-You know my kids are almost grown and

TANNER'S MOM wrote: DH and I still feel bad for leaving them..

We are planning on going to dinner and playing pool w/ some friends tonight and DH called and said Tanner didnt want us to go...
He was gonna cancel...

Now I don't REALLY want to go..but I think we need to as a couple. So, I talked to Tanner said I am sorry we going swimming on Sat..but tonight was Parents night..

He is mad and Randy and I feel bad..b/c we work so much you know!


Oh what to do????

gr33n3y3z replied: You better be going out tonight with your hubby

Its hard but kids have to realize Mommy and Daddy need time also

And you all will be going swimming tomorrow so he will get happy.

Have a good time tonight

mommytoconnor replied: Awww I'm sorry. Why doesn't he want you to go? Just because you work alot? Can you maybe tell him that you would spend all day Sunday with him? You and your dh probably need time out to yourselves. Good Luck.

TANNER'S MOM replied: Because I am a freak Mom who hates to leave..and I have really spoiled him.

I feel guilty for doing things away from him..b/c I have to work so many hours away..

My chest is tight w/ the thought of leaving him..

mckayleesmom replied:
I wouldn't cancel either....If you do..then hes got you. He will know that he can whine and he will get his way and you will stay home. Then he will do it every time you go out knowing that it makes you feel bad....HES PLAYING ON YOUR WEAKNESSES........don't look into his eyes

mom21kid2dogs replied: I get this some with Olivia~I suspect because we spend so much time together. She doesn't buy them "Mommy and Daddy need time together" thing so I simply tell her that if mommy and daddy can't do our activity, she won't be able to do hers. Her decision. She never picks giving up her stuff.

gr33n3y3z replied:
Everything will be fine Mel

You and Tanner have that swimming date Saturday.

redchief replied: I think then, that Tanner needs you to go out as much as you and DH need to. Despite his misgivings he'll learn that he can be a great kid even when mom and dad aren't right there!

A&A'smommy replied: Parents need nights out he will get over it.. rent him a movie and get his favorite take out and then go lol that is my parents use to do for us and we would almost want them to go so we could have a favs!

kimberley replied: aww try not to feel bad. kids are forgetful and forgiving. i am sure the second you do something he deems fun, this will all be forgotten. and remember, it is great for him to learn how important it is for you and DH to maintain your marriage

jacobsmama replied: It is sooooo good for your relationship with hubby and with your son for you and DH to go out. Just think of it this way if you 2 are happy and have spent quality time with each other it will improve your relationship which will ultimatley make you all a happier family!!

My2Beauties replied: I agree with everyone - go out with DH tonight. I was sort of upset last night when Brian asked if we could get a babysitter for Hanna tonight, so he could spend time w/ me. I wa slike you haven't seen her, he was like I will get home spend an hour or two with her, she will go to grandma's we will have our time and then she'll come home in the morning, she'll only be up 3 more hours of the night when she leaves! Oh ok since you put it that way, we need our time and he made the clear to me last night, he wants to spend time with me, I ain't gonna turn down a date with DH after this week alone! Go on Mel, go out and have a nice night with DH!

TANNER'S MOM replied: LeaAnn I will if you will

Dh called and he is dropping Tanner off..and then coming by my work. So, I dont have to since it upsets me so much..

Mariam replied:

I say go out with your dh tonight I know when we want some alone time we just tell our daughter she's 11 but still. It's nice to have alone time cause God knows we hardly have it as parents.

Mariam

I hope you all have a lovely time

punkeemunkee'smom replied: Go and HAVE FUN Mel!!!! Tell Tanner that if you and Randy stay home tonight you are going to sit on the couch and watch old movies and kiss in front of the kids! Wish we were closer he could come rope tonight! Tay would love that!

TANNER'S MOM replied: If we kiss infront of the kids ..they do that fake gagging sound..lol

That is a good idea..

TANNER'S MOM replied: Oh and listen to George Jones and Waylon Jennings....lord that hate that..

punkeemunkee'smom replied:
Throw in a little Willie and break out the dancing and they will be begging for you to go on a date!! The older ones might even pay for it!