1st vs 2nd child...

mummy2girls wrote: ok alot of people have me worried so i thought i would ask here and see what the majority is...

Alot of people is telling me that usually your 2nd baby is diff than your first... Jenna was an awesome baby. no colic just the occasional gas pain, slept through the night( well 7 hour spans) at 3 months old, No problems getting her to sleep on her own, can be put down on a blanket on the floor and would lay there for as long as i needed her too. So now im worried this child will be the opposite:( So is this true for you guys that has had more than one child? How did the 1st vary from the 2nd??

moped replied: Ummmm I personally think that things are different with your second because you are a more seasoned mom. But here are my kids

Jack had colic, was a really fuzzy baby, doesn't eat well even now. he is now a good kid all in all

Laila was a VERY content little thing and still is quite easy to get along with. She eats well etc

And with Breastfeeding, Jack too longer to catch on and it was atougher thing for us. Laila was so muc easier, but again maybe I was much calmer too!!!!

lisar replied: Lexi was a great baby, she had colic for about a 3 month span. But great. She didnt sleep thru the night till she was 2 years old though.

Raygen slept thru the night starting at 3 months old. However she is MUCH more of a handful than Lexi ever was.

mckayleesmom replied: THey are different, but you really can't say that they would be total opposites.

Both mine slept well, but Russell was took alot longer to sleep through the night

Mckaylee is independent and Russell is a mama's boy

Neither was colic

Neither are picky eaters

Neither has had any real major health problems, ear infections, ashma, etc

Russell had all her teeth by 1 besides molars and Russell was over one when he got his first.


You can just never anticipate what they will be like.

My3LilMonkeys replied:
I think this is the key here - you absolutely can't! Mine all had some similarities (all good sleepers, all big eaters) and some differences (Brooke was the fussiest, Madison & Bobby both stuck EVERYTHING in their mouths and Brooke never did)

Calimama replied: No sense worrying about it, you can't change the outcome! I'll cross my fingers for an easy baby!

boyohboyohboy replied: I agree with Jen, I think the difference isnt just the kids, its on the second and each one there after you are more comfortable and kinda know more what to expect. the less tense you are the less tense the baby is..

My first one cried a lot, my second was worse, then my third was easier..

mckayleesmom replied: I meant that Mckaylee had all her teeth and Russell didn't get hers till he was over 1.....I need to pay attention when I type.

A&A'smommy replied: both of my babies were awesome, with Autumn she was slightly colicy and we did have some weight issues but everything was fine after a couple of weeks just took her some time to get use to what I was eating but thats not the same for every child. You will be fine and I'm sure baby will be great and I agree I think a lot of the difference is that you are a seasoned mom.. don't let people scare you!!! my babies are different but in great ways not bad and I'm sure the same will be for you!!

Danalana replied: I wouldn't worry about it. Sure, every baby is different in some way, just like all people are different. It doesn't mean that one has to be "bad" or "fussy" and the other is "good" or "content". They just might have different personalities, but that's not a bad thing. Don't worry, this little one will be great!

PrairieMom replied:
oh,,, I don't know, I thought Ben was a hard baby with reflux and constipation issues, then Al was born and showed me what a "bad " baby really was.

They will be individuals, and will each present their own unique challenges. Blessings any way you look at it.

DillsMommy replied: Mine are complete opposites from looks to personalities.
Dylan has always been super content, wonderful sleeper, well-behaved, a little shy, etc. He really only had ear infections as a baby. Other than that he's been healthy. Peyton on the other hand is a HANDFUL to say the least. He didn't start sleeping through the night until he was 10 months old. I can't get him to eat hardly anything. He climbs, puts everything in his mouth, LOVES attention. He's been in the hospital 5 times now with asthma. I could go on and on with how different they are. But that's exactly what I love. They each have their own personalities. Even if your second isn't exactly an "easy" baby you just kinda learn to deal with it. Don't let people's stories scare you. Everything will be just fine.

Kentuckychick replied: I totally agree that it's just the fact that every child is an individual. There will be things that you will say "wow... this is so much different"... some things will be easier, some harder... some will feel so much the same and some will be completely opposite.

With Connor and Caydee it's been a combination of all of the above.

Connor slept through the night at 6 weeks and takes solid daily naps (still can conk for 3 hours at almost age 5)

Caydee slept through the night at around 3 months, but has been a bear about taking naps since she was about that age. It's like pulling teeth to get her to stay in bed for more than an hour.

Connor was walking at nine months, is laid back and easy going and will mostly entertain himself.

Caydee can be uber independent and the sweetest child ever one second and the next she's clingy, whiny and extremely demanding. It's difficult to tell exactly what she wants through the demands and the fussing.

Connor has always been a picky eater... he gags if he gets certain textures and could live on peanut butter and honey sandwhiches alone.

Caydee will try anything and everything and likes most things.

So yeah... they're totally different. But I wouldn't necessarily say that one of them is easier than the other. At meal times Caydee is a breeze. At playtime Connor is. You just learn to deal with the more difficult aspects of each child I guess... and to really appreciate the great qualities of each.

No matter what though, you love them.

And I don't know why, but for some reason I just already thought you knew you were having a boy... lol. Either way though, blue or pink, I'm sending positive happy healthy baby vibes your way!

~Roo'sMama~ replied: Mine were both pretty similar... very contented for the most part and easy to handle, but the way I did things differently with Alison made her an easier baby as far as sleeping goes. Alison was a little colicky, but BFing was easier with her - but then too I think the BFing was really only easier with her because I didn't have flat nipples anymore and my milk supply regulated faster.

Boo&BugsMom replied: Tanner...mild colic, slept well (aside from night terrors as a toddler), ate really well (but is picky now to an extent), was very content, crawled and walked later because he was so content, was very easy to put on a schedule, and was easy going.

Aiden...SUPER colic, content as long as you kept him entertained, never has slept well, is picky about what he eats, crawled and walked early because he didn't want to sit still (still doesn't ), was easy to put on a schedule too but I had to be more persistant, and is very stubborn and not as easy going.

Yeah...totally different, but it's nothing to be scared of. Aiden has his moments, but there are some things that Aiden has over what Tanner had though too...Aiden plays really well by himself which is something Tanner has never really done (likes to be around others a lot all the time). Aiden is also my cuddler. Tanner never really was a cuddler.

luvmykids replied: Colt always was (and still is) super mellow, hardly even cried when he was hungry. Kylie wanted a little more attention but wasn't difficult by any means, they were both GREAT sleepers and eaters from the get go. Macie was a lot like Colt, I wouldn't say they were really different at all. Of course they are all different now, but as babies they were all easy

Crystalina replied: Izabella was an ANGEL!!! No worries. No fuss. She potty-trained HERSELF before her 1st birthday.

Evan.... He had MAJOR colic (he still does). And I really don't think he's potty-trained yet. He still pees on the seat.

I would say hurry up and have your 3rd. Mine is just like my first so far.

Calimama replied:
Before she was 1!?

~Roo'sMama~ replied:
Holy Cow! That's awesome.

Crystalina replied:
Yes!!
It wasn't much before. She turned 1 in April 12 and it was the first week of April that she did it.

I put her potty with all her toys right in the living room and let her run around naked and I made a game of it. At first she just pretended to pee and one time she actually did and she was so excited and happy and so SHOCKED at the same time. After that she just kept doing it when we were at home. She never wore diapers after her first birthday but we did have pull-ups for when we went out. Public toilets she wouldn't even go near!!

Calimama replied:
That is SO cool.

ETA: I asked if Evan was that easy but then I read up. I'm a genius today.

youngmomofone replied: I have heard from others that the 2nd is complete opposite of the 1st and I really am hoping so. MY daughter was a sick baby and toddler. She had ear infections after ear infections. Had RSV at 2 months and had to be hospitalized. She had a fear of doctors since she was about 7 months til about 4. She still hates nurses though. I'm hoping I'll have it easy with the next one .

saintlypan replied: I also heard about the 1st and second child being the complete opposite of each other. Our 1st baby was really hyper, as soon as he was able to crawl, we had to chase him across the room. On the other hand, his little sister was so quiet and was always sleeping. But they were both extremely similar in eating, they eat whatever we put in their spoons (which I am thankful for). And they were also very similar when they had their teeth come out...they were always crying and screaming, even the teether was insufficient.

jem0622 replied: My 2nd was somewhat easier than the 1st. The 1st had a milk protein allergy and I learned by a fluke and once we got past that we were fine. The 1st was my best sleeper as an infant. The 2nd was not. The 3rd and 4th were.

The 2nd far more laid back, content to not be held a lot (and I was busy with 1st to not get overly jealous).