A Tanner Antic - and not a good one

Boo&BugsMom wrote: We got a note home today. When the kids are naughty the teacher makes them write a note home to their mom and dad. Apparently Tanner "exposed" himself today to a girl in the other class. He came out of the bathroom stall before he zipped up and said "Hey S, look...hehehe". I am so embrassed. My kid could go live with a nudist colony and be completely comfortable. He always has been, which is great, but come on. He doesn't think about those things much, as he usually just strips down naked in front of whoever if he has to change his clothes. At my parent's house, they have a pool, and he doesn't think twice about stripping in front of everyone to get his swim trunks on...while he's outside!!! We tell him it's not ok all the time, but does he care? Nope. He feels no shame. Now I have to go talk to the teacher to get the whole scoop, because when I ask him what happened I just get a shoulder shrug and an "I don't know". I don't know which is worse...this, or the time he walked in on our pastor at church by crawling under the stall while he as doing his business.

Kentuckychick replied: Seriously though... it's not abnormal.
Could I have counted the number of times the preschools went running through the room to the bathroom flapping in the breeze or talked about themselves to one another... the numbers would be WAY up there.

And they're at that age too. I think it's good to just tell him that it's his and it's not something to share with our friends. At 5 he's really too young to feel shame about those things.

And seriously... do boys ever feel shame?
The 9 year old I sit for thinks he's heelarious when he streaks through the house after his bath. And bath... yeah. The other day he needed his shampoo so I closed my eyes and took it in. Well, before I left he said, "Okay I'm covered, turn around for a minute." HE WAS NOT! He just thinks it's funny.

Boo&BugsMom replied: I don't want him to feel ashamed of himself, but it's just very embarassing. I want him to know that it's not ok to show our privates to people. I guess this is what happens when you have boys. And just think...I will have to do it ALL over again.

luvmykids replied: I'm sorry, I'm just ROFL because it makes me feel soooo much better about the time all the boys in preschool were peeing on trees, "like cowboys do", at the instruction of my son

You'll have to KUP on the real scoop from the teacher.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Oh my word Monica. I think I'd die! Boys. I swear, I'm going to get grey hair any day now. I can't even keep track of the things he has done to embarass me...flipping off the people at church to show his owie on his middle finger...crawling under the bathroom stall to surprise our pastor (how's that for a hello!?)...rhyming with the word truck (replaced the tr with an f) loudly at Walmart...trying to pee in a sippy cup on the floor (practicing his aim I guess)...the list goes on and on...arg.

luvmykids replied:

Thankfully that has been our only incident so far. But today the bus driver told me what a ladies man he is I wasn't so sure that was a compliment

Calimama replied:
Oh he sounds like a riot.

Anthony275 replied: i was much worse than him dont worry

HuskerMom replied: So is this what I have to look forward to with Keith?

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Probably. Sorry to break the news.

Boo&BugsMom replied:
You're not helping Anthony. He's only 5...a lot of years of embarassment left in this boy. AND...to make matters worse...his brother think's the world of him and wants to do everything he does. Lovely.

Anthony275 replied: i doubt aiden will remember him doing that though

to make you feel better, when i was 2 i would say jesus christ all the time

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Oh, that is not allowed in our house. He'd get his face slapped for that one if he repeated it over and over after he was told not to. He knows better than the use the Lord's name in vain.

Aiden might not remember these things now, but I guarantee you he will start to soak it up and repeat it...it just may be a few more months, but it wont be long. He already copies a few things.

CantWait replied: Anthony and Tanner could be best buds mooning the town. It's sorta funny, but I totally understand how it's not also. Have a nice chat with the teacher and good luck with Tanner.

Anthony275 replied:
you have a fast learner on your hands

Danalana replied: Oh dear...I would be alarmed too, even though I know sexuality is something kids his age are just really starting to explore. I wouldn't want him exposing himself to anybody, but especially girls. I'm sure he will learn and maybe he won't feel so "comfortable" with his body some day

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Oh BOY!! I'm so in for it. Wil hasn't done anything that bad yet, but I feel it coming. And like you said, Wesley worships the ground Wil walks on and tries to repeat just about everything he sees. They are like little monkeys together..."now how can we make mom mad?".

A&A'smommy replied: I'm sorry to laugh but that is hilarious!!!!

Nina J replied: I think a lot of boys do that at some stage. I know a lady whose daughter just started school, one of the boys in her grade pulled his pants down in front of her. She was most shocked because, only having sisters and not really ebing taught by her parents, she didn't know boys weren't the same as girls. The little boy had told her it was his doodle, so when she got home A asked her mum if "Dad has a doodle?".

boyohboyohboy replied: caleb does the same thing, i do think its a boy thing...he can be in the bathroom and taking his clothes off for a bath or whatever and think of something he needs to do or say and just come out totally naked and not think a thing of it..he gets distracted to easily...and most of the time, its in his hand while he is telling you something. we just tell him that he shouldnt be naked in front of people only in his room alone..
although i dont think he has exposed himself yet..
and yes, his brother who is now 2 is copying everything he does!

my husband told me when he was young, he and his two other brothers, used to try to pee on each other!!!

lovemy2 replied: Oh No

What did you do with Tanner? I am honestly curious because Olivia has had a couple of bad days at school - of course she kept her clothes on - but when we had out parent/teacher conference she did let us know that when she has days like that that they ARE punished in school - in the form of sitting out of certain activities, etc. and that at that age - the punishment has to fit the crime to work so for us to "ground" her for two days really does no good.....

gr33n3y3z replied: They almost all do it
My one son was like your Tanner and he is still like it

Boo&BugsMom replied:
Well, he got tv, computer, and his video games taken away for 2 days (the 3 things he absolutely LOVES...taking away things they love is usually a good punishment). He did get punished at school, but I don't want him thinking that all will be fine and dandy at home and we'll forget about it when he acts like that at school...I think the correlating punishments between the two is important to show the team effort between us and the teacher. It is pending upon what the teacher says. If it is worse than what we suspected then he'll get them taken away longer. If it is an instance where he went potty (he said we was going potty), opened the door to get someone, and just forgot he was naked then he can have them back today. But, being that I keep getting "I dunno", I can't make a solid judgement on what to do yet until I talk to the teacher. All I have gotten out of him was "I was going potty, then I showed S my wee-wee.". Shrugging his shoulders is also his favorite answer to most questions.

Oh, and Stacy...I think you better beware having what hubby told you. Troy tells me horror stories of him and his two brothers all the time. At least we'll have some crazy stories for PC to tell as time goes on. Not a dull moment around here that's for sure. Not with boys!

Boo&BugsMom replied: Well, I talked to his teacher this morning. She said she didn't see it. Another kid came running out of the bathroom telling her that he was showing his privates to S. She asked him what happened and he said he showed S his privates, so she had him write a note home so we knew what he did so we could talk about it at home. She said this was the first time he had ever done something like that. She also said that she has quite a few kids who are "comfortable in their skin" like that. She didn't think it was a big deal since it wasn't like he was running around the room streaking, but that it was something that should be talked about at home and that she thought it was deliberate but couldn't say for sure since she didn't see it personally.

So...hum...I think we will stick to the original punishment for today yet because she said he knew what he did was wrong so that tells me it wasn't like an accident(he said what he did was not ok), but he can have his things back tomorrow.

BOYS!!! What next. I am going to the classroom Christmas party they are having today at 2pm before I go to work. That should be interesting.

boyohboyohboy replied: Oh, and Stacy...I think you better beware having what hubby told you. Troy tells me horror stories of him and his two brothers all the time. At least we'll have some crazy stories for PC to tell as time goes on. Not a dull moment around here that's for sure. Not with boys!

This post has been edited by Boo&BugsMom on Dec 21 2007, 09:52 AM











jennie, i dont know about you, but from the stories that hubby tells me, i dont think i want to share most of them! and from the sounds of it, our husband might be brothers!!!!!

holley79 replied: Annika is a streaker. She doesn't care where she is and with whom. I will ask her if she has to go TT and she will jsut start stripping. Drive me batty and embarrassing. Thank God we have a very large privacy fence because I don't think she wore her bathing suit at all this past summer while at home.

MoonMama replied:
I was just thinking the same thing with Braedin.