Am I over reacting?

TeagansMom609 wrote: Well yesterday my fiance went back to work after being out of work for a month. His mother is watching Teagan for us a couple days a week to help us out. Well yesterday I gave her a bowl or cereal when I dropped the baby off and asked her to give it to her at some point during the day. Well Teagan JUST started eating, and the Dr. told me to start out with cereal to get her used to textures, then veggies, fruits, etc. But to use one flavor for one whole week and then try another. And dont buy the baby food that has a couple different things in it just yet. Well she didnt even give her the cereal yesterday (although she told Shawn she did) and went out and bought her banana and apple baby food and gave it to her today. I was SO PISSED that she didnt even ask me what shes eating or what shes had. So I called her today and asked her to only feed her what im feeding her. And this week I started squash. Im still REALLY mad. Am I over reacting?

ediep replied: oh no! I would be fuming too!!!!! I can't stand when others think they know what is better for my baby than I do!!!!!!! If my mom or MIL did that I wouldn't let them give my child a meal ever again! Not to mention the reason you don't cram all of those different foods into a baby at first is becasue their tummy's aren't ready and you have to watch for allergic reactions!

mummy2girls replied: I personally donthink you are. The reasons behind trying them for a certain amount of time and one at a time is for allergy sake. Meaning you want to make sure she can handle the one type before trying a new kind...

loveydad replied: Oh I'd be steamed too! Tell her that your doctor told you to keep a STRICT regimine and then write out what you want her to feed the baby. Tell her you'll buy all the food yourself (I mean thats what I would do). I know with Henry he was eating meat really early and stuff, but I can't stand it when people feed my kids now! I want to know what goes into their bodies!

A&A'smommy replied: Well I would be mad too. I would talk to her and tell her that if she is going to keep her that she has to listen to you about how to take care of her, in the beginning with my mil we had the same problem and I got real upset about and then I started telling her what she CAN and CANNOT have and she listened and has been WONDERFUL about it! Good luck because I know you don't want to have a bad relationship with your soon to be MIL! (((((HUGS))))))

mama3x replied: IF it were a one-time thing, I would say yes you are. HOWEVER it sounds as if your MIL has a mind all her own on what should be fed to your little one so NO you are not.

With things the way they are nowadays and with allergies on the rise in little ones, you have every right to be upset. Personally I would never let someone watch my kid(s) if they didn't follow ALL of my instructions.

Good luck.

amynicole21 replied: OMG, I would be sooo ticked off! You do NOT question what a mother gives you to feed her child I was so careful not to give Sophia more than one new thing a week, then I found out that daycare would let her eat COOKIES!!!! OMG... I still get tense thinking about it

Boys r us replied: No!! you're not overreacting at all! There are reasons you are supposed to start with one thing at a time and the simple things first!
One being allergies, the other being that you DEFINITELY don't start them on the sweet stuff first, you work up to that..b/c who wants to eat squash or green beans after they've tasted bananas?

But one thing I think a lot of us forget is that our parents generation didn't go through this..they didn't have all of these "rules" with raising babies..heck, they were givining us cereal in our bottle at 2 weeks old! So I don't think that they understand our reasoning behind it or the seriousness of it!

jolene555 replied: i was so mad when that happened to me the first time. barry and i were trying to be so strict with georgia's food - very regulated, timed. i think she was only 3 months old when my sister (31) gave her icing from a cake. from then on it was constant - my mom, sisters, my dad. i was so upset, because they really did not care what i wanted for my own baby!!! truth is they were right. they would never harm her or do anything that would. i now have a child who will eat ANYTHING.

so, no i don't think you are overreacting. i just think that taking advise from those who have raised children is not a bad thing. i don't trust pediatritions as much as i trust my mom, because they know the book, and my mom knows my little girl.

Kirstenmumof3 replied: I don't think you are overreacting at all! I went through a simmilar experience with my MIL. She was always giving my children things that they weren't supposed to have. My oldest DD was allergic to oranges, broke out in hives when she had them and she still gave them to her. I finally put my foot down and DH and I talked to her. Remind her politely when you drop Geogia off that you would like her to feed her only the foods that you have sent over! I hope she listens to you!

My2Beauties replied: I had this same problem with grandparents, etc and actually still do. When Hanna was only 3 months old DF's grandmother gave her cereal with bananas in it and that poor baby got constipated as all get out and screamed for days!! I was so PO'd, so NO I do not think you are overreacting at all! They even gave her ice cream and pepsi!

coasterqueen replied: I don't think you are overreacting at all. It's time to lay the law down for her, IMO. .

kimberley replied: you are NOT overreacting. my IL's didn't get babysitting priveleges because of the same thing. Jamie's dad thought Jade should be on solids and offered her a piece of ham right in front of me when she was about 8 mos. i was livid!!! we planned to exclusively bf until 9mos because of a history of allergies in my family but he didn't care. she wasn't ready either. she didn't really start eating solids until after 11mos.

TeagansMom609 replied: Good thank God its not just me. Sounds like it happens to everyone. Im still pissed that she didnt even ask me what shes already eaten or what she is allowed to eat. She just went and bought whatever she wanted to give her. UGH! I wish she didnt have to watch her. I need to find an at home job...