Amy Nicole's post made me think....

Boys r us wrote: What would you do if your daughter came home, at 15 yrs old, and said she was pg?


I know this has the possibility of becoming heated, so let's just all remember that we're each entitled to our own opinion and no one is wrong!

Boys r us replied: I wouldn't force my daughter into anything, I would discuss ALLof the options with her and be there to support her no matter what she decided. I will admit though..if she asked for my opinion, I would reccomend an abortion if it were early enough.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Well the real issue is who would come visit me in the rubber room.. Do you think that I could manage to visit Parenting Club in my straight jacket..

Now this is really close to home for me..hence I have a 15 year old. I would be more disappointed in her and myself for not doing more.

She would have all available options..and everythign would be HER own decision. But with that being said.. I would like to point out this is a girl who can't keep her room clean, she can't operate a car, she can't even make her own plate half the time and wants me to do that for her.. and she can't do the dishes with out makeing a face.. and shrugging her shoulders 20 times..lol So a child is alot.

I hope that she would tell me if she was doing the big No No.. and that all our talks would really mean something.

And as far as abortion.. the whole abortion theory changes alot when it is not so much about you.. but your child. It take a whole new level when you realize it's about your child..and her future and her life..

I won't say what I will do .. because I don't want to start a big debate..lol

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Maddie is 15, last night she dropped a big bomb in my lap. She is pregnant. I hug her and tell her that it will be okay...after all, I was 15 once. I was sure I was in love with the 17 year old boy that paid me so much attention. We talk about her options. She cries...I cry and I hold her. In that moment she is still my baby. My baby who is carrying a baby. It isn't easy. We both know things will never be the same. We've talked about this very moment at least a dozen times this past year alone. I suspected she was having sex. I wanted to believe she wasn't. I did everything in my power to prevent an unwanted pregnancy. And I thought she was on bcp. She just isn't very responsible...not responsible enough to be a mother. She wants to carry the baby to term. She does not believe in abortion b/c of what she was taught at school, church and home. She says she will find a nice home for the baby. A loving christian family who wants so bad to be parents. I feel my heart ripping out of my chest. My first grand baby I will never know. The next few months will be hard. Maddie can no longer attend her private Christian school...what were we thinking by sending her there? We really thought that was all it would take to keep her from making such mistakes? I laugh at myself now. It seems like yesterday that she was in kindergarten and I was dressing her up in her cute little uniforms and boasting about how sheltered she will be and how safe I felt that she was there. I'm not feeling so fortunate now.

I really hope this never comes true. Nichole...you are right, we really need to think about these things. What would we do? How would we handle it? A lot of parents are afraid to face these tough scenarios. It kills me to think about my innocent, precious babies ever doing anything to jeopardize their future. Scotty and I talk about drugs a lot and what we need to do to stay on top of things and make sure our kids don't get mixed up in that stuff. That really hits close to home...teenage pregnancy or sex does not hit close to home. My brothers are still messed up on drugs. My parents are still in denial.

Thanks for making me think this morning.

kimberley replied: i would definitely support my child no matter what but would not make my feelings about abortion hidden. i don't agree with it for me or my family. i know too many girls who were forced to have an abortion because they were pg at a young age and most have spent 20+yrs wondering and wishing. my thought is this... if the baby is adopted (likely by me), my dd still has an opportunity to know and be a part of her childs life one day. abortion is permanent.

Mommy2BAK replied: I guess you could never say for sure what you would or wouldn't do until you were placed in that situation. I am very much so anti-abortion, but like Mel stated, you never know what you would do when you are faced with a decision for your child. Very scary, and I don't want to have to even think about this for another 14 years

Kaitlin'smom replied: I honslty dont know what I would do, I know I would go through alot of emoitons, anger, dissaopintment, frustration ect. Everthing would be talked about all options, and we would try and decided what would be best for our family, and while my heart would be breaking for feeling like I failed her I would do what it takes to support my daughter. I truly hope this does not happen but I know its always possble.


on the flip side what if your 16 or 17yr old SON said he got a girl PG?

MomToMany replied: I'm not really sure how I would react. But since I was kinda in the same boat (except I was 16), I would use my real-life experience to explain things. I'm VERY pro-life, and I know I couldn't end the conversation without her knowing that. If it meant DH & I adopting the baby, that would be fine too. It would break my heart if she got an abortion since I KNOW that raising a child that young is possible; very hard, but possible. And we would definitely help her as much as we could.

Boys r us replied: Samething..Obviously, I wouldn't have the same "control" b/c it's someone else's daughter, but I would support any decision made..same as if it were my daughter.

My2Beauties replied: WOW! Talk about thinking hard. Well I guess it would depend on how my daughter acted at the age of 15, if she was very irresponsible, childish, etc etc.... I would feel differently then if she were responsible, did well in school, very adult-like, but I would go over ALL the options and point out that this would be her decision and I would stand behind her 100% whatever she wanted to do. I have to admit that if she were to get an abortion it would probably hurt me because that is my grandchild, but that I also wouldn't want to put her through something she didn't want to go through, after all many young girls raise very well adapted children every day but it's a hard life. Adoption would hurt me too, I would probably try to adopt the child myself so one day I could give her the chance to get her child back if at all possible or atleast be in their life. I hope I never have to cross this path because it would be heartwrenching. I am very much Pro-Life for myself, but I am stuck in the middle when it comes to others, I think abortion is ok in some instances such as rape, etc, won't go any further except I am 25 years old with a husband and my childhood is over, so of course abortion is wrong for ME, I can't speak for another woman! I'm just so back and forth on this topic, I would hope my daughter wanted to have her child but I would never ever force that on her! I mean after all she did lay down and have sex, but then again she is only a child and is entitled to her mistakes!

Gee thanks Nichole now I'm scared of what the next 13 years will bring? J/K I hope this doesn't turn into a heated debate but a very nice topic that gets people thinking!

TANNER'S MOM replied: If one of my sons got a girl preg. I would equally if not more disappointed. It seems easy for some reason to me for a boy to get and wear a condom.

But I would difentely talk to him.. and he would have to be a man. He would have to do what it takes just as the daughter..

But he is where it changes for him.. yes he was there.. and yes he did is part. But it is her body.. and it is really her decision what she does with her body.. and his life is in limbo waiting for her to decide also..

But again. I would hope he knew better!

kimberley replied: if it were one of my sons, i would definitely encourage them to be involved and supportive. i am a bit old school, so they may hear the lecture on responsibility as a father and the added importance of a career now (the MAN talk). i would keep open communication between the girl's parents and us and hope that they would consider adoption over abortion.. tho i know the end decision is theirs.

amynicole21 replied: I've really been thinking about this since we heard the news about DH's niece. Firstly, I've been thinking about how I will try to prevent it... DH and I are both fully aware that no matter how close an eye you keep on your kids, they are sneaky little critters and usually end up doing things you wouldn't dream they would do. I will make bc available to my girls, teach them about safe sex, TRY to instill a sense of self confidence in them so that they value their virginity, and make great attempts at keeping myself available and not scary if she needs to talk to me about something.

If all of this fails, I'll do my best not to pressure them into anything. I would probably adopt the child if they decided to go full term, and I would also drive them to the doctor if they choose the other option. Dear God, please don't ever make me have to do that

gr33n3y3z replied: I would support my girls in any way I can even if it ment me raising their child
But I will not say I wouldnt be angry about it. lol
Nor would I force them to make a decission of what they should do or shouldnt.

Now the boys the same goes for them except I can be there for them and stand by what the GF chooses to do. But if she chooses to keep the baby then they must support the baby no matter what and the GF as well if need be.
And they already know this.

kimberley replied: interesting.. i asked DH this question to see if the male response is much different...

for Jade, he would be very upset but said it is her body and her decision. i honestly think it would somehow taint their relationship for him because of his disappointment in her. i pray it never comes to that.

for the boys, he jokingly said "cut it off" lol but did say it would be different for him.

3_call_me_mama replied: I would cry with her. I woudl hpld her adn let her know that i love her and wish I coul dfix things for her. I would ask what her plans are, if she had any adn how the father was taking it. I would not even offer abortion as an optiokn, because in my mind it is not an option. I think it is an easy cop out in teh instance of teen pregnancy. I would want her to keep the child adn raise it. If she was old enough to make an adult decision to have sex, she's old enough to raise a child. We would help her all that we could but if she wanted adoption, we would want to adopt it. It is possible as others siad to raise a child taht young. It may be hard but they made a decision and they need to be accountabel for it. Same goes for my son. I would highly encourage teh mother to keep the child adn if she wante dto give it up we would adopt it adn raise it, making the child full aware of who it's parents were. If she wanted to jraise it herself I would have my daughter finish school adn I would take care of the child when she was there adn such, but if she wanted to go out with friends or to dances she would have to hire a sitter (or pay me) just like any other parent would have to. (Not every time but I'm not going to take responsibility for her actions.) I would be a grandparent to her child regardless of the age it was concieved at, unless I was raising it. Regardless I culd only hope that she woudl learn her lesson adn get her life in order very quickly and make the best life for herself adn her child that she could. But an even bigger hope is that i never have to face this in real life adn that the morals and values that I have tried to instill in my childrne will hold strong as they grow up.

Insanemomof3 replied: I have had 2 abortions myself. Not because I didn't want the babies, but because it was either both of us die, or just the baby. I know the choices I made were right, because I would not have the kids I have now. (Obviously)

If it were my kids...well my daughter. I would tell her that she could make the choice for herself BUT. I would tell her what I went through and let her know that abortion is a very difficult decision to live with. It is scary and the aftermath is worse. (Was for me anyway. Maybe because I didn't want it.)

Other than that, I would stand by her side, and help her with ANY decision she made. If my boys got someone preggo, well I would smack them and then try to help anyway I can. If it meant to adopt the baby and raise it myself, I would. No question. The most important thing I think is to be supportive and show your kids that you are there for them.

Insanemomof3 replied: And please, don't think less of me for my last post. I don't like sharing that, but well, I trust you all and hope that no one will hate me for my past.

mckayleesmom replied: I would support Russell and Mckaylee in every way possible. I would actually rather them have the baby and let me adopt it. I don't believe in abortion and I wouldn't want them to go through the not knowing part of adoption unless it was a family member. I would probably agree to adopt the baby. Either way, I hope it doesn't happen.

jcc64 replied: Thank you for your candor, and I certainly would hope that no one would "hate you for your past". You did what you thought you had to do at the time.
In a perfect world, there would be no need for abortion, b/c kids wouldn't have sex before they were ready to assume the responsibility of parenthood. In a perfect world, everyone would be able to provide for every life that was conceived, intentional or otherwise. In a perfect world, every woman would be able to exhibit the maternal instincts necessary to nurture and support the life she is capable of creating.
But we don't live in a perfect world, as we all know. I think you'd all be surprised to know I have very ambivalent feelings about abortion. I think Bill Clinton called it a necessary evil- and I guess that about sums it up for me too. But I don't believe that a teen-ager who decides to have sex should also be assumed to up to the job of raising a child. Which is why they shouldn't be having sex. But they do. They always have and they always will, whether we like it, agree with it, condone or support it. So I guess I'm a pragmatist. I have to say, I don't know too many 15 yr olds with the life skills necessary for good parenting. To be completely honest, I think I would probably encourage my child to have an abortion, but if they were uncomfortable with that, then I would encourage them to put the child up for adoption. I really wouldn't want my 15 yr old to become a parent. It's not what I want for my kids, boys or girls. God willing, it won't ever come to this, because there is no easy answer.

Boys r us replied: I don't think less of you for that. I am pro-choice and am glad that you had the option when you needed it. More women than care to admit have been there!

mckayleesmom replied: We could never hate you.....I am pro choice, but its just not for me. But I have never been really young and pregnant either.

3_call_me_mama replied: I woudl not harbor hard feelings about you based on a decision you made, what ws right for one may not be right for another. You are fortunate to be abel to have the beautiful children that you have now, regardless of your past.

I dont' support abortion, but I also do not feel it is my place to tell another grown adult what to do with their body. HUGS

ilovemybaby replied: I don't know what I would do at the moment because Abby is not 15 yet and I know we all say we would do this or that and when the moment comes we do something different LOL but I am pretty sure that if Abby was 15 and she told me she was pregnant I wouldn't yell at her and I would tell her she would be ok. I am also pro-life and anti-abortion but I will never judge someone who has had an abortion. My sister has had one and I love her just the same. I know it was very very hard on her and she still feels guilty to this day and she has said that she can't forgive herself and that it is something between her and God... I guess she thinks that he must hate her for what she did and that he won't forgive her....
I know in some cases abortion is necessary... I think that if I was pregnant and I was going to die if I gave birth that I would choose to live. And if I was raped I would probably have an abortion... but I don't know because I haven't been there. I know women who have had babies after being raped and the baby is still half them and they still love their babies just the same and feel connected to them... it is a personal decision there but I certainly understand if someone is raped and gets pregnant and doesn't want to have the baby.
Back to the question... I wouldn't yell at Abby or force her to have an abortion. If she wanted to have an abortion I would try to convince her that she could have the baby and be a good mother and I would totally support her 100 percent even financially where needed. If she wanted to adopt the baby out I would try to convince her to either keep the baby or I would look after the baby. I know there are alot of families where young girls have become mothers and the grandma helps out alot... like the girl still goes to school and mum looks after the baby during the day and financially helps out where needed. I know as the grandma I wouldn't want to lose my grandchild. I know my mum wanted my sister to have the baby and she was upset that she wasn't going to be a grandma and upset that my sister was going to abort. I know that if my sister was in NZ (she was living in Canada then, with her fiance) she would have helped out as much as she could.

gr33n3y3z replied: Denise I would never do that

(( Hugs ))

A&A'smommy replied: UGH scary thought but I think I would either keep it myself and raise it or put it up for adoption I don't believe in abortion.

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: I would discuss adoption before discussing abortion for sure. Although I'm proc-choice, I personally would never have an abortion nor would I want my child to go through one either, even if PG at fifteen. But I also wouldn't want my daughter to be a parent period, so the choices are hard!

As for my son, it's not so different except for I agree with Mel, I feel it's the womens choice to make. And I would expect him to support her (be there) through whatever choice she makes. The only time I would probably put my foot down would be if she forced my son to get married. IMO, he can be a part of the child's life in other ways or they can be married later on down the road. I suppose that sounds irresponsible, but he can continue on with his goals (college) and still be a part of his child's life. If they were seriously in love, then I would support that, but again, fifteen IMO is too young to be forced into the responsibility and commitment of marriage.

I pray this never happens!

Boys r us replied: Rae, don't you think parenthood is a bigger responsibility than marriage?

Boys r us replied: don't get me wrong though..I completely agree about not wanting a youngster to get married due to a baby!

ilovemybaby replied: I don't want to start an argument here but personally (just my opinion) I think both are just as hard and need as much commitment as each other. You can't have a successful marriage without a lot of hard work and 100 percent effort from both partners. And you can't raise a child without a lot of hard work and unconditional love... both require responsibility. IMO

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied:
Yes parenthood is a bigger responsibility than marriage, but I'm talking about a girl saying "we HAVE to get married because I'm PG" to my son when he's not ready. Again, I know it sounds irresponsible, but it makes me sick to my stomach knowing my son may have to marry a girl he is not in love with and throw away a chance at pursueing his dreams. Not that marriage cancels out any chance to pursue one's dreams, but it definitely changes things. I know that may sound selfish to some, because it obviously puts more responsibility then on the girl, who, because of a child, can't pursue her own dreams, but I feel the same way if it was my daughter...I wouldn't want her to marry the guy that got her PG either. I just don't think they're ready, even if they felt they were somehow ready to have sex. I would much rather take care of the child myself or encourage adoption before having the two get married. That's JMO.

I know this is a tough call because personally I would hope my son would only have sex with girls he "loves" and ALWAYS wear protection...but come on, we know that doesn't always happen. But I'll work my hardest to make sure he tries.

kimberley replied: i can only speak from my experience (and as an adult) but i find marriage much more difficult than parenting. there are so many resources out there for new parents and babies dont come with set ideas and baggage. nearly all of my parents generation (cousins and siblings) married young because of pg and most failed. a love between a parent and child is usually unconditional and everlasting.. adults grow and change and it rarely is unconditional. jmo.

and Denise, i don't think anyone here would ever judge you for decisions you made in the past. everyone needs to do what is right for them.

TANNER'S MOM replied: I don't think any less of you.. or anyone.. who made your decision.

It is a hard decision.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Even after all the trouble I have had in my marriage.. PARENTING is 10x more! More everything.. I am mean as adults in a marriage we can take care of ourselves... maybe not the way we want too.. but we can.

And we can take care of ourselves apart too...

But our kids must have us for every little thing.. and I worry about every moment of my children's life. I want so much more for my kids then I ever had. And I worry that there is enough of ME.. and that I even have an idea of what I am doing??

Parenting to me is my number 1.. and my marriage isn't really second really.. but we both try to put the kids first.. does that make since??

I think this is such a personal matter.. but you know the statics shows that at least one outa 10 ? (not sure of the exact number, but you get the idea)of us will have to deal with this one way or another in our life..

I am pro choice... but that doesn't make it a right choice for me. KWIM.. but I think it is a woman body.. and what she does and for what reasons are between her and God. I would perfer adoption.. but even being pregnant in school for a 15 year old is something that could ruin her life. But if abortion was what my child choose.. then I would help her. We all have our crosses to bear.. and I know for a fact that is something she would never forget. I couldn't make my child suffer for a childish mistake.. for something she couldn't completely grasp. Heck I don't think I completely grasped what being a parent was myself until I was in my 20's.

Man this is a really sobering discussion for me.

redchief replied: I'm an anti-abortion Roman Catholic. Just wanted to get that out of the way, because it does impact on how I'd react and how we've taught our children. Fortunately our boys got through their teen years. I always told them that it was important to treat a girl with respect and to bear in mind that whatever they decide to do sexually has the potential to impact their lives forever. The boys are now both adults and doing what young adults do. Both are in serious relationships, and even now I'm a bit nervous since I don't think either of them are at a point in their lives now where they're ready to start a family.

Now to the girls. One is 16 and the other is 12, so we fall right in the area of this post. The eldest isn't in a serious relationship and I'm okay with that, but she's also nearly as conservative as me and refuses to be sexually active (her choice, not ours) at this point in her life. Now, that carries its own set of baggage. She has a hard time getting dates because she's got a "frigid" label. Of course this couldn't be farther from the truth, but boys are boys and they don't always think with their larger brains, if you know what I mean.

Now, to answer the question, what if? If one of the girls came home and said they were pregnant, they would have two choices. Have the baby and raise the child with the help of the father (however that would go), or give the child up for adoption and carry on with her life after carrying her child to term. As far as our relationship goes, I hope I would be able to be supportive, but I'm afraid that I would have some anger issues. They've both had all of the education they need in order to make wise choices about their sexuality, and I'm sure my disappointment that that they paid that education no heed would effect me. Of course I would love them as I always have, but I trust them to make good choices, and a betrayal of that trust would be difficult for me to overlook. Simply said, I would forgive her making a poor choice, but I would be unable to forget that a poor choice had been made, if that makes any sense.

My2Beauties replied:
Please don't think you're a bad person becaues you're not, look at the reasons you had to do it for. Like I said I"m back and forth on the abortion issue irself, I wouldn't have one for me (unless I was in your position) however I can't tell another woman what to do with her body!

My2Beauties replied: Thanks for the male insight Ed, I thought to myself after making my post that it would be harder on Brian then me if something like this were to ever happen. I know it would be because he experienced it first hand and saw what Desiree's mom went through, her family begged her to have an abortion but Brian and her were so against it, and they did a wonderful job, but it was soooooo hard on him and her that he just wouldn't want his child to experience it. But he is so much more against abortion than I that I know he would ask her to have the child and we would help raise it as much as possible. I just can see Brian feeling the same anger as you would, I think it would upset a man about his daughter more so than his son, and even the same for the mom because the girl's parents have to deal with it more firsthand if you get what I am saying. Not that the father of any child shouldn't be involved but unless the kids are living together the boy's parents aren't living with the grandbaby day in and day out like the girl's parents are!

ions_momma replied: If Ion were to come home and tell me that got a girl pregnant at age 15, 16 or 17 or, whatever age, I would tell him that I think he definatly needs to step up and take responsiblity for his child. I would make it clear to him that he needs to be there for the girl and also for his baby.

If I had a daughter who came home and told me that she was pregnant, I would give her my opinions on either keeping the child, assuming that she was responsible enough, or putting it up for adoption. I dont believe in getting an abortion, so I wouldnt encourage it. If she really wanted to get one though, I would let her. After all, it is her choice, and her child. I would definately encourage her to think about it and discuss it with the father of the baby first though. I would also tell her that I would be there for her with whatever she needed help with, whether it be helping with the baby if she had it, or being there for her after having an abortion if that is what she would choose to do.



I also want to add though that I got pregnant when I was 17 with Ion. I chose to have him and keep him (obviously). It was a struggle, and I dont think I could of done it without the supposrt of my family, Matt's family, and also definately Matt being there for me. I also know a girl who got pregnant when she was 14 and chose to have and keep her baby also. She moved in with her 16 year old, druggie, boyfriend after she had him. He is probably about 5 or 6 months old now, and is a healthy, well taken care of baby. His dad quite doing drugs and stepped up to help take care of him. She is a great and responsible mother.

TeagansMom609 replied: Well I would give Teagan the choice of having an abortion or raising the child herself outside of my home. I think if your old enough to have sex, and get pregnant, then you are obviously old enough to move out and raise your kids like an adult. Ok so your 15 and cant move out because your not 18, and cant get a good paying job or an apartment? Well maybe you should have thought of that before you decided to act like an adult, have sex, and take the chance of getting pregnant. I think its unfair that kids get pregnant and stick their parents with the bill. Needless to say I would be fuming. I was raised to deal with the consequences of your actions no matter what they are, and because of it, you become a stronger person who doesnt grow up depending on others.

coasterqueen replied: I would back my girls no matter what their decision is. I can't say they have one choice or two choices or what...they are ALL their choices one way or the other. I will stand behind my girls decisions and help them through them anyway I can. I think it's sad when parents make their children feel like they don't have choices...that's why a lot of them choose the abortion choice. They feel that their parents give them no other option. Also the parents who force their children to go with abortion.....just plain wrong.

Yes, my child would have made the decision to have sex and should understand the consequences but what's done is done. I wouldn't kick them out and say "your on your own". It becomes more than just about them or myself at that point, it becomes about a baby that has needs.

I hope to God I never have to go through this. But I will let my girls know that they make whatever choice they are willing to live with, not what choices go along with our religion or what would be better for me....the choice that THEY are willing to live with.

kimberley replied:
i agree with all that you say, but does a 15yo even know what they can live with yet? lord knows i didn't at that age lol. i suppose that is why i would likely advise abortion be a last resort because i would hate to see them grow up and realize they made a huge mistake they cannot undo.

mummy2girls replied: i keep saying to myself that no matter what i would be there for her. if she came to me at 15 and said she was pregnant i would tell her i was upset but that i love her and will be there for her. I would give her all the options of what she can do and will be there to support her in her desicion... I want to also put her on bc when she is at a certain age.. thsi may come back to bite me in the butt because to her it may say to her mom is giving me permission to have sex. but i want her to be protected...

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Bill and I both hope and pray this is something that never comes up inside our home but if it did we would have a grandchild-abortion is not an option in our view. He was born to a 16 year old mother in 1969 and so he has first hand experience in being raised by a young mom and being a woman who wanted a child so badly(and had a long,painful wait) has made me (deep in my heart) believe that everychild is a gift not a choice! I agree that it is your body do as you please with it but IMO abortion does not just effect your body~there is a baby involved too. That being said I do not "hate"or judge a woman who has made such a heart wrenching choice!

holley79 replied: My mom was pregnant at 15 and had me at 16. She was told what she was to do with me. She stood her ground, finished school, worked fulltime and raised me. I'm greatful she did have me raised by my grandparents.

As for if my daughter came home at 15 and pregnant. I think there would be a lot of tears because I'm sure that she had plans for her teen years that didn't include being a mommy. I would let her know what her options were and if need be seek outside conseling to help her with whatever decision she decided to make. I would let her know that I was there for her. I just hope that everything that I teach her growing up will help her to make the right decisions in life and hopefully prevent them. No matter what she will know that she is loved.

I'm only pregnant right now so that's just what I "think" I will do.

3xsthefun replied: I would try to support my girls the best that I could. I know I would be upset. But I would not want them to have a abortion. I would back them up with whatever decision they make.

sunshine girls replied: If either Elle or Gwen came and told me they were pregnant at 15, I would be supportive of them. If they wanted an abortion, I would go to the doctor or wherever you go and support them, if they wanted to have the baby but put it up for adoption I would be there for them, if they wanted to keep the baby I'd stand by them. I'd be upset, but they're my babies and I love them, nothing would ever make me stop.

coasterqueen replied:
True, I guess at 15 you wouldn't. I never said I wouldn't say abortion is their last alternative. I just said I would make sure it is an alternative if that is what they wish to do. I wouldn't want my child coming to me 10 years from now telling me that I didn't explain to them all the options either. Half a dozen here, half a dozen there. Nothing of the situation would be a good one and I definitely couldn't tell you what I'd do until I got in the situation. I do know I would let them know of all their options because they deserve that.