A vent...

mummy2girls wrote: Ok I love my SIL I do but some of the things she says is just so untactful! There is this one thing she keeps telling me and I just want to snap and say stop it. This pregnancy I have been feeling Morning sickness and nasciousness in the evenings. She calls me up and asks how I am every day. and i say ok. She asks if i threw up and i say yes. She says YEAH that means the baby is ok. So she says to me.... and I cant seem to find the logic in it.... If you feel sick, and do actually throw up then the baby is fine and nothing is wrong with the pregnancy. But if you dont feel anything then something is wrong and you probably will miscarry! WTF! She said well with my first i felt nasty and nascious and she was fine, The next i felt nothing and at 8 weeks i miscarry, with my last I felt nasty and she is fine. So that means if you feel sick baby is good, you dont baby is not good. She even had the guts to say to me... Well you told me you felt no nasciousness or morning sickness with jordan and look what happened and you were sick with jenna for 5 months and look. so it has to be true! So i keep telling her she has to stop because i am already nervous about this baby because of jordan and to keep telling me if i dont feel anything something is wrong makes me feel uneasy! ... UGH! How the heck do i get her to stop!???

Kaitlin'smom replied: tell her to shove it I felt nothing, heck did not even know I was PG for 5 months and kaitlin is happy and healthy so her theory blows. even my sisters some of the PG's has MS and some did not and all of those kiddos are fine.

or maybe tell her she need to stop as you already have enough to stress/worry about with out her adding to it.

mummy2girls replied:
I tell her that comments like that does not help me. but she doesnt stop. she has always been this way... Always... I should be used to it though but because of the topic i find it hard to blow it off.

I tell her i worried about this baby because of jordan and why and she says well shelly the godfrey gene is perfect so dont worry. HUH! Ok i shouldnt worry but when you go through what i have its hard to...

Kaitlin'smom replied:
stop answering the phone? I dunno but it does seem very annoying to have to deal with.

Calimama replied: If you've asked her to stop and she hasn't, then stop answering her phone calls.

A&A'smommy replied: that is SOOO totally not true I barely had any sickness at all with Alyssa and she is fine!!! UGH that would get on my nerves too I would tell her thank you for the advice but its not true and it has NOTHING to do with whether or not baby is going to be ok

PrairieMom replied: just ignore her. What she is saying is not based on fact. She thinks she knows something, you know she doesn't. Just let it slide. I didn't puke a single time with either of my pregnancies, and I have 2 healthy children.

gr33n3y3z replied: Why would she be so insensitive to your feelings since you miscarried also
Just tell her to shut it and leave you be you dont need her insensitives right now

Danalana replied: Yeah, there is an old wives tale that nausea means the pregnancy is healthy. I remember when I got my positive with the second one (which eventually turned into the second chemical pregnancy)...a friend and my SIL were with me at a ball game...the friend said "Have you been sick any?", and I told her I hadn't. She just got this look on her face and said "I wish you had some nausea...that's a good sign". It didn't help my feelings at all!
I would just lay it out there....let her know that you don't want to discuss the pregnancy with her anymore if she can't be positive. Geez, people!

youngmomofone replied:
ditto...Im sorry

msoulz replied: If she insists on being insensitive and not listening to you, then when she starts down that road either cut her off and change the subject or tell her you have to get off the phone and end the conversation. Either she will stop calling or you will not have to listen to her and that will solve the problem. Sounds rude, I know, but you should not have to listen to such nonsense.

And BTW I have two healthy kids and never a moment of nausea with either.

punkeemunkee'smom replied: I posted something very similar to this a few weeks ago I don't know why but people feel the need to say THE STUPIDEST things when you are pregnant...I would tell her to shove it or have Marcus to tell her to keep her mouth shut. Bill told his sister to shut up when I was pregnant with Tay and I must admit it gave me a huge amount of satisfaction!

Brias3 replied: Let the phone ring! She clearly isn't listening to your requests to stop speaking that way so perhaps she doesn't deserve to talk to you right now. No sense in you having to getting worried over nonsense!

And just for the record, I'm in with the masses- I was sick as a dog with two pregnancies and fine with the other and all three of my kids are just as healthy as the next!

AlexsPajamaMama replied:
I never got sick either and Alex is perfectly healthy and so far this pregnancy is fine. It is OK to have a smooth pregnancy with no sickness or issues.

Im wishing you a hapy and healthy 9 mons, sweety...booo to her and anyone else raining on your parade!!

HuskerMom replied: I wouldn't talk to her if she' going to be that way. You'll have a great 9 months, don't let what she says get to you.