..Kind of a Weird Question..

Autumn wrote: I'm kind of young (14)..and I watched this t.v. show last night about the Dilley sextuplets and it got me thinking..um i can't believe i'm asking this...but i don't know if i want to have kids ( like waaaaaaay in the future..like in my 20's) cuz i'm afraid it'd hurt sooo much you know? I know I shouldn't be worrying about this already but does it hurt as much as they say it does? I dont want to adopt but I dont want it to like "kill" me? *Autumn*

momof2girls replied: It does hurt but will be worth it when your older.
If it "killed" women would never have more than one.
I had a pretty bad first experience but I did it again
the love you have for your children is wonderful.

xGoldiLocksx replied:
Thanks!! That's kinda what i wanted to hear *Autumn*

A&A'smommy replied: I agree it does hurt I actually had a c-section and I can't say it was pleasent but the first time I saw her I completly amazed by how beautiful she was I think that was all I said when I held her for the first time over and over! Its totally worth it and let me tell you I LOVED being pregnant and being able to share it with my husband it was VERY special.

Mom2Boyz replied: Like the other ladies said, it does hurt, but you forget all about it once you see your brand new baby
I was terrified when I went into labor, but it wasn't nearly as bad as I had expected.

xGoldiLocksx replied: Oh that's great! Thanks so much everyone..all that you said really helped me

Boys r us replied: Let me tell you , it hurts..I was in active labor for over 30 hours with my first son...and I was only 20 with a low tolerance for pain...but the INSTANT I saw Tanner, it all went away..no matter how hard I ever try to recall that pain, I can't...in my opinion, the fact that the memory of the pain is magically wiped away, is all part of the wonder of child birth! In my head, I know it hurt, but as far as having actual memories of the pain..I don't have any..the only thing I can recall is the wonderment of it all!

Autumn replied:
that's good to know! Thanks so much

My2Beauties replied: You know don't everyone get p-o'd at me but I had a wonderful pregnancy and my labor was a piece of cake. My contractions did not hurt (just felt like my stomach muscle were tightening up), I got my epidural when I was like 6 cm. so after that I didn't feel anything until my water broke. The contractions came a bit harder when it broke and I broke a tear but really as soon as that happens you're so ready to push it's almost a relief to push and get it over with. All it really is (if you have an epidural) is a lot of pressure. I know I know you guys can kill me now and get it over with I just had a great first experience. I mean being pregnant isn't the funnest thing in the world (wasn't to me) because you're tired and a little nauseous at first and your back hurts more, you swell, wonderful things such as that, but.....it's over with before you know it and it's all worth it. Oh yeah and also, once it's over you almost can't even remember the pain, it's like you'd do it all over again!

Autumn replied:
what's an epidermal?...i wanna do that the less pain the better *Autumn*

My2Beauties replied:

An epidural is a numbing shot that goes into your back and it numbs the bottom half of your body so you don't feel contractions or the birth, there is just pressure but no pain, when the epidural is done correctly!

Autumn replied:
oh that's great!

**P.S. Your baby is so cute!!

Zoe'sMommaCamie replied: i was as curious as you Autumn, when i was your age

i had a pretty easy pregnancy. i had no morning sickness (thank god) and things went very smoothly. i was in labor for 16 or so hours , and after ppushing for 3 straing hours *ughhhhh* they decided to do a c-section because zoe's head was too big. the pain wasn't bad, and even thought i pushed for what seemed like forever, when i saw her gorgeous face and pretty blue eyes i was instantly in love, and forgot everything i'd do it over and over again!

Autumn replied:
aww thanks thats so sweet

My2Beauties replied: Thanks for the compliment Autumn, Hanna appreciates it, little stinker she knows she's a cutie too!

Alice replied: Hi!

My least painful was Brian... he was adopted from Korea and it was wondeful... I ate and drank whatever I wanted, gained no weight, and enjoyed it thorougly.

Julia HURT. What can I tell you?

Kira wasn't nearly as bad... if all deliveries were that easy, there would be a lot more little babies out there.

I guess my point is: each pregnancy is different. Like you, I'm not a big fan of pain... the fear of a needle used to be paralyzing. But after going through 2 pregnancies and having 3 kids, I'm alot more rational about it. I can even give blood now without it really bothering me (although I CANNOT look while they're doing it!)

So don't let the fear of the pain keep you from having kids. Or, it it really is a big issue, look into adoption... I frequently forget that Brian is adopted for a minute (like when Julia was getting one of her vaccinations, I assumed that she would have a reaction because Brian did... DUH... they're not blood relatives!)

BUT .... here's the mom/teacher in me... DON'T get pregnant now!!! Wait until you're emotionally and financially ready, OK??

Autumn replied:
dont worry! i wont even really consider pregnancy until im much much older

Alice replied: Good, Autum, because I've got to tell you: I waited a LONG time for kids... we adopted Brian when I was 40. And I cherish everyday I have with them. But that means that I had my 20's and 30's to party... a ski house upstate one winter, a beach house one summer, a cruise with some friends another year. But none of that would have been possible with kids. I stop and look at my 22 year old niece who has an adorable 3 year old, and I think: boy, she sure had a short childhood! So don't rush it. Being a mom is the most wonderful thing in the world, but not if it's shadowed by regrets of all the things you never got to do.

I have to hand it to you for asking the questions and for finding a forum in which to ask them. Take care.