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Kated wrote: Ok guys I am going to be a new mom. My husband and I are going to start trying for our first baby. I want one so bad but Im scared to death. Im reading all this stuff.
Can you guys tell me what to expect?

I am kinda getting that I will feel like crap then feel kinda good then feel like crap again. The main thing I think that scares me the most is actually giving berth. It freaks me out mega bad.

EvesMom replied: Don't be too freaked out. I think everybody fears labor at least a little bit. But Once you hold that baby in your arms, you just forget completely about it. It is so worth it!

mckayleesmom replied: Trust me....by the time you reach 9 months....you want that baby out so bad, you don't care how....

PrairieMom replied: I won't lie, giving birth isn't easy, but it really isn't that bad. Everyone has differnet experieances with it, but Mine wasn't that bad. If it was, noone would have more than one! plus by the time you are full term you are so big and miseralbe you are actually praying for labor!
For me the worst part is the anxiety about the baby. is everything alright in there? ya know? I worry all the time. I'm kinda wound tightly like that tho.
There is a great thread around here somewhere called something like "things I wish I would have known about labor" maybe someone knows where it is?

mysweetpeasWil&Wes replied: Start picking up Parenting magazines and pregnancy books...that helped me get more comfortable with it all and actually made me really excited. Talk to your friends that have kids about their experience...but just remember that everyone's experience is different. No two pregnancies are really alike IMO. So just because your friend had a hard labor, doesn't mean you will. I had a great L&D experience, but like the ladies said above, even with a bad one, as soon as you hold your own child in your arms, all the bad things go out the window instantly!

Kated replied: My problem is I did watch a very bad labor. My niece being born freaked me out the most. Her mom ended up having a c section after a long painfull time trying to sqeeze her out it was so nuts. Even After all that when I got to hold that little baby It was wonderful. I didnt want to put her down. I cant wait to have my own to hold and spoil and teach about horses even though hubby says no horses (too much $$) hahhah......

And to feel the little kicks and movments in your belly must be wonderfull.


Thanks guys. i will read more and I will be hitting the book store this weekend. I want to learn everything I can and be as ready as I can for my future little one.

MyLuvBugs replied:
ITA! About a week later, I was ready to have another baby. Birth isn't anything to fear.

Try reading "The pregnancy book" by Dr. Sears.....And "The Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy" by Vicki Iovine. Both were pretty helpful to me. Good luck.

MyLuvBugs replied:
Oh you have no idea how great it is. At least until the kid kicks you in the ribs or lungs, then not so much. But feeling the movements for the first time, and hearing the heart beat, seeing this little person on the Ultra Sound......it's the coolest thing ever.

C&K*s Mommie replied: Like Ericka said it is totally indescribeable. Also like Tara said, everyone is different, I had easy PG's with both and drug free, mostly low pain births with both. Other than the heat attacks I had with my first (I was the biggest in the hottest months) I cherished it overall. Like every mother here, you just forget about yourself and work towards creating a better place for your child & bigger family. There is such joy in being a mother, it is inexplicable. They drive you , but at the end of the day when you see them sleeping like an angel, all the stress seems to melt away.... that is until the next day! But it is a beautiful feeling to know that you are a mother to someone. GOOD LUCK!

Kated replied: Thank you guys! You are making me feel so much better. I cant wait to teach my son or daughter how to ride a horse and all the other fun things.

luvmykids replied: In the end all my fears about labor were so much worse than the actual labor. And wow, what a reward!

BTW-what kind of riding do you do? Looks like English in your avatar ...

Kated replied: Yes right now I do ride english. Ive doen it all pretty much. I started western then Hunter jumpers then dressage and then driving now I just do pleasure riding with my guy. The 3 year old I broke to saddle does western and english. I want to show him in Hunt seat next month or the month after.

I have to show pix.

CAMSMOM1 replied: to what everyone said. I had a rough L & D. But my son is worth going through that everyday if I had to, just to be able to hold & kiss him. Thank God labor is over and done with in a day, and you have a lifetime of love. Becoming a mother has been the best experience in the world. Sure, there are days that I feel frazzled, but it has truely made me a better person. And I couldn't imagine what life would be like, without my son. He is my biggest motivation and inspiration. There is no love like a mother has for her child. I thank God that he gave me this little person to love and raise as my own.