2nd grade boy living as a girl

lisar wrote: http://www.firstcoastnews.com/news/strange...?storyid=102229

Just wanted to know what everyone thought of this.

A&A'smommy replied: um he is 7 or 8 that kind of behavior is encouraged and shouldn't be he is a boy and letting him live as a girl is just going to cause him heartach

grandma replied: Well nothing like opening a can of worms early on in life. Not to mention the religious beliefs being tested. Wow, I didn't know transgenders could come out so young.

mckayleesmom replied: I don't know what to think....I have opinions for both I guess

1. Most gay people say that they knew at an early age that they were gay or felt like they were in the wrong body. Should a child grow up unhappy if he were meant to be someone he didn't feel like?

2. This child will probably be bullied

3. Maybe educating these children at a young age would make them more compassionate

4. Im not sure I would want to explain that to my child right now, but Im sure Id figure out a way and she would probably say "oh ok" and move on.

5. I think sending back to a school he already attended as a boy is setting him up for bulling...

6. Im also not sure if a child that young should be able to make a decision like that....What if he is just a little boy going through a phase?


I just don't know...Im torn

lisar replied:
See thats I think.

kit_kats_mom replied: I think it's wonderful that his parents and school have listened to his feelings and are doing what they can to let him live his life as he feels it should be. I can't imagine that anyone would willingly choose such a hard life for themselves. I was close friends with a couple of transgendered males both before and after they had their changes. They would openly speak of always feeling like they were in the wrong body. One of them likened it to an uncomfortable, itchy outfit that you could never take off. Neither of them had the support of their parents so they both had some real issues relating to family. I saw the pain it caused them and I found it terribly sad. After their changes, they were so much more confident and happy. You could just tell that all was right in their worlds. One of them I've lost touch with but the other is happily married, working and being a good member of society.

It would be a difficult thing to talk to a 7 year old about but I don't think it would be impossible. Perhaps the students seeing how the adults are dealing with the situation, will help them to deal with it in a nice manner too. I'm actually really happy to see adults modeling adult behavior for once.

:.Mrs_Mommy.: replied: This is a bit difficult. I would think that as a 2nd grader he is getting to know his body and what he likes and what is comfortable but he is still just a baby. If this is a phase then maybe wait until it is over but then again you can't really know if it is a phase or if he really is gay and this is, albeit very difficult for the child, the best thing for him. I personally couldn't imagine knowing at that young of an age that the body you have is not the one you need to feel fulfilled.


I have a 2nd grader at home and I couldn't imagine setting my son up for the bullying that is going to come. Even if the teachers are treating him good it doesn't mean that the parents of the classmates are going to. There are always going to be the parents that have no problems voicing their racist opinions to their children and then those children taking it to school.

I am torn as well, I would want my son to be happy no matter what but I also don't want his life to be any harder than it already is. Being a child in this day and age is hard enough without added pressure of not being "like everyone else".

I would love to hear the parents side about their son. I am sure they just want their boy to be happy but WOW what a decision!

jcc64 replied: I think the school district sounds like it's handling it compassionately and appropriately. I found the views of the opposing parent- was it "Dave M.", to be incredibly annoying. Just because he doesn't know how to educate his child about the realities of people with atypical sexual identities, and yes, they are realities whether he chooses to acknowledge them as legitimate or not, doesn't mean this child should be forced to live in conflict. Children are remarkably accepting and astute about the differences in others- it's when they become polluted by the intolerance of their parents that things degenerate.
Corey is friendly with a little boy across the street from us whose parents are lesbians, one of whom is his biological mother. From day 1, Corey has unquestionably accepted the fact that he has two moms. Not once has she asked about it, though I would have been happy to discuss it with her if she had. Her preschool, which was a pretty traditional program, created an environment in which the family and the child were made to feel included and accepted. To me, this is the ideal. I fully acknowledge that there are many people here who believe that homosexuality is at odds with their religious ideologies. But like or not, these families are all around us, and the more we can teach our children to be tolerant and kind, the more like Christ I believe they will become.

austins mom replied: i say let the child be who he/she wants to be. the only thing that would bother me is sharing the bathroom with other girls. or when they get older the locker room.

mckayleesmom replied: I think that if the parents sat down with their children and explained it to them along with letting them know that its ok to accept this child for who he/she is...then these kids will not make a big deal of it and will lessen the chance of the bullying.

Hillbilly Housewife replied: What I don't understand, is why it's such a big deal for a boy to wear a dress, when girls wear pants all the time.



Come on. Who cares. Really. the parents just don't want to have to explain it. What's to explain? be who you want to be, and accept others for who they are.

lisar replied:
I agree with you also.

kit_kats_mom replied: LOL Rocky. Of course, Katheirne just caught me with the argument about boys taking their shirts off in public and why can't she. It's hard to explain that one without just sounding like some anti-sociey nut job.

Anthony275 replied: i saw something on tv once about a 3 year old being transgender...its getting more common now

Hillbilly Housewife replied: Actually, women being topless is legal here and not considered an act of public indecency, based on "equality".

I mean, obviously, if she's fondling herself or something, then it crosses the line.

But yep... women and girls can be topless here.

Bamamom replied: Anyone know if maybe this child is a hermaphrodite ( did I spell that even close to right?) I think that would be the only way I would support this in MY child. I just think 7 is too young to make that kind of decision. 17 I could go along with but at 7 kids have such vivid imaginations and go through such strong phases. I think allowing him/her to take such a step is a little premature - again, JMO.

My3LilMonkeys replied: Wow, kids are maturing so much younger these days...I can't even imaging thinking of such things in 2nd grade!

It sounds like the school is doing a good job of being supportive - I just hope his/her classmates are the same way.

Nina J replied: I saw a thing on Oprah once, about children living as the opposite sex. One little boy, who was really a girl, looked like a boy. I wouldn't have known if I hadn't been told.

I think that things like this can come out at a young age, girls who feel like boys on the inside or vice versa.

To each there own. I can't tell someone how to parent, I am just glad they are handling the situation with understanding, rather than trying to oppress the child.

Calimama replied: Well I would use that as a good opportunity to teach Miabella about acceptance.

Nina J replied:
Very good point! I agree 100%

My2Beauties replied:
Well said and I agree. We as a society have to be more accepting, it is not a "lifestyle" someone chooses to live, it is who they are.