Another update!!! This one is bad...

GavinsMommy wrote: Okay so today Jerimiah said he was hungry and asked if I would go get Gavin's Rx and get food. I said okay but then Gavin got hungry so I started feeding him. So Jerimiah said he was going to get the Rx and food. He comes back w/ food but no Rx and said he would get the Rx after we ate. I said okay...

We ate and then Gavin was hungry again and searching for the breast. So I was going to feed him and DH asked if I would go get his Rx and that he'd give him a bottle. I don't want to give him bottles unless I have to so I said no...that he said he would get it before and came home w/o it and that he should go get it. He then said...Mommy's just selfish and doesn't appreciate all I do for her. He said we needed marriage counseling and I said we needed a divorce and he called me an "Uneducated, stupid, f*****, b****" So then it blew up. I took the baby and said I was going to my mom's and he said no, I wasn't going anywhere w/ his son and that Gavin was going to stay w/ him and that I wasn't going to take Gavin away from him. It got really bad...I was in the kitchen and we were arguing and I was holding Gavin. Jerimiah threw this 70 dollar phone my mom JUST bought us at the wall and broke it...and he slung a plate that holds three candles off the bar in the kitchen and it hit the wall, shattered into a whole bunch of pieces and the glass was THIS close to hitting me and Gavin. I called 911 but hung up and they called back and I said I didn't mean to call but the cops came anyway.

I told the cops what happened and that he was smoking in the house. Jerimiah said they almost arrested him over the pot. The cop lives in our apt complex. Anyway...

I am set on getting a divorce now.

After the cops left we still argued but calmed down and I told him I didn't love him anymore. He started bawling and kept saying I couldn't take his world away from him (Gavin). That he loves him so much and he can't be w/o him every day and that he loves me. I just told him I don't love him and I don't want it to work anymore and that he is taking Gavin away from himself.

So now he's all...come w/ me and watch me flush the pot down the toilet and I'll quit smoking, I'll get that shot...and I'll start doing more romantic things for you.

But the point is...this should have BEEN going on. And if a piece of that glass hit Gavin he could have bled to death!

I do not love Jerimiah anymore. I love him as Gavin's father. But that's it. He's ready to change now but it is just too late. I am going to my mom's tomorrow and I'm not sure if I'm coming back. I hate to take Gavin from him but he is just too psycho, throwing glass like that. I'm just not in love...

I'd rather divorce and have a happy life. It won't "ruin" Gavin. What WILL ruin him is to have two parents who hate each other. KWIM? Anyway just thought I'd update.

mummy2girls replied: I am so sorry hun! You are doing the right thing and leaving for a bit. That stuff is pretty scarey!

((((HUGS)))))

maestra replied: You really do need to get out of this situation. I really don't see it getting any better. Jeremiah can come and visit Gavin, but as it is, it really is better for him not to be around him. He seems totally out of control to me.

amynicole21 replied: Too many broken promises, and it seems like he doesn't really care that much for his baby if he put him in danger like that. I wouldn't trust him either. I'm glad you found the strength to make your decision. Know that we are here for you!

Kirstenmumof3 replied: OMG I'm so sorry you are living like this! You need to get out of that house! Get Gavin ready and go to your mothers.

loveydad replied: Next time he mentions you leaving the baby with him, remind him he doesn't have any breasts. He ain't gonna get custody.

I agree with the others hon, it's hard, but you've got think about Gavin and yourself. It's just not a good situation.

You're in all our thoughts.

moped replied: This is not a good situation for Gavin or you - you need to really think this over.

It is better to be from a broken family than live in one - Dr.Phil says.......

So soory.........

Mommy2BAK replied: Oh honey.... I am so sorry you are going through all of this. I know what its like I have been there myself. I am not telling you to divorce him, but you should most definately get away for a while and see how that goes.

You are Gavin's mother and that is your #1 role right now. So you have to protect him.

(((((HUGS)))))

kimberley replied: i am sorry to hear this maybe some time and space is all you guys need. i know you are feeling angry and hurt, but completely ending the marriage might not be the best idea in the long run. he needs to grow up and maybe the separation and some counselling could help . either way, we are always here if you need us.

Boys r us replied: Wow!! That's insane...he had such little regard for Gavin's safety by throwing a glass object at you while you were holding him!! I mean..aside from the fact that it's generally not a token of someone's love to throw things at them period, but much less when they're holding your newborn child!

I think getting away for awhile will be very good for both of you! It will allow you both time to think things over with a clear head and decide what's best for your family!

Maddie&EthansMom replied: I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. I think you both need to be in counseling. He definetely has issues if he lashes out and throws things like that. He is high and mighty one minute and crying a begging you to stay the next. He is only trying to control you. Get away from him for awhile. I just don't think it is healthy (emotionally and physically) for you and Gavin to be there.

A&A'smommy replied: I am SO sorry you are going through this, you definitly DON'T need this right now and neither does Gavin! I think your doing the right thing by leaving him, things will get better for you and Gavin now!!

favre4fan replied: I am sorry but you need to leave. He obviously has no regard for you or Gavin by throwing things. If you do not leave and he does not get help things will not change. No matter how much he says they will, they won't. I know I was in this type of relationship and I can relate to this all to well ,unfortunately. For the sake of your babys safety and your own I urge you to leave and get help for the both of you.