mommie replied: I am in the middle too. Depending on how comfortable I am with another. The less comfortable I am, the more boundaries I tend to respect. Sometimes I may cross boundaries and put hands on shoulders of acqauintances, but they themselves may not appreciate it.
Also the less comfortable I am in public, and if Chris is with me the more I cling to him for comfort- so to speak.
kimberley replied: i am affectionate with my family but when i was younger i used to hug everyone. i was super touchy.
luvbug00 replied: I'm with you Mel.
ditto to the "t"
mckayleesmom replied:
Ditto.....Im the same way....
I did hug Nicole when I first met her but I felt like I knew her, hope I didn't offend ya.... 
luvmykids replied: I'm pretty affectionate but it doesn't just come from there, I guess for me it's an extra mode of communication, I catch myself a lot touching someones hand or head while talking, mostly joking though, like when I push my BIL in the head or something. If it's someone weird it creeps me out but other than that, not really. And I especially don't mind a bit when someone rubs my shoulders!!!
hawkshoe replied: I don't like it either. Of course, there are always exceptions, like a crying child, or someone going through a really rough time, but generally I don't like to invade someone elses space of have them invade mine.
My3LilMonkeys replied: I'm more of the touchy feely type myself.
coasterqueen replied: I'm in the middle more towards touchy feely I guess and it doesn't bother me if someone is that way with me either.
I've also gotten comfortable with people touching me because we all tend to become a touchy feely bunch (our members and reps) when we've been around each other a lot and been drinking too much.   Not a bad touchy feely way, but YKWIM.
I had a dignitary at a recent event get a bit too touchy with me and made what I considered a pass, but I just chuck it up to being a disgusting old fart (well not too old  ) and ignore it. It's actually quite amusing when they do that because they think they are going to get some where with me. 
So do you feel odd if your boss or someone touches you? I'm constantly touching my boss in the sense of straigtening his ties, brushing things off his suits, straigtening his collar, etc. I wonder if he's uncomfortable with that.  Course he always takes me around events with his arm around my shoulder too and it doesn't bother me...he's old enough to be my father, means nothing to us.
mom2my2cuties replied: I am a very loving and open and giving person however, I am not one for the touching thing. I don't know if it is my germaphobe nature or if it is just I want people to respect my personal space so I respect thiers.
Most people comment that my husband & I are different from most young couples they see, since we are not all over each other all the time. We are usually lightly holding hands, standing close or his arm may be around me, but we were both taught about public displays of affection.
I am not into strangers hugging me, and I am somewhat limited on the number of friends who hug me. Now at church it is one thing, but I was never one of those who when just out with friends (male and/or female) would just start hugging. I am always pretty uncomfortable with males hugging me unless my husband is present...wierd maybe, but it's just ackward for me. Especially if it is one of those big bear hugs and not an appropriate one armed hug from the side.
When I was pregnant though - I was strictly a KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF type of person, I almost flipped out once in the commisary because this little girl came and rubbed my very pregnant tummy, until I realized she was only like 3
However - Tanner's Mom - Weren't you the one smootching on John Rich. You might be more touchy feely than you know!!! (J/K btw)
Maddie&EthansMom replied: I don't mind a quick hug (hello, goodbye), but I don't like people to hang on me, not even Scotty. He is very touchy/feel-y and so is Maddie. They are both snuggle bugs...that's okay, they can snuggle together. I don't want no part of it. I don't like to feel people breathing on me, either. I have a friend who picks hair and stuff off of me, straightens my clothes, etc. She even reached over and picked something out of my teeth once.  Drives me nuts, but I love her anyway.
If a waiter touched me like that I'd have a fit. 
Lynda836 replied: I'm kinda in the middle with this one....depends on the nature of the touching...like the possible meaning behind it.
Very touchy feely with DH of course  With girlfriends...the occasional hug. I always shake hands when being introduced. I've had guy friends at work...pinch me at the waist because they know it scares the crap out of me so they thinks it's funny to see me jump. I've had the occasional "fake head lock" or even been tackled....when they're rough housing.....I know weird....must be a military thing . But I've had guys friends for no apparent reason, or it being totally out of character for them....decide to rub my neck or run their hand down my back or leave their hand just a bit to long on my arm...usually it the single guys....and that just creeps me out!
punkeemunkee'smom replied: I don't mind a hug from friends or if a friend touches my arm when we are talking about something. Our family is very cuddley with eachother-Tay asks to be held alot still We all hug alot around here  But I know what you mean about being touched in a way that you don't like by someone too-I feel like we just had this talk And I still think he was hitting on you-HOT MOMMA!
TANNER'S MOM replied: Well I did kiss John Rich.. but.. that was after a few cold ones.. I guess that breaks down my barriers.
I don't touch my boss and I do feel weird when we accidently touch. Maybe I am just not comfortable in my own skin..
J-rod replied: i am not with anyone besides kyan and steph. my asst. coach is and it kills me. he touches my shoulder or something and i cringe. i almost snapped on him one day but refrained....next time i will. it just gives me the creeps.
punkeemunkee'smom replied:
See to me that is a whole seperate issue! If someone/something gives you the creeps I am a firm believer that there is a reason for that! I do not think that it has anything to do with being a closed person or anything like that....I think most people like to know someone cares for them and don't mind a geninue hug or pat on the back BUT when contact makes you 'creepy' then I think that is a feeling you should take seriously!
J-rod replied:
i dont understand?
it just makes me feel uncomfortable....especially when a guy touches another guy on the back. 
Bee_Kay replied: I am VERY physically affectionate with my DH and my children. There isn't a day that goes by that they aren't hugged and/or kissed.
But, with other people?..... not so much. But, there are exceptions. Like DHs uncle, he is just a huggy type of person and I don't mind one bit..... but like when my MIL tries to hug be.... I don't know... It's like hugging a block of ice
holley79 replied: Perfect strangers I have a space bubble.
I am a touchy, feely, lovey kind of person though. It's nothing for me to give someone a hug.
TheOaf66 replied: I am not, I have no problem with people that are but it just is not me. I especially have issues when a guy tries to hug me. I don't think I'm a homophobe or anything I just don't feel comfy with it. I don't like crowds so no, not a touch feely guy
punkeemunkee'smom replied:
Sorry I was speaking from a girl's perspective- 
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
Oh my gosh...that sounds awful!!! Yes, I snuggle with my kids. I just re-read this and it sounds as though I don't like touching or snuggling with my kids. I was tired last night.  I love snuggling with my children.
punkeemunkee'smom replied:
Aimee! I was cracking up reading that! I was thinking that you had had one of those days! I am gonna tell Tay to sit on your lap while we eat catfish now!
Boo&BugsMom replied:
DH is the same way. Other guys touching him creeps him out.
I'm a pretty touchy feely person. I guess it depends on the situation, if I know them, and if they are being genuine.
TANNER'S MOM replied: Well I love touching my family! I do.. i love those hugs and good feelings ...it's just with the outside that I freak..
Like I said.. people I wouldn't share a bathroom or a bed with..
Boo&BugsMom replied:
Yeah, if some really dirty, smelly, old perverted man came and hugged me, I'd be a little freaked out.
Maddie&EthansMom replied:
I know, I still am shocked that I made it sound as though I don't want my kids touching me.  I mainly meant when she comes into bed with us at night...I can't have people really close to me in bed b/c I get so hot when I sleep...it just came out all wrong.
I'm glad you know me well enough to know it must have been the day I was having...and you were right, I had a rough day yesterday.
A&A'smommy replied: you are definitely not closed off that was just weird for him to touch you like that, blech!!!
I am a touchy feely person and so it most everyone in my group we all hug each other the girls hold hands with each other or link arms or give each other kisses (on the cheeks) but there are limits. With my family I like LOTS of hugs and kisses 
Crystalina replied: Please don't touch me! I can't stand it. I will slobber all over the kids and DH but I can't even stand close talkers or people that have to put a hand on you when they talk.  I've never been rude about it but I do back up when I see someone coming in for the kill. If they have already got me then I hurry up and end the conversation so I can go. Then I complain about it to DH. I also take a mental note of the touchers and close talkers and approach them with caution next time.
I am very very affectionate with the kids and DH though. That is weird. Maybe because they are "mine" it is differant.
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