Am I weird?

Danalana wrote: Before you answer "YES!", let me give you the situation

Our wedding anniversary (3 years) is in 8 days. My SIL is already talking about keeping Kade so we can go out. It's a very nice gesture, and I know they would take good care of him....BUT...I kind of want him with us. When I think of going without him, it seems like something is missing. It's not that I can't go anywhere without Kade (although, admittedly, it's still hard), but it just seems like he should be with us. Does that make sense or am I just a sap that needs to get out without her baby?

grandma replied: No you're not a sap, you're a first time mom. You'll get more comfortable leaving him as time goes by, but do what you want now. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

sparkys2boys replied: Nope, not weird at all. Happy early anniversary BTW!! I think you do what makes you guys comfortable

PrairieMom replied: Nope. I totally get it. Don't feel bad Kade is only 6 months old. Ben is 5 1/2 and I STILL haven't left him with a baby sitter. and by baby sitter I define that as someone I would pay for services so I could go out with DH. I of course have left them with my mom, and my sister when she still lived here.

mckayleesmom replied: I think you are normal..however...if you think she is capable and you trust her, you might want to give it a shot...even if its just for an hour. You might be suprised at how nice it feels to just get a little alone time.

Calimama replied: Nope not weird. I'd let him go to a sitter because IMO sometimes a couple could use some alone time. I'm hesitant to leave Miabella but on special occasions I like going out with just DH.

lovemy2 replied: Your a sap that needs to get out without your baby - even if you just go to dinner alone for an hour or two - go spend some time alone with your DH - he will appreciate it too even if he says he doesn't care

edited to say ps - didn't mean that like it sounds - just that it is nice to go out with just your DH and I agree - if your SIL is capable give it a shot

Calimama replied:
I agree with that. My DH is more needy than he lets on.

My2Beauties replied: I don't think you're weird, it's hard, but I think it's important for you and your DH to go out w/o Kade once in a while so you can have some alone time. Happy early anniversary BTW!

A&A'smommy replied: yes your weird...no I'm j/k I understand how how you feel but i agree if you trust her I would go out with just your dh I bet he would really enjoy a little couple time

Crystalina replied: Dana don't feel bad! My kids are 7 and 5 and we have never ever taken them to a babysitters. MIL has watched them for a few hours maybe 4x and my sister has watched them 2x since Izabella has been born. The last time my MIL watched them it was on our Anniversary (2 yrs ago) but it wasn't because it was our Anni. it was because my sister flipped her vehichle that night and we ended up in the hospital with her. We had the kids with us before it happened.

You may one day be able to leave him and then you may never want to. We just never want to leave our kids. We're weird like that.

amymom replied: Dana, I think I get what your are saying. You are talking about the anniversary day exactly, not just getting away with hubby for dinner. We have always celebrated our anniversary with our kids, Because it is the anniversary of when our family began, not just our marriage. We sometimes will celebrate separately too! But for us, we celebrate our anniversary with our kids, since it began our family!

DillsMommy replied: I don't think that's weird at all. But I do think it's important for you and DH to spend some alone time and an anniversary is, IMO, the perfect time to do so. Do what ever makes you comfortable--just enjoy your day!

Boo&BugsMom replied: Girl....go out and enjoy it! These opportunities wont happen often and when you look back I think a part of you will regret it. But that's JMO. You do what you want, but if it were me I'd be dropping off my kids in a second!!! But no you're not weird. If I still only had Tanner and he was still young, it might be different.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: No you're not weird. I agree with everyone, you're a first time mom! I think it's really sweet that you want Kade to share your anniversary with you two. Enjoy your anniversary!

luvmykids replied:
That is a beautiful sentiment

I do think though that you should give it a shot, like others said even if just for an hour. You can always cut the evening short if you just can't stand it

Happy early Anniversary Ours is the 29th

Bamamom replied: Not weird at all. We always take our kids with us.

moped replied: You will get used to it - trust me!

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I don't think it is weird and I think you should keep him with you if that is what you want to do! We have cancelled a 'babysitter' on our anniversary to keep Taylor with us so I know exactly where you are coming from!