5year old nap

mammag wrote: I was wondering what you all think about this. Kyle (daycare child) has to take at least a 2hr nap each day and I'm wondering if this is just too much? It's his moms orders so I don't have a choice but I feel bad every day when they are all playing and he has to quit and go up to sleep. Then she takes him home at 4 and puts him to bed at 7:30 or so. Isn't that a lot of sleep for a 5 year old? His poor little face everytime I send him up just breaks my heart.

Josie83 replied: That seems like an awful lot! is he happy to sleep then? My niece is about the same age and she never has a sleep during the day 9except maybe if she falls asleep in the car etc). However, if he actually falls asleep then and has no problem sleepign at night, amybe he needs it? Sorry I couldn't help more! xx

mammag replied: See that's the other thing. It takes him forever to fall asleep and when I go to check on him he closes his eyes real tight so I'll think he's asleep. Eventually he falls asleep but usually not until he's been laying there for a half hour or so. It doesn't seem fair to him since Conner (mine) is also 5 and he doesn't take a nap.

I don't know whether I should say something to his mom or not. She says he is awful at night if he doesn't take a nap during the day but when he stays for a week with me I let him skip naps sometimes and he is perfectly fine and sleeps a lot more peacefully at night.

kimberley replied: hmm that is odd. my 6yo still naps some days but that is only because his eczema keeps him up at night from itchiness. i think 2 hours is a little much if he is going to bed by 7:30pm.

Kaitlin'smom replied: hummm tough one, it does sound like a bit much. Does she complain that he does not sleep well at night? or that only after you tell her he did not get a nap then she complains?

mammag replied: Only when I tell her he didn't nap (like if I have to go somewhere and take all the kids with me). She even said one time that she wants him to because she needs that time to herself during the day on the weekends because he "gets on her nerves".

I think that is what it boils down to. She knows if he quit taking naps here he wouldn't take one on the weekend. I honestly don't know why she had a kid in the first place. She brought him to me when he was 1wk old because she needed a break. After one week?!?! OOOH! I'm getting so mad just thinking about it!!! She also lets him think his dad is dead because he doesn't come around. How is she going to explain it to him if his dad ever decides to be a part of his life again???

kimberley replied: that is appaling! some people should really not be allowed to have kids ! my grandmother told my dad the same thing when he was a kid and when the truth came out (because it always does) he was furious and is still screwed up over it and he is 52yo!! ugh! i am glad he has you on his side. poor kid

Boys r us replied: Wow..that does seem quite excessive!
Braedon is 2 and he takes a 1 hour nap during the day only when he's with his sitter(none on the weekends) and he stays up until we go to bed, usually about 10 pm and even at that, he'll be up by 6:30 or 7 most mornings!

Tanner quit taking naps when he was about 3.

Kaitlin'smom replied: then personally I would talk to her that a nap is not working for him but you will provide him with quite time (my sitter does this with her and any older kids when she has them). I dunno its a tough call

and what child doe snot bother then at some point?

very sad to teach a child the other parent is dead when its not true....could end up comming back to her

FroggyJK replied: That seems a bit much to me. I could see a quite time for him.

My 20 month old naps 2 hours a day and my 4 year old just does an hour of quite time where he looks at books or quietly plays with some little cars. Then they both go to bed about 8:00 pm and get up at about 8:00 in the morning.

MomofJandB replied: I have to admit, I was sad to see naps go away, but give me a break!!!! I agree that she could give him quiet time instead on the weekends. It almost sounds as if he's happier with you than he is at home. How much time does she spend with him at night? Poor kid...that mom is really going to screw him up if, or should i say when, he finds out about his dad!!!

loveydad replied: my 5 year olds dont take a nap! They go to school all day!