Age difference

alice&arik wrote: Just curious about what age difference you and your DH/SO is? I have always dated older guys since high school and never dated anyone that was in school. Arik's dad was 10 years older than me and my last bf was the same. A friend from work is trying to hook me up with a friend of hers that is 7 years older which I think is great.

My point is my SIL thinks that I should date someone my own age beacuse I will have more in common with them. I don't think so. Most guys my age are in college and all they care about is drinking and stuff. I care more about family stuff and my future. But what really makes me mad is she always critisizes everyone I date or think about dating. She says to find a hardworking man like my brother, yeah my brother is a great guy, she doesn't really deserve him. So anyway, this guy my friend wants to set me up with is a carpenter and fixes computers on the side. Sounds like hard working to me. Well that is when she started in about the age difference stuff. I mean, I think she just doesn't want me happy. Or something..

I don't have many friends around here anymore and she is around my age so it is fun to talk to her, but I am sick of her comments. I plan on not talking about my dates with her from now on.

Sorry this turned into a vent, once you start you can't stop.

jolene555 replied: I've always gone for older men, too. Barry is 11 year my senior (he's 32, I'm 21) and we'd have it no other way. It works, because I'm a tiny bit mature for my age, and he's very immature for his age, so we round out at me being 24ish, and he's about 12.

Interestingly enough, Barry was always attracted to women either his same age or a bit older, and had never dated anyone remotely younger than him until he met me. I guess I'm the thing he never knew he always wanted (a quote from Fools Rush In)

paradisemommy replied: i've got 6 years on dh but the funny thing is, my whole life i've dated guys AT LEAST 2 years older, usually more.

i think there are exceptions to the rules though cause dh is very mature and was just looking for someone to love him like i was - we were both in the exact same situation when we became friends and would use each other as a sounding board!!!

mama3x replied: I actually don't have a pattern when it comes to the ages of guys...but in my mind I always had the idea no more than 2 yrs younger than I and no more than 3-5 yrs older.

DH #1 was a year older...DH #2 was a year younger...DH now is 2 yrs younger than I am. The oldest guy I ever went out with was 4 yrs older and that did not work out. It was almost like I was dating a senior citizen. DH is the youngest I've been with.

I never asked officially but I always thought that DH was into younger women. Oh well, I am younger than my number

Lollie replied: Hi..

I also dont follow a pattern when it comes to the age of the guys Ive dated before,hehehehe....the 1 or 2 Ive dated for a little while beofre they started irritating the crap out of me.

My hubby,Devlin,is 8 months older than me.He's birthday is in February andIm in October.I must say I love it cos we get along so well and even though we dont have exactly the same interests,it keeps our relationship interesting and spices it up.

Josie83 replied: Jason and I are the same age near enough and he's the only person that I ever went out with. I don't think age makes that much difference, though, its surely the person that you're with? xx

amynicole21 replied: DH is 7 years older than me. I wouldn't have planned it that way, and if DH wasn't basically a teenager still it probably wouldn't have worked out I usually dated guys my age or maybe 2-3 years older.

Don't let anyone criticise your choices. They don't have to live your life. I agree that maybe you shouldn't discuss your love life with SIL anymore until she can learn to keep her opinions to herself

coasterqueen replied: I had a mix of dating older and younger men in my time. My DH is only a few months younger than me. Age has never been an issue for me, though.

I dated a 30 year old when I was 16 and a 24 year old when I was 16 . If my parents had only known they'd be in jail.

Some guys I dated my age were very very immature and others, like my DH were very very mature.

I say don't look at age but how they are with maturity etc. .

3xsthefun replied: My husband is 11 1/2 years older then me. I had always dated guys either 2 years older then me or 2 or 4 years younger. I just did not have a lot in common with guys around my age.

I have to say the age gap really doesn't bother me between me and my husband. Yeah some days it may get in the way but not a whole lot.

redchief replied: 4 months

Maddie&EthansMom replied: Scotty is 3 years older than me. For us it seems like a larger gap, though b/c he is SO mature. Sometimes even TOO mature. It works for us and I wouldn't have it any other way. I dated a guy in high school who was almost 2 years younger than me...thus the reason for finding my overly mature DH when we broke up! LOL!

kimberley replied: my dating history is about 50/50. DH is 5yrs, 8mos, and 10 days younger than me works for me

A&A'smommy replied: I don't think there is anything wrong with having a big age gap, you are completly right Alice!

A&A'smommy replied: oops

5littleladies replied: My Dh is only 9 months older than I am. I don't think age should really be an issue though, so long as you click with a person.

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Scott is 3 years older than I am but I never really thought about it much. In some ways he's more mature than I am and in other ways I am - I guess age doesn't make much of a difference in how right you are for each other.

Boys r us replied: I've always dated guys who were two to five years older than me.
But Rick is actually 6 months YOUNGER than me!

Kaitlin'smom replied: I usually dated older guys, only once I tried a younger guy and nothing happend with us, we were both a bit to shy to progress it.

DH is 6 years older, I just like them older, since then mentallity we are on the same page or close

DansMom replied: DH is 14 years older than me. I've always preferred older men too, but have occasionally dated men my own age or only slightly older. I prefer to be with someone who has experienced some difficulties, in relationships and in life, and overcome them and learned from them---this tends to be older people, but some younger people are wise beyond their years. Now that I'm older myself, the age difference seems to be inconsequential. I once dated a younger guy, right before I met my husband. I'll tell you, I felt like he couldn't comprehend anything I had been through in life or my former relationship. He tried, but he just wasn't there yet, and I felt like I just couldn't connect with him.

MommyToAshley replied: Thinking back, it seems like I always dated older men.

But, DH is 3 years younger than me. He'll need that youth to keep up with me, heehee.

alice&arik replied: Wow, there is quite a variety here! I don't think there is anything wrong with what age a couple is. But the way I see it, I am 23, and guys that are my age aren't going to want to hang out with me and Arik. But I went out with this guy I mentioned at the beggining, he was really sweet with Arik. We picked him up after we went out. He played with him and seemed to like him. I thought the date went well. We'll see if he calls me. But that was yesterday so we'll see.

JenniferAllen replied: Age is relative. My DH is almost 17 years older than me (i'm 25), and our relationship is great. The only time it comes up is when we're discussing ttc our next child. He is 42 now, and wants to be done having children by the time he's 45 (we want two more, possibly 3). On the other hand, we're both overwhelmed taking care of our 6 month old, so we don't want to rush having our second (or third, or fourth). Otherwise it's all good. We balance each other out.
Do what makes you happy. People will always have an opinion.

TANNER'S MOM replied: My first husband was 8 yrs older..and I loved him because he was study and strong and took care of me, but when I grew up and learned that I most wanted to be able to take care of myself, it didn't go well hence the divorce...but I still find him nice and stable, and he found another youngin to date, he is 38 and his current g/friend is 22..so I guess he likes to have a younger women, I always say he likes the control of that ..who knows.

My Dh is a few month younger that me. We knew alot of the same people and that really helped.

Once I got divorced the first time I dated a guy who was 19.. I know I robbed the cradle big time. We had nothing in common..he was way to immature but he was at his sexual prime and I made full use of that... He really helped me discover my sexual self and in ways he taught me alot.

Nancy replied: My Dh is 8 yrs older than I am. Age has never been an issue with us, maybe because I act older and he still acts like a child. he will never grow up. He is 42 and I am 34.

Nancy

MomToMany replied: Ugh, so sorry she's being such a snob Alice! You're right, she doesn't deserve Jon. I'm glad I don't talk to her much !

Shane is 7 years older than me. I don't really have a pattern since I've never really "dated", LOL. Age is of no importance; what IS important is the compatability, respect, and trust you have for each other, and what and how he shows it to Arik. Example: He might be a great guy for you, but doesn't show any affection or interest in Arik, which wouldn't work out at all. Hope that msakes sense.

I hope you can find someone Alice. It will just take time, and a bunch of losers to get to him. At least you can weed out the bad ones right away!

MommieOf2Boys replied: My dh is about 18 months older than

favre4fan replied: When I was younger I prefered older, when i got older I preferred younger!! Dh just turned 30 in september and I will be 32 on the 27th!!